How do you break up with men?

[AstroQueen77]

Do you start dropping hints beforehand to soften the blow, or do you just up and say it? This is if there are no major problems, your just not feeling him anymore or he wants more than you can give.

 

[Renewed1]

Depends....how long I've been with the person. If the relationship is relatively new, I'll just break up with them.

hmmm.....but then again in my last relationship, I didn't discuss anything I just said I'M DONE!! and hung up the phone.

 

[DarkHair]

I don't call or make any type of communication anymore.

 

[Duchesse]

I've never been in a real relationship type of relationship, but when breaking out of sitchations' I find myself in, I usually just say that I need to focus on myself right now and can't deal with any extra distractions (chile, I should be a work of perfection by now going on how many times I've been 'working on myself'). I do the gradual distance thing first, and then the whole it's not you it's me talk.

Honestly though, I don't think this is a nice thing to do to someone (gradually distancing without explanations). I think it's best to be direct in a nice manner and tell the person upfront what is going on. Especially if there are no major problems, you can end this amicably and with less hurt feelings.

 

[Duchesse]

I don't call or make any type of communication anymore.

me too, but I'm trying not to do this anymore. I had someone do this to me once and I was like dag, karma is a B. I realized how insensitive it is to drop off the face of the planet.

 

[AstroQueen77]

yeah, I have too much of a heart to do that gradual distance thing...but I don't want that do that awkward talk either....

 

[Theo]

Woman up and be honest and tell them. Yes, its going to be awkward, but out of respect for your relationship and the time you've spent with them, its the least you could do.

I have had people fall off the face of the earth. Being on the receiving side of it is not fun, and I hope you wouldn't put someone through that.

 

[CandiedLipgloss]

If it was a long and real relationship, I'm honest and tell them, and basically say its over. Nothing further needs to be said.

If its someone I'm just dating, or talking to. I either stop all communication, or tell them 'based on the conversations we had and or negativity involved, I think it's best if we move on, wish you luck on your quest for love.'

 

[gabulldawg]

It's very immature to just stop taking someone's calls/messages as a way to "break up" with them. It hasn't happened to me, but I have heard about it second-hand from others and it's whack. erplexed Just tell the person it's not working out. You don't have to explain if you don't want to. It doesn't have to be a long, drawn-out conversation. If you prefer to do it over the phone that is fine. IMO it's not necessary to have to talk in person. If you tell him and he doesn't get it then I think it's fine to ignore messages/calls.