handling hair gently....

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

is something I have only learned to do over the past few months and Im so used to it now, that it almost "hurts" if i pull a shirt over my hair. I have learned to treat my hair like an old fine piece of lace. I think this truly helps keep the hair healthy by helping the cuticle scales stay in tact which is what protects our hair,, I'm curious, how long did it take you to learn to use a delicate hand in your hair??( took me a lonnnnng time, I was so used to being rough, ripping at it, combing , allowing it to be rubbed on harsh fabric). I also hardly brush my hair,,( brushing "hurts" too cuz it seems so harsh on it), i use a seamless wide tooth comb rarely and usually just finger comb except for a moment when im styling it daily ill pull a brush thru to give it body and smooth it out.....

 

[balisi]

Funny, but I have always treated my hair gently. I learned this from my mother, who always took care of my hair with a very light touch. So it's practically second nature to me. This really helps me in my profession as a hairstylist too. I've had clients tell me they could barely feel my hands in their hair.

I use a bone comb as much as possible, and always comb from the ends up. Thanks Mom!

 

[Softresses]

I have always had to, I am extremely tenderheaded. I can't stand for my hair to be pulled, even by me.

Softresses

 

[mightycute912]

I am still learning. I am still rough, because I haven't learned any better. I am trying to get better with setting a routine and buying wider tooth combs. I am trying to pay more attention to what I do and use on my hair now.

 

[Isis]

I learned and started being careful with my hair when I discovered the hair boards and LHCF. My satin scarf is my trusted friend.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I try to be gentle but must admit to not having the patience.

 

[LaShanne]

It's so funny you brought up this topic. Last night I was frantic trying to find my satin bonnet before I would put my shirt on. I am now VERY gentle with my hair. Now I'm working on keeping my hands OUT of my hair. I keep feeling like I should be doing something...oiling, moisturizing, sealing. Leaving my hair alone is like an addiction I'm trying to kick!

 

[lsubabiedee]

unfortunately, im not gentle at all. and it shows. lol

 

[january noir]

Good Morning Ladies!

I agree wholeheartedly! Patience and low manipulation is a virtue when it comes to healthy hair. I have fragile, thin hair and my stylist always reminds me to be gentle and I am. Every strand is worth $100,000,000 to me!

I am curious to see if people who say that they have a lot of hair issues keep their hands in there hair all the time ... hmmmm.

I am 4a (I think) and just above BSL in the back, SL on the sides.

Sigh... this site is sooooo addictive!

Hugz,
January Noir

 

[pinayprincess]

i am starting to become obsessed with low-manipulation.
all i gotta do now is stop detangling it everyday.

 

[blueabyss333]

Sometimes I run out of patience. I have to learn to be more gentler and keep my hands OUT of my hair. I'm always playing in it.

 

[ritzbitz78]

playing and fiddling with my hair is my worst habit, and the key to growth success for me. I am always pulling on my hair ends to see if they snap, always fishing out split ends and popping them off... So I need to start a No Touch Challenge with myself, that lasts forever...

you can tell that the hair I have access to (around my face) is shorter than the hair in the back, because of my naughty, naughty little hands.

 

[angelita842002]

Before this forum i would be really rough with my hair. I would use like three scruchies to tighten my hair . Since ive been really gentle with it the past few months anything too tight or pulling hurts. So I always wear my satin scarf and only use one scruchie and only wrap it around twice. Am very gentle with my comb too. My edges are thanking me for it.

 

[natstar]

After joining I have recognized the importance of being gentle-esp. w/my natural hair. Before I started I use to may two strand twists, then take them out any way (not from the tip to the root). This would lead to massive tangles and lost hair. I would also comb my hair when dry and brush it when wet and dry as well. I am much better now and I have retained some length cause of it.

 

[amina kamal]

When I think about how I would take the comb and rake through from root to tip yanking out every tangle in my path, I just shudder. I used to abuse the heck out of my hair and never knew any better. Now I wont wash my hair unless I pre poo and set aside at least 20 minutes for detangling. I dont comb my hair anymore unless in the shower. Whenever I sleep without my scarf I feel guilty ( I only take it off because my BF hates it). Its only been 2 months since I starting taking care of my hair but I am already starting to see improvement.

 

[preciousjewel76]

I'm learning. Not combing my hair (except when wet) is taking some getting used to, but I'm getting better with my finger combing. My problem is being patient enough to detangle and comb with my fingers without yanking hair out. I was doing this just last night when I pulled out a few hairs - and it hurt. That taught me to slow down!

 

[JustKiya]

Once I understood how much of a difference being GENTLE with your hair makes, I was all up on it!! It feels like I'm treating myself special when I sit on the couch and take 30 minutes to detangle my hair - that's my time, giving myself love and tenderness and affection. Putting on a scarf before I do dusty/rough stuff makes me feel -valued and special - not JUST my hair....

It works really well for me - I suspect that I'm going to start wearing headwraps soon so that I can carry that protected/nutured feeling around with me all day. Right now, I'm rocking the intensely protective styles, and that's close.....

 

[Sha76]

Leanred to be gentle when I was natural. I guess it kind of stuck.

 

[Ayeshia]

Yeah I try to be really gently when I comb...and now Im trying to limit how many stokes i use throughout my hair