How do you keep your relationship 'fresh'?
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naturalgyrl5199
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--My husband likes when I flirt and boost his ego. This is a big deal for me because I wasn't always about going out my way making him feel like the man. But I see the effect of it on him, so it works.
--If I have time I'll send a random "skin shot"...of something....legs, cleavage, etc.
--Write a love note
--Buy a random treat (he loves gummy worms) so if I buy some every once in a while he feels so special....IDK I guess men like the little things too.
--Grab his butt in public (but not in an embarrassing way,like in front of a bunch of people), but he's kind of shy so its part of the flirting....
--Initiate...once again against my nature...So used to being chased....But men like being chased too.....so I initiate....But men don't play hard to get...they give in pretty quick.
--If I have time I'll send a random "skin shot"...of something....legs, cleavage, etc.
--Write a love note
--Buy a random treat (he loves gummy worms) so if I buy some every once in a while he feels so special....IDK I guess men like the little things too.
--Grab his butt in public (but not in an embarrassing way,like in front of a bunch of people), but he's kind of shy so its part of the flirting....
--Initiate...once again against my nature...So used to being chased....But men like being chased too.....so I initiate....But men don't play hard to get...they give in pretty quick.
CarLiTa
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My ex and I had a spreadsheet (we are nerds) of activities and experiences we wanted to share. We organized and color-coded everything
We would get get excited at the thought of doing those things and crossing them off our list. It was really sweet. Even if something wasn't on the list, sometimes we'd do something fun and run back to the list and add it there.
The list still exists... I'm the "planner" of the two of us, so I added a lot of things on there. Those are still things I want to do in my life.
We made up words (nerrrrds, lol) and it was nice to say certain things to each other in public that no one else would understand
We were actually super duper involved in each other's lives... sometimes it was annoying, because I am more of a loner than he is, but overall it showed a very deep level of care for one another. We'd read books together, watch stuff together, share articles, random stuff.
But anyway, having that list was always a reminder of the things to come. And of course, we'd project out many years later. Like, the list has that we will go somewhere in 2014-- and we felt no weirdness about putting such dates on there, which feels even sweeter now than back then.
We would get get excited at the thought of doing those things and crossing them off our list. It was really sweet. Even if something wasn't on the list, sometimes we'd do something fun and run back to the list and add it there.
The list still exists... I'm the "planner" of the two of us, so I added a lot of things on there. Those are still things I want to do in my life.
We made up words (nerrrrds, lol) and it was nice to say certain things to each other in public that no one else would understand
We were actually super duper involved in each other's lives... sometimes it was annoying, because I am more of a loner than he is, but overall it showed a very deep level of care for one another. We'd read books together, watch stuff together, share articles, random stuff.
But anyway, having that list was always a reminder of the things to come. And of course, we'd project out many years later. Like, the list has that we will go somewhere in 2014-- and we felt no weirdness about putting such dates on there, which feels even sweeter now than back then.
nappystorm
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Personally, I think in LT relationships, it would do both parties good to accept there will be alot of "not so fresh" periods.
Starronda
At the start of BSL! Patiently waiting for full❤️
We keep it fresh by:
Having date nights
Doing little "just because" things for each other
Sexy text messages when we're apart
Keeping fit and healthy for one another
Always sharing how much we care for each other
Exploring different "coloring" avenues *whether different positions, places or role playing*
Having date nights
Doing little "just because" things for each other
Sexy text messages when we're apart
Keeping fit and healthy for one another
Always sharing how much we care for each other
Exploring different "coloring" avenues *whether different positions, places or role playing*
PopLife
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My ex and I had a spreadsheet (we are nerds) of activities and experiences we wanted to share. We organized and color-coded everything
We would get get excited at the thought of doing those things and crossing them off our list. It was really sweet. Even if something wasn't on the list, sometimes we'd do something fun and run back to the list and add it there.
The list still exists... I'm the "planner" of the two of us, so I added a lot of things on there. Those are still things I want to do in my life.
We made up words (nerrrrds, lol) and it was nice to say certain things to each other in public that no one else would understand
We were actually super duper involved in each other's lives... sometimes it was annoying, because I am more of a loner than he is, but overall it showed a very deep level of care for one another. We'd read books together, watch stuff together, share articles, random stuff.
But anyway, having that list was always a reminder of the things to come. And of course, we'd project out many years later. Like, the list has that we will go somewhere in 2014-- and we felt no weirdness about putting such dates on there, which feels even sweeter now than back then.
I keep a spreadsheet too...makes it so much easier to find stuff to do & places to go with your SO when you can't think of anything off the top of your head.
We plan trips far in advance too.