MsLauren
Okay, I get you
When I referred to a "goal length" I didn't mean long-term. I was talking about transitioning until a certain length, like "long enough to make a puff, long enough to make a ponytail, long enough to bun" etc.
Most re-relaxing happens when people didn't transition long enough to be able to wear the styles they enjoy, IMO.
Well my goal length was just long enough to make into a bun. But I wear wigs 75% of the time so even if I was to big chop earlier than expected I would wear wigs/braids/weaves to get through that "awkward" stage
I knew I was ready when I had no more attachment to the relaxed hair. I didn't even see the relaxed hair as my hair anymore. It was just a nuisance and keeping me from what I actually wanted. My natural hair was also coming through at full force and made my relaxed hair look so ugly in comparison. I was going to go 18 months but im glad I didn't wait any longer than I did. I got to learn my hair when it was still relatively short. And watching it grow out has been fun. Because of shrinkage I basically got to see what short hair looked on me. I dont even like short hair. But because it was all natural and mine, I was in love with it. I had not only made a physical transition but a mental one as well. And thats how i knew i was ready.
MsLauren
If you have to ask, you're not quite ready
I haven't chopped yet, because I set a goal of letting my natural hair grow to full BSL/MBL - and I won't reach that goal for another 8 months, or so.
Did you have a goal length in mind when you decided to go natural?