sunshine91496
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Hi, I rarely post anymore but I couldn't think of a better place to come to get some dating advice.
I have been into one of my male friends for almost four years. We have a close working relationship and opened a small business together, and are just good friends overall. I want to tell him I have feelings for him. I have asked so many people guys and girls and got the panoply of answers from:
1) Tell Him
2) Don't Tell Him, men are supposed to chase so he will pursue you when he is ready.
3) Don't tell him, date other men instead, then he'll be interested,
4) let it go
5) He hasn't asked you out on a date yet, so why do you think he would want to now.
I'm so confused I am not a big dater and have finally after 30 plus years come out of my shell to open myself up again to a relationship after heartbreak, so I don't even know where to start.
I think there is a healthy attraction between us but lately I noticed our conversations have switched completely to business, when we used to talk about everything and anything. We used to flirt etc a lot more, but I guess I was waiting for him and he was waiting for me and neither of us did anything about it- so now we are in the friend and business zone.
I am not worried about messing up the friendship because that would only come up on his end, because I just want a resolution to this issue. If he's not interested, yes I would be disappointed, but then at least I could move on. I have brought it up previously but I could never say it out fully it was always in some half-spoken way ( I guess I wanted him to figure it out) so it was always like some unresolved issue. The thing is our business is about to move forward to the next level, and I KNOW, that I will not be able to sit around and give my all to this if we don't address this issue, I just have this fear of pouring years and years more into this business and then he walks in with a fiancee, kids, wife etc., after all the support I have given, I know I would be devastated, and I promised myself I would never be in a position to feel that way again.
Anyways, what do you ladies think? and How have any of you let your male friends know you were interested? thanks
I have been into one of my male friends for almost four years. We have a close working relationship and opened a small business together, and are just good friends overall. I want to tell him I have feelings for him. I have asked so many people guys and girls and got the panoply of answers from:
1) Tell Him
2) Don't Tell Him, men are supposed to chase so he will pursue you when he is ready.
3) Don't tell him, date other men instead, then he'll be interested,
4) let it go
5) He hasn't asked you out on a date yet, so why do you think he would want to now.
I'm so confused I am not a big dater and have finally after 30 plus years come out of my shell to open myself up again to a relationship after heartbreak, so I don't even know where to start.
I think there is a healthy attraction between us but lately I noticed our conversations have switched completely to business, when we used to talk about everything and anything. We used to flirt etc a lot more, but I guess I was waiting for him and he was waiting for me and neither of us did anything about it- so now we are in the friend and business zone.
I am not worried about messing up the friendship because that would only come up on his end, because I just want a resolution to this issue. If he's not interested, yes I would be disappointed, but then at least I could move on. I have brought it up previously but I could never say it out fully it was always in some half-spoken way ( I guess I wanted him to figure it out) so it was always like some unresolved issue. The thing is our business is about to move forward to the next level, and I KNOW, that I will not be able to sit around and give my all to this if we don't address this issue, I just have this fear of pouring years and years more into this business and then he walks in with a fiancee, kids, wife etc., after all the support I have given, I know I would be devastated, and I promised myself I would never be in a position to feel that way again.
Anyways, what do you ladies think? and How have any of you let your male friends know you were interested? thanks