Honest Question that needs honest answers..........

StarScream35

StarScream35

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Is being in a relationship a heck of a lot better than dating? I've even heard gay men lamenting about the fact that they hate dating. I'd like to hear what yall have to say.
 
It depends on who you get in a relationship with. If your relationship is very open, honest, loving, and drama free then I'll take a relationship over dating any day.
 
For me YES. Even being in a boring or mediocre relationship was better than dating. Maybe if I was in my 20s it would be different. It was more fun when I was twenty. Now I just don't feel like being bothered.

A month of dating is all I can take. My dating life was full of lieing men, two-timers, no shows, boring conversations, cheapskates, adorers, people pleasers, etc. :nono:

I have spent most of my life single and not dating.

I am not including abusive or dysfunctional relationships. Those should be left as soon as its safe to do so.
 
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Yes, I prefer a relationship than test drives even with the headaches. Although dating serves its purpose. You get to know what and who you don't like a lot quicker than if you don't have dating experience. I like to be close with someone and like predictability.

Like others have said, if you're not in a good relationship then... :(
 
faithVA said:
For me YES. Even being in a boring or mediocre relationship was better than dating. Maybe if I was in my 20s it would be different. It was more fun when I was twenty. Now I just don't feel like being bothered.

A month of dating is all I can take. My dating life was full of lieing men, two-timers, no shows, boring conversations, cheapskates, adorers, people pleasers, etc. :nono:

I have spent most of my life single and not dating.

I am not including abusive or dysfunctional relationships. Those should be left as soon as its safe to do so.
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To the bolded...........I had to do a double take because I thought I had typed that..........LOL! I thought it was just me who met crazy arse men like this. Yes you are right, in your 20's it was fun. In your 30's it's like a menstrual cramp gone way wrong!
 
I will be honest, I sometimes dream about swapping my relationship for an exciting dating life. My relationship is very good but dare I say, predictable. Been together for 5 years now. I don't know what is wrong with me. Both of my gorgeous sisters are single but their dating life is not really exciting so I don't know why I think mine will be.
 
in the words of charlotte york: "i've been dating since i was 15! where is he?" and i'd like to add "damnit!"
 
When SO is being especially annoying as heck I sometimes miss being single and dating but then again that exposed me to different situations and more than one annoying guy. lol

It has it's plus and minuses but I like to be in a relationship more than dating.
 
Brighteyes35 said:
To the bolded...........I had to do a double take because I thought I had typed that..........LOL! I thought it was just me who met crazy arse men like this. Yes you are right, in your 20's it was fun. In your 30's it's like a menstrual cramp gone way wrong!
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I've had dates worse than menstrual cramps :lol: And I've had some baaaad cramps.
 
i prefer being in a relationship.

i had a lot of fun with online dating though.
 
I dont think being in a relationship is better than being single, i just think its different. I prefer being in one due to the natural desire for companionship, but if it wernt for that i doubt i would lose sleep.
 
Dating is fun in the short run. You must constantly be up on your A game and be able to discern lies and fakes.
 
Lurkee

Maybe it's the monotony of things. Kinda like a good job. You wanted it, got it, been on it for a while now you are kinda tired and want something new or more exciting. Dare I not say, the grass ain't greener on the other side..............trust me sis.The quality of men will make you wanna puke! But then like faithVA and I said, in your 20's it can be fun but honey, when you get in your 30's.........it's like Nightmare on Elm Street!
 
Brighteyes35 said:
Lurkee

Maybe it's the monotony of things. Kinda like a good job. You wanted it, got it, been on it for a while now you are kinda tired and want something new or more exciting. Dare I not say, the grass ain't greener on the other side..............trust me sis.The quality of men will make you wanna puke! But then like faithVA and I said, in your 20's it can be fun but honey, when you get in your 30's.........it's like Nightmare on Elm Street!
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Brighteyes35, funny thing I was ranting about being bored to a friend that just broke up with her a-hole boyfriend and she said the same thing. Looking back, not very sensitive of me. I think I need to shut the hell up before I ruin something good over being bored. Sigh.

You see I am not bored with him, I am bored that I have only dated one person ever. First boyfriend and then he had to turn out perfect.
 
I despise dating so being in a relationship is definitely better. But some ladies tend to have wonderful dating experiences. My friend sad she loved dating. Pretteeplease seems to have a fun/interesting dating life. But as for me :nono:
 
Well, I used to be a serial dater! Ooo, I loved single. lol And I absolutely loved dating. Good time, good food, and if he wasn't a good match, I just moved on.
Then I met SO. Its going to be 4 years soon. LOL
 
Lurkee said:
@Brighteyes35, funny thing I was ranting about being bored to a friend that just broke up with her a-hole boyfriend and she said the same thing. Looking back, not very sensitive of me. I think I need to shut the hell up before I ruin something good over being bored. Sigh.

You see I am not bored with him, I am bored that I have only dated one person ever. First boyfriend and then he had to turn out perfect.
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Lurkee
I'll trade spots with ya!!! :grin:
 
Yup to me it is...but I only really know about long term relationships. I never did much dating. My first boyfriend was a 4 year relationship...my first engagement was a 5 yr relationship and my last relationship just before dh was a 10 yr relationship. My mom used to complain that I didnt let myself experience life cus I was always holed up in some lt relationship. But that was always how I liked it.
 
I had so much typed out, then lost it :wallbash:

But I'll just say, that even though I'm in a LDR currently, it's still better than dating. It's fun in your 20's and all, but in your 30's, that game has long ceased to be fun, unless you're dating guys who would ALL be potentially good mates and that would be rare. In a relationship, you may be dealing with one big pain, but with dating it's like 1,000 tiny paper cuts wearing you down, LOL. The lack of quality of men these days makes dating more annoying than fun, so yes, I'll take a relationship. This is coming from someone who LOVES her freedom. I just don't want to deal with the quality of men and that's just the beginning. The process of dating with a purpose has gotten harder and you have to be more discriminating and more investigating. I prefer someone who already has some of my interests already.
 
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