C@ssandr@
formerly known as "keyawarren"
Ladies I need some guidance. I originally posted this in one of the threads, but I felt maybe this should be its own post....for a myriad of reasons. I'm not sure if much background is necessary, but here's what I know (and need help with![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
So an older relative of mine could use some help. Her husband is ill so some family members including myself have been on high alert because she is not sure he has her "covered". Does any one know how she can find out what benefits she is entitled to in the case he crosses over sooner than expected? She is financially dependent on him and of course he is a cheapskate. Smh. The husband is not forthcoming about this stuff so I suggested that she look through some documents in his room while he's out (yes, they sleep in separate rooms) but that's all I could suggest since I'm not sure what she should look for. Here's his stats:
- Over 70 years old
- Formerly married and divorced
- All his kids are over 30
- The two in question have no kids together
- Not sure if he has a will (he hasn't mentioned one)
- Is a veteran
- Also a state employee retiree
- They are renting and do not own any property together.
- She has tried asking him directly but he is not forthcoming.
- I don't think it's all malice, I wholeheartedly believe that he just has some marbles missing...but not enough to get him committed or anything.
- She does not have access to his accounts nor do they have any joint banking accounts together
- She gets a weekly allowance
I'm wondering if she should maybe consult with a lawyer just to pick their brain (which I'd happily pitch in for)?
Anyway, I welcome any resources or input you could point me / her to. Thanks y'all![Heart3 :heart3: :heart3:](/smilies/heart3.gif)
So an older relative of mine could use some help. Her husband is ill so some family members including myself have been on high alert because she is not sure he has her "covered". Does any one know how she can find out what benefits she is entitled to in the case he crosses over sooner than expected? She is financially dependent on him and of course he is a cheapskate. Smh. The husband is not forthcoming about this stuff so I suggested that she look through some documents in his room while he's out (yes, they sleep in separate rooms) but that's all I could suggest since I'm not sure what she should look for. Here's his stats:
- Over 70 years old
- Formerly married and divorced
- All his kids are over 30
- The two in question have no kids together
- Not sure if he has a will (he hasn't mentioned one)
- Is a veteran
- Also a state employee retiree
- They are renting and do not own any property together.
- She has tried asking him directly but he is not forthcoming.
- I don't think it's all malice, I wholeheartedly believe that he just has some marbles missing...but not enough to get him committed or anything.
- She does not have access to his accounts nor do they have any joint banking accounts together
- She gets a weekly allowance
I'm wondering if she should maybe consult with a lawyer just to pick their brain (which I'd happily pitch in for)?
Anyway, I welcome any resources or input you could point me / her to. Thanks y'all
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