Hmm, How Do I Put This...

[1Aleeesha]

I don't want to call my DH, boring...But he's not exactly fun either. Now, this type of male persona has it's Pro's and Con's.

Let's weigh...

The Pro's:
*His whearabouts never unknown - cause he's always in the house lol.
*I can easily keep up with him when I'm not feeling well or later in pregnancy months when I'm feeling too lazy to have much fun anyway.
*Laid back is cool - sometimes I guess, but to me not all the time because I still know how to get bored.

The Con's:
*I am more often bored and want to have fun than not... LIke at the end of the week, just one day. Not like going out partying or anything, just I dunno, anything out of the ordinary every once in awhile will do.
*He can stay in the house 7 days a week and read books, get online, cook, etc... I need to get out at least once a week and do things together.

Every once in awhile we do dinner (pick up something from a restuarant) and a movie (in the house). We plan at the end of the month to celebrate my next level of acheivement with my business by taking the kids over a relatives house and going to a nice dinner and hotel (just to be away) with some AVON lingere, candles and such... Which will be the first time we've done something like that since we got married, 7yrs ago LOL. It's like I woke up one day and was like, wait... On anniversaries aren't you supposed to do something different than you normally do?

So, anyone else have a man like this? I like to refer to him as a homebody. I'm a homebody too, but he's got even me beat!

 

[chicacanella]

Wow, maybe you can start doing just somethin twice a month and slowly ease him into it.

 

[scorpio70]

Do you have other married girlfriends that you can do stuff with? He's probably not going to change and you're going to get tired of always initiating stuff to do. So, a safe bet would be to do stuff with your girls to get the occasional excitement that you want.

 

[~~HoneyComb~~]

Many would consider my DH boring. Like yours he:

Goes to work and come home
Is content staying home playing games with DD or watching movies with me, or just talking.
Rarely hangs out with his guy friends because he loves being with his family.

I really love this about him and it's one of the reasons I married him because I am a homebody too. I love being home with my family, and love doing most things with them.

In your case you might have to take the inititive and suggest things that you two can do together to get out of the house more. I'm sure he'll be up to it, he just needs motivating and might not be creative enough to come up with suggestions of his own.

Be glad that you know his whereabouts and that he's content being home with his sweetie. There are women that complain that their DH is not home enough

 

[Tee]

Let him know how you feel and start planning 'marriage' days just for the two of you. I am married to somewhat of a homebody; but we get out and have fun!! What is he into? If it is something you like, plan some of those activities together. Introduce him to new activities. Sounds like you have a good man. Now get him active! He will be amazed at how much fun he can once he get.....Going!!!

 

[MrJohnsonsRib]

Hmm, well maybe you could ask him if he'd like to go to get a bite to eat. Make sure you call it that- Don't dress up wear sweats, make it a comfy time and just get him into the "outside air" ,he may like it. Then slowly make the meetings more "formal" til you find yourselves at a jazz club lookin snazzy and sippin your favorite champagne or wine- if you like that sorta stuff. If you have a stubborn hubby like me- just barge in the room and say "Baby! How come we never do nothin?" I wanna go to a dinner and a movie. The car's running and the movie starts in 20 minutes"...lol I'm just teasing. If he's easy to talk to then try that out. He may agree to doing something you like. Sometimes we have not b/c we ask not.

 

[JustKiya]

It sounds like he doesn't mind being invited out - if you are the more social one, you'll also have to be the one to initiate 'outings'. You want to go out once a week? Let him know that, and start off looking up stuff/places/events you would want to go to, and go out!

I'm the same way - DH knows that if he wants to go out, he has to let me know a couple of days in advance so that I can mentally prepare myself - I love my house! :lol He's a homebody too, but like you, he's a heck of a lot less homebodyish than his partner.

 

[1Aleeesha]

That's IT!
Marriage Days... That sounds about like what we need... I mean we totally enjoy being with our kids and such, but I'm ready for their butts to go to bed more quickly than he is - so it can just be us before it's too late to spend the evening together and still wake up early enough to take care of them.

Ya see, we are Fulltime parents so we ALWAYS have our kids staring down our throats, we can't hold any conversations that way... And all of our kids are under age 5 - They NEVER want to let us hold a conversation everyone is screaming "look at me" lol.

So when we do want to be alone, we get a sitter... Which is fine... So yeah that would work, just plan a sitter at the end of the week and do us. He knows I need to do something different everyone once in awhile but I see now that I'm going to have to be the "creative" one... He thinks reading and watching the Discovery channel is FUN I don't mind watching the Discovery chanel and Animal Planet...Or reading books as I do read at least once book a month at minimum... But not my definition of FUN lol.

Ok thanks ladies.

 

[Jas123]

Many would consider my DH boring. Like yours he:

Goes to work and come home
Is content staying home playing games with DD or watching movies with me, or just talking.
Rarely hangs out with his guy friends because he loves being with his family.

I really love this about him and it's one of the reasons I married him because I am a homebody too. I love being home with my family, and love doing most things with them.

In your case you might have to take the inititive and suggest things that you two can do together to get out of the house more. I'm sure he'll be up to it, he just needs motivating and might not be creative enough to come up with suggestions of his own.

Be glad that you know his whereabouts and that he's content being home with his sweetie. There are women that complain that their DH is not home enough

this is my dream husband... i see all pros and no cons with this type of man

 

[1Aleeesha]

this is my dream husband... i see all pros and no cons with this type of man

Yeah I agree...Maybe those aren't cons, we just need to spend more alone time together... I love my husband very much.

Hope you find your dream hubby.