How do you get a momma s boy on your side?

Kindheart

Kindheart

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How the heck do you get your OH /DH to be more loyal to you than to his mom ,I really need to know.
 
This is one problem I am so glad I dont have. I imagine that would be very hard. I have never seen someone change from that. Mommy had their entire life up until they met you to exert her influence.
 
Makes me wonder why these kind of men marry in the first place when their Mother always comes first.
 
I know someone who's relationship is going down down down because [according to her] the mother gets in his head. Gets in all her sons heads...
I don't get it...
 
You can't. It's too deeply instilled in them to be on mom's side when it comes to everything. It's deeply rooted...and the roots have been growing too long.
 
Why try if you married him thats what you got the best thing to do it try to get in good with the mama and your problems will be less but it ain't gonna happen a mama;s boy is a mama boy's
 
You can't.........:look: :look:



Sorry......:ohwell: I've just never seen it happen.....




That's why I don't even waste my time with pure bonafide "Momma's boys"........:hand: :nono: :look:
 
Oh..it can be done. And you already have all the necessary equipment..:drunk:

The problem is mama's boys have to have a mama and you will become that surrogate. I went through this in my 20s and when he finally extricated himself from her clutches he latched on to me like a t*ttie baby.

Giving him what should have been his own thoughts and opinions became old real quick. Sent him packing back to his mama.
 
You don't. You can't with a mama's boy when it comes to relationships she is the one who rules and makes or breaks it. Sad but IMHO true.
 
I don't ever come in relationship but I had to for this one :lol:

Don't bother...

There are varying levels of momma boys, some worse than others but like Eliza said, it all boils down to having a mind of your own...its not the momma you want on your side, she can die, or yall can move, you have to sleep with the 'boy', you would much rather the son grow a pair, and even that is a waste of time :lol:

If he has long money, you may cope...if he is average it gets old quick.
 
you can't... The bottom line is at some point HE is going to have to choose between you and his mama. Just gotta be prepared to act on whatever HIS decision is.
 
Yeah not much you can do unless he is ready to cut the cord.

On another note, what is wrong with these mothers? I have heard quite a few mother's brag about how they control their sons. How is that anything to be proud of?
 
The last guy i dated 'bragged' that his mum used to call him (and still does on occassion) her Handbag.......a woman is never without her handbag.....

Weird, just weird and creepy to describe your son like that.
 
You can't change man. You married him that way and you knew the deal.

If momma is manless, try to get her a man that way she will focus on her "old man" instead of your old man. In the end you are still fighting a losing battle.

I hope you don't take the follow question as being snarky, but why would you marry a momma's boy? Just curious.
 
There is nothing you can do. In fact trying may lead to bitterness and resentment because he will (with her help) see you as the enemy. These types of mothers are insecure and selfish and the types of homes these men are raised in are dysfunctional. This is not to say they can't change. They can. But it is up to them how and when that will happen. Most often it takes some sort of catastrophic event or time spent away observing normal family interactions. There has to be something that allows the light to come on, where he realizes his relationship with his mother is abnormal. Let's just say I feel for my brothers' future wives.
 
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