Just make sure it's well moisturized in the morning and at night and don't worry about it shining etc. cause you might do more damage if she senses anyone thinks something is "wrong" with her hair.
And PLEASE...if you're going to relax it...don't put a relaxer in that child's hair until she starts menses and her hair has matured.
Oh, I definitely was NOT even thinking about relaxing. My problem with her hair is that it doesn't keep moisture. Maybe it's the products that I'm using. And when I speak about shine what I'm referring to is that I will oil (not grease) her hair and it will look like I didn't do anything with her hair that day. I love my daughter's hair. She was sporting an afro at church this weekend and looking mighty cute.
Monique