No, I personally run after the first sign.
But my cousin does this. I mean she stays for 5 to 7 years at a time. She's done this with 3 main guys going on her 4th and STILL not married. It NEVER works .
I used to be in awe of her thinking "how does she get these relationships" but it was cause she puts up with all that crap knowing deep within it's not going to work. She can't be alone. erplexed
Sorry off subject, but it is kinda related to the topic....
I like the quote in your siggy, Kia....that's tha truth!
Wow, most people don't take it that far to marriage... I don't think. It seems like you knew all along that it wasn't working. Calling off a wedding several times, wow.Yes. I knew while dating him that we weren't right for each other but I wanted to be married sooooooo bad so that I could have a fairytale family complete with a BABY! (sounds like a lot of thread topics around here) So when he proposed...I happily accepted. Then, during the engagement, I realized AGAIN that dude wasn't "The one".....my intuition was almost SCREAMING at me....but......I didn't care....I wanted a wedding and a baby! I was hard headed....and conflicted and fearful. I went back and forth....called the wedding off, then on, then off, then on.....all because I was fighting against my better judgment, my gut, just because I was tired of being single and childless (I was only 23!) and I had no idea what marriage and motherhood was really all about.
Anyway....I ended up leaving an abusive husband with two young children 8 years later. Needless to say, I NEVER ignore that feeling now....
YES---I LISTENDED TO MY DAMN FRIENDS..I WOULDA BEEN LEFT THE RLP BUT MY FRIENDS WERE LIKE --YOU ARE SO HARD ON HIM GIVE HIM SOME TIME..
MY *** SHOULDA JUST WENT WITH MY GUT FEELING...
Wow, most people don't take it that far to marriage... I don't think. It seems like you knew all along that it wasn't working. Calling off a wedding several times, wow.
I think I'm in one as well. There were so many red flags in the beginning and there are still some now. Everytime I get the strength to leave, he does or says the right thing to pull me back in. It is truly an emotional rollercoaster. It's harder when I live with him 2 hrs away from my family. Me moving in with him was the worst mistake of my life. But no regrets...I am learning so much about what type of man I want and don't want in my life.
Shoot, i just left one and although it was only two months, it was two months from hell!!!
I thought i knew him, we had met 4yrs ago and bumped into each other in July. things were fine for the 1st couple weeks but then ethe unexpected weekend trip....shady...then there was the tme he was supposed to come over and never showed up and when took a trip to his house to see if something had happened to him on the way to mine, his car wasnt there....then there was the delayed text responses and the unanwered phone calls, the v/m from other females.....all the while him teling me how much he wanted to be with me.... all the while i would feel like i was about to have diarrhea everytime we made plans b/c i knew he wasnt going to follow thru......i walked away so many times....i remmeber when he told me that i would regret leaving him and i said to myself, "maybe i am making a mistake and tried again...but this was the first time being 30 affected my judgement......i felt like if i let him go, here would b yet another failed relationship at the age of 30....I believe in LOA and i knw that i attacted him into my life but I was living by default which is where i messed up....anyway at the end of the day i left .....bruised but not broken
OMG, ALL trifling men say this, or something else like "Good luck finding a dude as real as I am" Lol, my response to the last guy that said that to me was "With luck, I WON'T find a dude as real as you are because you are as fraudulent as they come"
I swear they are all delusional, every other sentence that comes out of your mouth is a lie and you believe you are the realest thing out there? It's like they all studied from the same mind-screwing book.
But you know they say this because THEY know they have a good thing, YES, even though they don't know how to act or treat you they still know what they have, even in their greed and selfishness and you being one of 2 or many they are still afraid to lose you on YOUR terms, it frightens them to know YOU wouldn't be afraid of losing them. Deep down they are insecure and NEED you to feel that way about them. It's definately more of a pride/ego thing than to do with love. But once they see you may be seeing them for who they really are, they let a bunch of bold-faced lies come out of their mouth like that one and hope that you'll believe it.
Congrats on coming out of it the way you did though, and not wasting any more time on someone who didn't deserve you.