How do you get over something...

[phynestone]

that happened a while back. People keep bringing up something that I went through a couple months back every once in a while and every time I talk about it, I get really upset. Not to the point to where I'm yelling at folks, but my heart hurts inside and I know I'm not truly over it. It involves a couple of people I attend school with and although I'm polite and say hello when I see them, I do not try to initiate small talk or go out of my way to hang out with them. Yes, I continue to pray for myself and the others involved, but I don't know. I'm leaving a few weeks and thought I wouldn't have to see these folks again, but I just learned that one of the girls has a mother who works with my mom. Small world, isn't it.

 

[BlkHoneyLuv2U]

You have the answer in your siggy.

Keep your eyes on the prize. Surround yourself with people that are going to take you higher. I am the master of my fate.

I dont know what you have gone through but keep in mind that you survived it. You're still standing. Hurt dosent go away overnight if its something that was special to you. but believe me, each day it gets easier. Just pray and ask God to give you the strength you need day by day. Voice of experience here.

 

[Supergirl]

You say it's only been a couple of months? If it was something as hurtful as you implied, then give yourself time. Most people need more than a couple of months to get over a big hurt, okay. Give yourself time, babe.

 

[DDHair]

The longer you hold on to the hurt, the longer you will feel the pain. When you decide that okay, that happened and move on from it and know in your heart of hearts that you are going to try your best to not go there again, then you can set yourself free. Face the truth, face the facts that you were dealing with at the time, understand what may have happened, ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself. If the people involved or others continue to hold on to it, understand that they just may, but when you have made up in your mind that you are done with it and you won't let that effect you in the same exact way the rest of your life, then it won't matter what they say, because you know you, you control you and what other people think once you have changed is old news, UNLESS you decide to go back there again. But like Supergirl said, give it some time. Time heals wounds, big and small. Remember, like Pastor Rickey Rush of IBOC in Dallas, TX says, "The Bumps are What you Use to Climb On," so when your life gets hard or when you have even thrown darts in your own way, just climb on top of those bad boys and get to the place where you belong.

 

[phynestone]

The longer you hold on to the hurt, the longer you will feel the pain. When you decide that okay, that happened and move on from it and know in your heart of hearts that you are going to try your best to not go there again, then you can set yourself free. Face the truth, face the facts that you were dealing with at the time, understand what may have happened, ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself. If the people involved or others continue to hold on to it, understand that they just may, but when you have made up in your mind that you are done with it and you won't let that effect you in the same exact way the rest of your life, then it won't matter what they say, because you know you, you control you and what other people think once you have changed is old news, UNLESS you decide to go back there again. But like Supergirl said, give it some time. Time heals wounds, big and small. Remember, like Pastor Rickey Rush of IBOC in Dallas, TX says, "The Bumps are What you Use to Climb On," so when your life gets hard or when you have even thrown darts in your own way, just climb on top of those bad boys and get to the place where you belong.

I keep hearing about him on the radio. I'll have to attend one of his services one day.