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No matter what suggestions I read, when I try to write mine out, it just sounds so boring.
Yeah, I do have stories, etc but I've read that my profile should be no longer than 150 words to describe myself and 100 to describe who I'm looking for.
How do you say anything interesting and enough in that? I guess I should pick out THE most interesting things about me and talk about that?
I think less is more.
Just tell them enough to pique their interest.
Something like: Mid-30's, AA, single female. No children. College grad, love my work, but love to have fun too. On the weekends you can find me at my favorite bookstore, coffee shop or the gym. I'm at church every Sunday. Salsa dancing is just one of my hobbies. I'm a good cook too.
Looking for a nice, Christian gentleman. A romantic with a kind heart. College-educated, mature. 30-40 years old. Only serious inquiries please.
And of course, wow them with a beautiful picture, which for you I'm sure won't be hard to do.
I will add that I've never dated online or written a profile but just thought I'd throw in my two cents.
I like this too but since the profiles include the basic statistical stuff, how would you write it. This seems to fit more with a newspaper personal. The online ones have to indicate your age, race, sex, college etc in a questionnaire form.
Other ideas on how to do a shorter one without the basic statistics?
ITA with whoever said men are not trying to really learn about you.
Just have a cute body pic.
Men are not literary critics when looking for a date.
I agree the picture will reel them in, but after that it really isnt about looks, but because there are other attractive women on there besides hairlove, they do read profiles ...they HAVE to.Although I do get quite a bit of attention from my photos, I do have men tell me they like that I had to say in my profile. They actually read it. And I have gotten compliments on the way I worded it.
I think it does matter.
Hi Hairlove, I think the above post from clarity is really helpful. I wish I could have been more helpful, I just don't have much experience in this area.
I used to work for an online dating company (www.spark.net). This was the number one question lol. I have not read through this entire thread but here are some basic pointers in case they have not already been mentioned...
1. Be detailed/elaborate. Don't just write "I like to travel." Name specific places you have been or want to go. If you like sports, tell which types.
2. But don't write a novel. NO ONE wants to sit and read your life story lol
3. I speak with men on these sites all the time and they do read your profile. Pictures are def. important but men also want to know that you have some depth and intellect (the serious ones do at least) and if there is no description or if you write something really generic they get turned off.
4. Be positive. A big mistake that a lot of online daters make is listing things that they don't want. That is also a turn off, instead list the things you do want.
5. Ask yourself some simple questions, (i.e. are you a morning person or a night owl? what makes you laugh? etc) write down the answers and incorporate that into your profile.
6. Talk about what your plans for the future are. We all want someone who is on the same page/ going in the same direction.
7. HAVE FUN! Don't make it a chore. If you need to step back for a while, then by all means. You don't want to get burnt out. You can always get back into the "game" anytime!
HTH!
ETA: Also avoid talking politics/political orientaion initially...that can get UGLY!
ETAA: Your hair looks FAB! I hate choo!