How do you refrain from...

[butterfly7]

going over and giving hair advice to someone you don't know? There is a lady that works in my building and she always looks really sharp. She dresses very professionally, her make up is always done well, and she looks like she works out perhaps. Her hair is a little past shoulder length but it looks so thin and fragile. It looks sort of greasy too. When I see her, I want to walk over to her and tell her to get in touch with YOU guys. Do y'all ever want to do that?

 

[canuck]

do you talk to her at all? like... cordially? If so, it would be easier to introduce the stuff that way.

if you don't... that could be a bit awkward, not unless you want to 'cultivate convo for a couple of weeks, then introduce her to the site.'

 

[butterfly7]

No. That's it. I don't know her at all. I just see her walking to the parking lot sometimes. We have never exchanged hellos or eye contact even. I just get caught up in wanting the best for everyone. Maybe one day we will happen to meet.

 

[dstdiva]

i would suggest that you start speaking to her. a "good morning" goes a long way or "that's a nice suit". if she doesn't seem snotty or rude, then let it grow from there. if she acts like she can't be bothered, then neither can you. if it goes well, she might even ask you about YOUR hair and that just opens the door.

 

[elliot]

Unless a person solicits me for advice, I never dish it out because I don't want to offend anyone. If the shoe were on the other foot, I probably would be offended.

 

[butterfly7]

Me too. That's why I don't dare say anything to her. I really wasn't planning to. I was just wondering if you all ever saw a woman that even though you knew you never would, you wanted to tell her how much greater she could be (by the head anyway). That's all. I'm not going to approach her at all. I guess I am the only one that ever feels that way. Maybe I AM crazy after all. -smile-

 

[ComfortablyNumb]

No you aren't the only one. I look at people with really unhealthy looking hair and envision myself giving them a trim to get dead ends off and deep conditioning and imagine what their hair would look like. I don't go up to people though.

 

[cheveux]

You're not alone, Butterfly7. A friend of my daughter, who appears to by bi-racial, is adopted. Her hair is 4a/b and as we know, if you don't know about the difference between 4a/b hair and 1 you'll end up with a less than positive outcome. I am forever wanting to give this child's mother a bottle of Creme of Nature, KeraCare Humecto, hot oil treatments, you name it, but I know it's none of my business. Nevertheless, I keep hoping the mother will ask someday. Until then I'll just keep hoping and keep biting my tongue.
Cheveux

 

[ngaa]

elliot i kno wot u mean bout gettin offended and butterfly u can imagine how u'd feel if some1 came up to u dishin out advice lik they were tryna say that yo hair wasnt all that wen she prolly thinks that it is

this girl i kno has had lik 5inch hair for as long as i've known her and yet she NEVER gets trims, and relaxes her hair at the very first site of hair growth and NVER moisturises coz 'white ppl dotn moisturise and yet they hair grows long (

) and she gels her hair down everyday regardless and then she wonders why her hair never grows longer than that but she's the snobby type