Going by your first comment and this I dont think you seriously gave it a shot. Probably should have done like someone mentioned up thread and stayed home. I see this alot where people (even me) get negative about something and it always seems to be true regarding this type of stuff.Yeah...I just got back in the house. It was very vanilla. No dates. No numbers. No bueno. I don't think I'll do it again either. I like the idea of speed dating better. I'd do that before I'll go to another one of the mixers.
Eta: I live in a notoriously vanilla city. Although, there is a decent sized AA community.
I really don't know how to navigate the "singles' scene." I'm usedto meeting people out and about in my daily routine. I don't go to bars, clubs, etc. to meet guys. I am trying to get out and be more open to different ways to meet men. Is anyone good at navigating mixers, etc.? What do you do?
This about sums it up. I also feel people are scared to talk to people they don't know more often than not. If we got over this fear instead of making up bogus reasons not to we could meet new friends/lovers in our lives more consistently.Why mixers? Why not activities in which you are interested (especially via meetup.com)? My sister knows a woman who met her future husband while attending a "Hiking" activity via meetup.com. Basically just go to co-ed events in your area where you will feel comfortable. That is when men may gravitate towards you - when you are comfortable. If you're into cooking events, sports events, foodie events, then go to those sort of things.
loolalooh said:Why mixers? Why not activities in which you are interested (especially via meetup.com)? My sister knows a woman who met her future husband while attending a "Hiking" activity via meetup.com. Basically just go to co-ed events in your area where you will feel comfortable. That is when men may gravitate towards you - when you are comfortable. If you're into cooking events, sports events, foodie events, then go to those sort of things.