Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favor?

[Crystalicequeen123]

Just curious...

I'm wondering if any of you ladies have ever verbally hinted or told a guy that you liked him. What was the outcome? Positive? Negative? A combo of both?

I'm contemplating whether or not I should just come out with it and let my guy friend know that I at least WAS interested in him at one time. I just want things to be "out there" in the open so that at least I can have peace of mind and closure.

This definitely goes AGAINST my "rules", and against anything I've ever done before (or will ever do again), BUT...I figure that in THIS particular situation it's better for me to just know and get over it instead of holding it in forever and never knowing.

Any thoughts??

 

[Son26]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did it and it turned out he felt the same way about me. We had a five year relationship

 

[Bunny77]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did. Never worked for me so I don't do it these days, but I know there are exceptions to every rule!

That's just not one I care to break anymore. Too bothersome for me.

I think the way exceptions work best is if the woman isn't too invested in the outcome.

 

[ThickHair]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Well kinda, sorta, see this thread: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=360933

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did it and it turned out he felt the same way about me. We had a five year relationship

Hmmm...interesting! So...were you two friends first? Or, just acquaintances? Did you have a feeling that he liked you? If so, what were the signs? And lastly, HOW did you break the news to him?

I did. Never worked for me so I don't do it these days, but I know there are exceptions to every rule!

That's just not one I care to break anymore. Too bothersome for me.

I think the way exceptions work best is if the woman isn't too invested in the outcome.

Hey Bunny! I always love your responses. Yeah, this is one rule that I vowed never to break myself. But right now, it seems more harmful to keep it in instead of just letting it all out. I think it's too late right now anyway, but I just HAVE to know if he sensed that I liked him as "more" than just a friend.

I'm trying to let him know in a care-free, don't-really-care-about-the-outcome-too-much kind of way. Right now I'm not so much worried about the outcome as I want to just get this out in the open and off of MY chest. I still want to be friends with him...and if we can't be close friends after this, then I completely understand. He just started dating someone else right now, and I get the impression he's going to tell me soon, and when he does I just want to ask him whether or not he ever knew. I'm not trying to break him and his gf up (no way! That's not me ), but I feel like for MY closure and sanity, I need to clarify a few things. Because things have just been way too awkward in the past between us, and I always feel like it was because there was a LOT left UNsaid...especially on MY part.

*sigh*

 

[Son26]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Hmmm...interesting! So...were you two friends first? Or, just acquaintances? Did you have a feeling that he liked you? If so, what were the signs? And lastly, HOW did you break the news to him?

We worked together We never really talked to each other but I caught him staring at me a few times. . . I could just tell he liked me. One night we were working late and I shyly told him that I had a little crush on him.

 

[*~*Afrolicious*~*]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Nope, never lol

 

[janaq2003]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did.. we've been married 6 yrs

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Well kinda, sorta, see this thread: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=360933

Oh wow Thickhair! I just read your thread!! Way to go girlfriend!

Now, that totally goes against my "rules" but I think the older I get the more and more I realize that sometimes in life you just have to grab the bull by the horns and go for what you want. Especially if you REALLY want it. Your situation is unique in the fact that you guys at least dated before. This guy and I have never dated, and as far as I know, I'm not sure if he ever liked me as more than a friend, or even knew of MY interest. I can speculate, but I don't know for sure...and I want to know for SURE.

I personally don't think guys mind so much a woman letting them know that they're interested, as long as it's done in a "care-free" no-pressure type of way. I think some women come across as real desperate or needy when they tell a man, or if the guy doesn't feel the same way the woman starts to whine, cry, or act nasty. I'm not going to do any of that. I'll just be very cool, and good-natured. I won't have to wonder "what if" anymore.

Now don't get me wrong...I'm in NO way shape or form going to make telling guys how I feel a habit. I'm STILL old-fashioned, and believe that a guy should be the one to reveal his feelings FIRST. But...in this particular situation, I feel like I should at least toss the ball out there.

*sigh* Idk...I think I'll wait and see what other ladies post/say before going through with it.

 

[KPH]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

i did and he was soooooooooooooooooo happy and has been skinnin and grinnin in my face every since. oh, it went like this: i thought you were so cute when we were young and I even told such-n-such about how cute you were. he claim he couldn't believe I paid him any attention but he was so cute and so many girls liked him I didn't pursue jack. when he did try and visit (sit on the porch together) i was just stare and answer his questions in a mean way because I knew he was to cute for me

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did.. we've been married 6 yrs

Wow! Okay, now you HAVE to share this story!

After you told him, did you ever feel like HE had the upper hand now?



KIM (Keep In Mind): I'm talking about instances more where you and the person were NOT dating each other. Either just friends or acquaintances, and YOU were the first one to express your interest in him verbally.

 

[Dominican09]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I say go for it!! you only live once!

 

[janaq2003]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Wow! Okay, now you HAVE to share this story!

After you told him, did you ever feel like HE had the upper hand now?



KIM (Keep In Mind): I'm talking about instances more where you and the person were NOT dating each other. Either just friends or acquaintances, and YOU were the first one to express your interest in him verbally.[/quote]
We were not dating, just "talking". I went out on a limb and let him know how I felt( if it weren't for my raggedy car and being a broke college student, I wouldn't have met him!) and voila!.... we did break up- get back together a couple times.. he was even engaged to married during one of our break ups! Known hin for 10yrs- married for 6+.

 

[Crystalicequeen123]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Wow! Okay, now you HAVE to share this story!

After you told him, did you ever feel like HE had the upper hand now?



KIM (Keep In Mind): I'm talking about instances more where you and the person were NOT dating each other. Either just friends or acquaintances, and YOU were the first one to express your interest in him verbally.[/quote]
We were not dating, just "talking". I went out on a limb and let him know how I felt( if it weren't for my raggedy car and being a broke college student, I wouldn't have met him!) and voila!.... we did break up- get back together a couple times.. he was even engaged to married during one of our break ups! Known hin for 10yrs- married for 6+.

Oh wow! Now you know he's DEFINITELY yours if he was actually engaged to someone else and came back to you. Wow!

Oh, and btw...that "KIM" notice was directed to everyone sorry! I didn't mean that it was just for you. But thanks for the clarification on the "dating" status.

So, did you feel that he had the upper hand though? Or...I guess obviously not since he must have liked you too??

 

[MissJ]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Just curious...

I'm wondering if any of you ladies have ever verbally hinted or told a guy that you liked him. What was the outcome? Positive? Negative? A combo of both?

I'm contemplating whether or not I should just come out with it and let my guy friend know that I at least WAS interested in him at one time. I just want things to be "out there" in the open so that at least I can have peace of mind and closure.

This definitely goes AGAINST my "rules", and against anything I've ever done before (or will ever do again), BUT...I figure that in THIS particular situation it's better for me to just know and get over it instead of holding it in forever and never knowing.

Any thoughts??

I was just going to ask is that the Rules? No, I haven't done anything like that.

 

[♦K.O♦]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did once (last year) and the guy started going ghost. I'm glad it didn't work out, though- he wasn't all that I thought he was.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did. He was my high school sweetheart and we dated for 4 years. He treated me like a queen. No one has topped him yet.

I think the trick is letting him know and allowing him to take the next steps.

 

[MrsWatson]

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Yep, in 10th grade. I told him he was the cutest boy I had ever seen. We started dating shortly after.
We broke up during our freshman/sophomore year of college and once again (a year or so later), I met up with him and told him I STILL loved him, and he took it from there.

 

[aribell]

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Yeah, but I kind of think it was in spite of myself. I would say that you have to be really honest with yourself about what it is you're seeking from this, since if somewhere deep down you want to do it in hopes that you'll end up together, you might end up unintentionally disappointed.

 

[MissJ]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did once (last year) and the guy started going ghost. I'm glad it didn't work out, though- he wasn't all that I thought he was.

How did he go ghost?

 

[Renewed1]

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I have several times. Never worked out for me. I figured I leave it alone, if the guy is interested he'll approach me....REGARDLESS!

 

[DragonPearl]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I think the way exceptions work best is if the woman isn't too invested in the outcome.

It worked for me. There was this guy I had a serious crush on but he was in a relationship with someone else, so I told him I liked him, and to give me a call if things didn't work out with his current.

I kinda obsessed about him for a couple of months afterward, waiting by the phone for a call that never came, then I moved on. He called me 2 years later and we dated for almost 1 year. It was a good relationship and I never regretted coming on to him, because even though ultimately, he was not the right man for me as I got to know him better, I would have never known that had I not come on to him, and I would have carried this fantasy in my mind of what a relationship with him could have been. So, it worked out fine in the scheme of things.

And if he had never called me back, that would have been fine too. I had TOTALLY forgotten about him when I received his call 2 years later.

 

[BeautifulFlower]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

It worked for me. There was this guy I had a serious crush on but he was in a relationship with someone else, so I told him I liked him, and to give me a call if things don't work out with his current.

I kinda obsessed about him for a couple of months afterward, waiting by the phone for a call that never came, then I moved on. He called me 2 years later and we dated for almost 1 year. It was a good relationship and I never regretted coming on to him.

Dang thats pretty darn bold.

 

[DragonPearl]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

Dang thats pretty darn bold.

It was.

But it wasn't like I was asking him to cheat or to leave his girlfriend for me.

 

[chicacanella]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

nope and I learned that if a man wants you, it's in his nature to pursue...period.

 

[Imani]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

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[hopeful]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did and we have been married almost 22 years BUT I would not recommend it nor would I do it again. I found that over the years I had to undo the harm because it made things too easy for him and you know all my cards were on the table which made me feel vulnerable. Over the years I had to flip the script/reposition the situation. Am I making any sense? At the time it seemed like a great idea and for years I thought it was great that I had been forward, I told his friend I liked him and I gave him an innocent kiss one night after a party. He asked me out after that.

He said he always liked me but thought I was too young for him. A few months after we started dating, I said I love you first. I have always regretted that. Reading this right now I see that isn't so horrible. Why should I regret saying I love you to anyone? He asked me out on our first date, he asked me to marry him. He continued to visit me while I finished college. He is the one who always says no when I've become frustrated and wanted to give up. I love him so much and he me. We've had such a wonderful life together and we have our two beautiful daughters so I guess no more regrets, I feel so blessed.

Perhaps I am changing my tune. Follow your heart and trust your instincts.

 

[JewelleNY]

Re: Has anyone EVER let a guy know that you liked him and had it go WELL in your favo

I did and we have been married almost 22 years BUT I would not recommend it nor would I do it again. I found that over the years I had to undo the harm because it made things too easy for him and you know all my cards were on the table which made me feel vulnerable. Over the years I had to flip the script/reposition the situation. Am I making any sense? At the time it seemed like a great idea and for years I thought it was great that I had been forward, I told his friend I liked him and I gave him an innocent kiss one night after a party. He asked me out after that.

He said he always liked me but thought I was too young for him. A few months after we started dating, I said I love you first. I have always regretted that. Reading this right now I see that isn't so horrible. Why should I regret saying I love you to anyone? He asked me out on our first date, he asked me to marry him. He continued to visit me while I finished college. He is the one who always says no when I've become frustrated and wanted to give up. I love him so much and he me. We've had such a wonderful life together and we have our two beautiful daughters so I guess no more regrets, I feel so blessed.

Perhaps I am changing my tune. Follow your heart and trust your instincts.

aawwww This is so sweet!