It is, even if you know it will never amount to anything.Mhm
So nothing he's ever done that made you really have to sit and seriously reconsider staying with him?
I mean like he starting to pull away.
Calls not answered or calls back hours later
Stops spending time with you.
...Like that stuff lol
Lol @ lauryn its always easier when another guy comes along.
Mhm
So nothing he's ever done that made you really have to sit and seriously reconsider staying with him?
I mean like he starting to pull away.
Calls not answered or calls back hours later
Stops spending time with you.
...Like that stuff lol
Lol @ lauryn its always easier when another guy comes along.
Mhm
So nothing he's ever done that made you really have to sit and seriously reconsider staying with him?
I mean like he starting to pull away.
Calls not answered or calls back hours later
Stops spending time with you.
...Like that stuff lol
Lol @ lauryn its always easier when another guy comes along.
From what I understand, it is normal at the beginning of a relationship for a guy to have second thoughts and start pulling away... but he should come back sooner rather than later.
I'd say to wait for a minute before doing anything hasty, but be watchful and be prepared for the fact that you might be needing to make your exit as well. I would NOT ask him what's wrong, start getting angry and telling him that he's changed or any of those things that it's so tempting to do.
Just act cool, act like you don't care that he's been acting shady and do your thing. If he's the right guy for you, he'll come back around... and if not... NEXT!
I would agree with that....except I would/did ask..he just didn't want to tell me what was wrong with him at that point...so he pulled away and I let him do him even though in my heart I knew it wasn't over...there really is no need to fight or lash out at him....I kept it movin, met other people and he popped back up told me what was wrong with him and it it went from there up until it couldnt go anymore...
Um... would be 3 years in April.
i honestly believe he wants to go out and have fun.
we used to be together almost every day bysides work and school.
He met this new friend, this guy and ever since then its like he found the brother he never had!!
he doesnt wanna hang out with me anymore.
Barely calls...if so its less than 2 minutes literally.
because of this we fought alot and he just like shut down.
and i feel like no matter what I cant force him to be ready to stop playing and settle back down. So i'm gonna let this caged bird fly...
i just dont know how long i will sit here and wait for him to go back to how we were.
H NO he is not ghey.
how do you know he is not gay or bi..or whatever??
its more common than u think relationships between guys, esp when they seem closer than close and that is definitely one I would question him about and him shutting down and arguing with me over another dude wouldn't help me with not ponder it def could be something more
however either way...he's acting funny and if you feel you are worth more than that let him go.....no need to fight and try to force somebody to be a certain way
and to the bolded
this will cause you alot of heartache
clinging to the past and how things USED to be...
esp when something has "changed'
if n e thing you would be better off wanting things in the future to get better not back
however the best thing would be to live in the present and each present moment you want to be experiencing good things....
living in the past or the future stops you from living in the present, esp if the present sucks.....do something to change it..you cant change him or make him do n e thing he doesnt want to do, so all you can do is change your own surroundings and situations and be open to invite in others who want to share in your world with you
its really hard to let go of somebody and all of the things that sound "good" are always way easier said than done ....... but you have to figure out whats best for you
I agree. My best friend told me YEARS ago, when I was going nuts over this guy who basically dumped me without telling me (he just kinda stopped coming around and calling, but wanted to leave that door open just in case, ya know... I was literallly sick: crying daily, standing in the shower with the red light because I didn't want to see how I really looked, losing almost 30lbs. and was driving by not his house, but by his mother's trailer park (yeah I went there). She said, "Girl go through what you gotta go through. When YOU'VE had enough, that'll be it." I did get tired pretty quickly after that advice.Well in my situation I was with someone for several years, he did sooo much dirt and i stayed, for some reason I always forgave him b/c i never felt like I was ready then one day I woke up and realized my worth and walked away and never looked back! Its hard to explain its just something with in. No matter how hard things get you wont leave until your ready!
I agree. My best friend told me YEARS ago, when I was going nuts over this guy who basically dumped me without telling me (he just kinda stopped coming around and calling, but wanted to leave that door open just in case, ya know... I was literallly sick: crying daily, standing in the shower with the red light because I didn't want to see how I really looked, losing almost 30lbs. and was driving by not his house, but by his mother's trailer park (yeah I went there). She said, "Girl go through what you gotta go through. When YOU'VE had enough, that'll be it." I did get tired pretty quickly after that advice.
In the meantime, tell yourself you're beautiful inside and out even if you don't believe it at first (Can we say self-fullfilling phophecy?). I used this technique to convince myself that I LOVE teaching middle school kids and guess what I DO! I'm grateful everyday for my career and I love all my kids, even the crazy ones. Treat yourself right and get plenty of excercise and good nutrients (your body will thank you).
Once you do this one of two things will happen, he'll see how great you're looking and feeling and appreciate you or YOU'LL KICK HIS A** TO THE CURB (if they still say that) and get a real prince of your dreams.
As long as he's not laying hands or talking crazy to you, you have to wiegh it all out.
Good Luck and Pray Hard.
I LOVE the advice you give tiara. Just wanted to let you knownever feel like time has been wasted
however much time is taken is exactly how much time is needed for whatever whatever reason, person or situation one may find themselves in
How did you know that it was time to make your exit?
What signs did he give you that let you know or whatever the case maybe.
Im in a situation and i wont speak on it yet because i am not ready to and i wont until i know 100%.
So please Ladies share with me...
Um... would be 3 years in April.
i honestly believe he wants to go out and have fun.
we used to be together almost every day bysides work and school.
He met this new friend, this guy and ever since then its like he found the brother he never had!!
he doesnt wanna hang out with me anymore.
Barely calls...if so its less than 2 minutes literally.
because of this we fought alot and he just like shut down.
and i feel like no matter what I cant force him to be ready to stop playing and settle back down. So i'm gonna let this caged bird fly...
I tried to talk to him, if i do he lashes out. yells and hangs up! and its always me callin back....
YES SAD I KNOW.
i just dont know how long i will sit here and wait for him to go back to how we were.
H NO he is not ghey.
never feel like time has been wasted
however much time is taken is exactly how much time is needed for whatever whatever reason, person or situation one may find themselves in
never feel like time has been wasted
however much time is taken is exactly how much time is needed for whatever whatever reason, person or situation one may find themselves in