Leslie_C
Well-Known Member
I tend to be long winded, but Ill try to make this as simple as possible...lol.
Ok, my fiance and I got engaged at the end of April. We already live together if it makes any difference on your stance. Originally the wedding was supposed to be in November, then we pushed it to March. Well March is going to be a no go as well. I just graduated nursing school in December and my last semester was a real financial strain. We made it through, but barely. We were robbing Peter to pay Paul,etc. and it caught up to us in the end so we are just now caught up on all our bills. We need more time to save the money to have the wedding.
We cant wait to be married, but at the same time we want it to be special. He wants to go ahead and get married just the two of us either around valentines day or in march when the wedding was supposed to be, then have the real wedding mid to late summer. On one hand, that would be ok because really we just want to be husband and wife and I think its really sweet that he is so eager to get married....but on the other Im afraid that either A) we wont ever have the wedding or B)We will have the wedding but our wedding day wouldnt seem as special or exciting because WE would know we were married.
I used to be from the school of I dont give a crap about a wedding period, but Ive fallen for the fairytale stuff over on theknot.com and it makes me really want the day to be special and a great memory with great pictures,etc to have to cherish for a lifetime. It wont be a big fancy wedding, but I do want it to be special.
Im a firm believer in its the Marriage and not the wedding that is what is important, so Im struggling with this. We love each other dearly and we are ready to get married like YESTERDAY, but it finances that are holding us back for now. We arent having some big elaborate wedding, its very small scale...but even that is a stretch for us at the moment.
So, would u go ahead and get married now or just wait a few more months to have the wedding you wanted? Its more about the joining of our two families and sharing our special day with our family and close friends that is important to me.
Ok, my fiance and I got engaged at the end of April. We already live together if it makes any difference on your stance. Originally the wedding was supposed to be in November, then we pushed it to March. Well March is going to be a no go as well. I just graduated nursing school in December and my last semester was a real financial strain. We made it through, but barely. We were robbing Peter to pay Paul,etc. and it caught up to us in the end so we are just now caught up on all our bills. We need more time to save the money to have the wedding.
We cant wait to be married, but at the same time we want it to be special. He wants to go ahead and get married just the two of us either around valentines day or in march when the wedding was supposed to be, then have the real wedding mid to late summer. On one hand, that would be ok because really we just want to be husband and wife and I think its really sweet that he is so eager to get married....but on the other Im afraid that either A) we wont ever have the wedding or B)We will have the wedding but our wedding day wouldnt seem as special or exciting because WE would know we were married.
I used to be from the school of I dont give a crap about a wedding period, but Ive fallen for the fairytale stuff over on theknot.com and it makes me really want the day to be special and a great memory with great pictures,etc to have to cherish for a lifetime. It wont be a big fancy wedding, but I do want it to be special.
Im a firm believer in its the Marriage and not the wedding that is what is important, so Im struggling with this. We love each other dearly and we are ready to get married like YESTERDAY, but it finances that are holding us back for now. We arent having some big elaborate wedding, its very small scale...but even that is a stretch for us at the moment.
So, would u go ahead and get married now or just wait a few more months to have the wedding you wanted? Its more about the joining of our two families and sharing our special day with our family and close friends that is important to me.