He didn't call . . . now what?

Glib Gurl

Glib Gurl

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So I've been conversing with this dude online . . . he asked for my number last week. I gave it to him.

And nothing.

Soooo, do I stop communicating with him online and move on? Or do I send him a simple, friendly - just "How was your weekend?" to keep a dialogue going?

I'm not really *invested* in this person, but I don't want to be too hasty in pulling the plug.
 
No reason to send him an email or a message. If he calls, he calls. If he sends a message, he sends a message. It's definitely not a big deal now. You didn't even know this guy existed a few weeks ago. Let it go for now.
 
I'm no longer on-line but there are some pretty funny ( and frightening) articles describing personality types online. One common occurrence is the guy who is just chatting for sport. These guys just chat and chat but never end up calling- they may chat for weeks then suddenly disappear. I'm not sure if this guy falls into that category exactly because at least he asked for a number. Definitely let him make the call. Just don't take the process too seriously and remember most on line people are playing games now-a-days.
 
Well, this is just me and how I am... I wouldn't call him or send him a message... He know how to do either if he want to hear from you...
 
I say move on for now. If he calls he calls. I don't understand guys. On to the next one.....
 
I disagree.
Lay low, give it a few more days, and keep laying low if nothing happens.

If he does call, act pleasant, and if he wants to set up a date, then go for it if you feel comfortable. You all don't know each other well at all, so it seems. Just because he has met a woman doesn't mean that he is obligated to contact within X amt of days. His life is still going on (so is yours), and his might have gotten more hectic (not making excuses for him).

I read this line in one of the best dating books I've read. It says: "By setting things free, you allow them to align themselves in perfect time." And if they don't, so be it. As a previous poster said, a few weeks ago, you didn't know each other at all.

Hope it helps :)
 
So is he still talking to you online? If so, he may be too afraid to call.

If not, then I'd say just hang back. You all are not in a relationship with each other which means ya'll are not obligated to each other. If he calls, fine. If not, fine.
 
DO NOT contact him!

he's got your number.

he's got your email.

he gon' fiiiiiiind you.

if he's smart. :)

keep it moving..... have some dudes on rotation. NEXT! ;-)
 
I honestly don't know if you should pull the plug yet. How long have you been chatting or emailing?
Don't act like you noticed that he didn't call you. Keep yourself busy with activities that make you happy. If he does call, don't act like you noticed that he didn't call or like you "missed' him.
Don't call or email him either. Let him make the next move.
 
Get it out of your mind that men are these innocent, shy creatures that need prodding and encouragement to feel safe enough to pursue. Remember that you want a man, a real man, educated with a good job, strong and brave enough to protect you and your future family. If he's interested he will call soon. If he e-mailed me I would ignore him. I would take his call if I was available just out of curiosity. Please, please do not e-mail him.
 
Glib don't bother. Look at it this way. If he really wanted to talk to you he WOULD be calling you. When men don't call I simply take it as they are not interested in wanting to talk. When folks are vested in getting to know you they will take whatever actions that are necessary to make that known.
 
GG, I think you should do whatever you feel moved to do. If you want to contact him, contact him! Life gets in the way with people, so I wouldn't be to quick to assume that just because he asked for your number and then nothing, means he's not interested. Likewise, just because he asked for your number doesn't automatically mean he's going to call, either. But if you are genuinely interested in him, I see no reason why you can't ask him how he's doing, and that you were just wondering since you hadn't heard anything from him, you thought maybe perhaps he'd lost interest in chatting with you. This takes nothing away from you, contrary to popular belief. He can tell you the truth, or he'll give you some BS, but he will definitely prove it with his actions after that.
 
Glib Gurl said:
So I've been conversing with this dude online . . . he asked for my number last week. I gave it to him.

And nothing.

Soooo, do I stop communicating with him online and move on? Or do I send him a simple, friendly - just "How was your weekend?" to keep a dialogue going?

I'm not really *invested* in this person, but I don't want to be too hasty in pulling the plug.
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NO! Do NOT send him a simple friendly message at all! Why would you want to keep dialogue going with someone who didn't call you? It would be different if you didn't give him your number and y'all made it clear you would be just online chat buddies. If he hasn't called within a week of you giving you his number, I would move on if I were you. He is not interested in anything more.
 
MissMasala5 said:
GG, I think you should do whatever you feel moved to do. If you want to contact him, contact him! Life gets in the way with people, so I wouldn't be to quick to assume that just because he asked for your number and then nothing, means he's not interested. Likewise, just because he asked for your number doesn't automatically mean he's going to call, either. But if you are genuinely interested in him, I see no reason why you can't ask him how he's doing, and that you were just wondering since you hadn't heard anything from him, you thought maybe perhaps he'd lost interest in chatting with you. This takes nothing away from you, contrary to popular belief. He can tell you the truth, or he'll give you some BS, but he will definitely prove it with his actions after that.
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This is true. I was talking to a guy online for a little bit and then took off for a 2 week vacation. I was so excited about the trip I didn't even think to give him the heads up I'd be gone for X amount of days. Sad I know, but I've been single for so long it seems I'm clueless about the simplest things. Anyway, after about a week he messaged me again. I was still out of town but at a friend's computer. I was like..Oh yeah!! Hey there!...lol!
 
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MissMasala5 said:
GG, I think you should do whatever you feel moved to do. If you want to contact him, contact him! Life gets in the way with people, so I wouldn't be to quick to assume that just because he asked for your number and then nothing, means he's not interested. Likewise, just because he asked for your number doesn't automatically mean he's going to call, either. But if you are genuinely interested in him, I see no reason why you can't ask him how he's doing, and that you were just wondering since you hadn't heard anything from him, you thought maybe perhaps he'd lost interest in chatting with you. This takes nothing away from you, contrary to popular belief. He can tell you the truth, or he'll give you some BS, but he will definitely prove it with his actions after that.
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That approach could land her in another dead-end relationship.
 
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