How can I approach this...Kinda Long!

[blac_quarian]

OK, I have a dear Aunt who is like a mother to me. She has always had APL, thick, 4B relaxed, perm.colored blond hair. She saw a stylist religiously every 2 weeks in NJ for 15+ years. Last year she relocated to Fla and ever since then I have witnessed her hair break and thin to the extent that it is now ear length when curled. You see, she doesn't have a stylist (and isn't looking for one either) and is relying on a relative to maintain her hair. It's not working. My question is, how do I advise her on some of the great tips I have discovered on LHCF? I know that her hair is a very sensitive issue right now and I don't want to seem "preachy". How does one approach a mature lady who has NEVER handled her own hair and is completely dependent on professionals? I just can't see her co-washing or roller setting! I don't even think she owns shampoo! The only hair product I have seen in her position is spray oil sheen.

Where do I begin or should I not say anything. I KNOW her hair can grow back... I feel bad, 'cos I do so love my aunty and her hair was so nice for so long.

 

[Demi27]

I would start out by having a regular conversation with her like, "Hey auntie. I really liked your hair the length it was before. Do you think you'll grow it long again?" If you start out that way, that should open the door to further conversation. That way, you give her the impression that you thought it was her choice to have shorter hair. If addressed like that, she (hopefully) should not become offended. Then when the lines of communication are open, you can share some of your info.
Just my opinion. Good luck

 

[Catina72]

I don't know how close you live in relation to your Aunt but, you could volunteer to help her take care of her hair! Since she has always had someone else do it for her, why couldn't you help her out with some TLC? I know my grandmother loves me to "play" in her 2a hair (YES 2A!!) so maybe your Aunt would see this as something nice.