Hard-to-Get vs. Difficult, Kind vs. Doormat
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IMFOCSD
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Aww you erased your post...well i am going to use my imagination 
I think hard to get and difficult are the same. Kind and doormat are difderent even though people mistake the two...dont take kindness for weakness...i go through that alot then i eventually have to step outside my character and be a BI***......then people straighten up...smdh.
I think hard to get and difficult are the same. Kind and doormat are difderent even though people mistake the two...dont take kindness for weakness...i go through that alot then i eventually have to step outside my character and be a BI***......then people straighten up...smdh.
TrueToHair
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loolalooh
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Aww you erased your post...well i am going to use my imagination
I think hard to get and difficult are the same. Kind and doormat are difderent even though people mistake the two...dont take kindness for weakness...i go through that alot then i eventually have to step outside my character and be a BI***......then people straighten up...smdh.
Thanks for posting, ladies.
The OP was basically an attempt to start a discussion on hard-to-get vs. difficult and kind vs. doormat. Nothing uber personal, but just to get thoughts and opinions flowing on the topic. I deleted it after 4 hours, many views, and no one biting. I thought about re-posting it OT, which gets way more traffic and responses (and still might), but I'm not compelled to at the moment.
Katherina
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My thoughts:
Kind vs doormat
Kind: Love yourself first, put yourself first, and treat others well. Don't sacrifice yourself for another person, but still do good for others. Kindness involves a balance between loving yourself and treating others well; a doormat doesn't truly love and treat herself well, but she goes above and beyond for others, even when it hurts, subjugates, or greatly inconveniences her.
Difficult vs hard to get
Being mildly difficult can be similar to being hard to get, but in general I think being difficult is just being hard (difficult) to get along with - an unattractive personality. Being hard to get is the art of maintaining interest while leading a potential SO to think (whether its true or false) that you aren't totally sold yet on the idea of liking him as much as or in the same way that he likes you.
Kind vs doormat
Kind: Love yourself first, put yourself first, and treat others well. Don't sacrifice yourself for another person, but still do good for others. Kindness involves a balance between loving yourself and treating others well; a doormat doesn't truly love and treat herself well, but she goes above and beyond for others, even when it hurts, subjugates, or greatly inconveniences her.
Difficult vs hard to get
Being mildly difficult can be similar to being hard to get, but in general I think being difficult is just being hard (difficult) to get along with - an unattractive personality. Being hard to get is the art of maintaining interest while leading a potential SO to think (whether its true or false) that you aren't totally sold yet on the idea of liking him as much as or in the same way that he likes you.
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kismettt
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for me, i aim to be kind. def not a dooormat (someone that lets others walk all over them). kindness is a quality i admire in all people (my cousin and old coworker are both 2 people who come to mind who are both just incredibly kind. i was always amazed by them & want to be like them).
i don't aim to be hard to get or difficult (even though i can be either/both unintentionally). i think the idea behind "hard to get it" for me is better phrased as "knows their worth". i have no patience for BS when it comes to most people in my life. & in dating, you def have to approach/interact with/treat me the way i expect you to or it's not going to happen.
i don't aim to be hard to get or difficult (even though i can be either/both unintentionally). i think the idea behind "hard to get it" for me is better phrased as "knows their worth". i have no patience for BS when it comes to most people in my life. & in dating, you def have to approach/interact with/treat me the way i expect you to or it's not going to happen.