Going out without your SO...

im going out without bf tomorrow :lol: idc, and he doesnt either. he's gone out to bars a couple times without me, but he usually ends up drunk texting me all night :lol: so it dont matter
 
Doesn't bother me at all. I always tell my SO to go out and catch up with friends, and I enjoy doing it myself. My SO would prefer to spend all his time with me and take me along, but I think time with his friends and time with my friends is always a good thing every now and then.
 
If we are in a serious relationship, I trust him 100%, if I didn't, we wouldn't be together. If he is with me, we share the same set of ethics and morals, so he should know how to conduct himself accordingly regardless as to where he is going.

If a guy wants to pick up women while he is in a relationship, the locations of his activities are really irrelevant. Does it matter less if he is trying to hit on a women at the library???? Nope.

That type of talk to me just bugs me when I hear women say, I don't like my man going to the club. Makes no sense at all.
 
ThickHair said:
If we are in a serious relationship, I trust him 100%, if I didn't, we wouldn't be together. If he is with me, we share the same set of ethics and morals, so he should know how to conduct himself accordingly regardless as to where he is going.

If a guy wants to pick up women while he is in a relationship, the locations of his activities are really irrelevant. Does it matter less if he is trying to hit on a women at the library???? Nope.

That type of talk to me just bugs me when I hear women say, I don't like my man going to the club. Makes no sense at all.
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This^^^^ I totally agree!! I expect trust because I trust him. I think its good to spend time enjoying yourself without your significant other...plust i think its fun to come home and have small talk about how it went
 
Its ok that we do our own things but I do most things with my SO. I don't think I ever really dated someone that didn't want me with them 80% of the time outside of work. Most of my guys loved sports not the club unless they took their woman.
 
firecracker said:
Its ok that we do our own things but I do most things with my SO. I don't think I ever really dated someone that didn't want me with them 80% of the time outside of work. Most of my guys loved sports not the club unless they took their woman.
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Agreed 100%
 
Doesn't bother me. When I was with my ex I always went out alone. I tend to view clubbing as girl time for me mostly.

SO is the opposite. He always went clubbing with exes pretty much every time, but I've informed him it's not my thing. I do go with him sometimes though, or if there's another couple there.

I agree with what someone said, you trust em or you don't. And no I don't mean I'd trust any man:lol: If a mans a dog then he might be having an affair at work, or someone at the gym but those are places its accepted to go alone lol.
 
I don't mind going out with Him, when I do decide to go; usually when they have their ladies with them.
He won't hang with me and my girls...but he will stop by the bar/lounge and buy us all a round of drinks/shots and then leave <----trying to show off and make the girls jelly. LOL!
 
ThickHair said:
If we are in a serious relationship, I trust him 100%, if I didn't, we wouldn't be together. If he is with me, we share the same set of ethics and morals, so he should know how to conduct himself accordingly regardless as to where he is going.

If a guy wants to pick up women while he is in a relationship, the locations of his activities are really irrelevant. Does it matter less if he is trying to hit on a women at the library???? Nope.

That type of talk to me just bugs me when I hear women say, I don't like my man going to the club. Makes no sense at all.
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This is exactly what fh said when we had our first trust discussion and how we are in relationships. I learned that I was not so trusting given my last relationship and what happened to me. Your post is truth. This IS how it should be.
 
When we first got married we both agreed that we wouldn't go out clubbing without the other. Since then we have both been out a few times without each other. :lol: I'm actually supposed to be going out on a girl's night tomorrow to celebrate a friend's birthday. At first it bothered me, but overall I trust DH and he knows to behave, as do I. We don't go out very often without each other. I think he's been out to a club twice without me and it's about the same for me. If either one of us tried to go out all of the time without the other it would not fly. :nono:
 
I rarely go out alone other than to get some work done at Starbucks, to the mall. DH isn't really social so his friends have to drag him out places...and his friends know and are cool with me so I feel fine when he does hang out with them. He doesn't have wild and crazy friends!

If he started going out alone it would be a red flag based on the fact that it would be a new behavior....

As far as clubbing we both will only go with friends if its a special occasion like a bachelorette party or bachelor party. Maybe we are getting old: I'm 31 he'll be 33 in a couple weeks so IDK. We left the club scene in our undergrad years......

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SO and I only go to the club with each other and that's how we like it. I dont see the need to go without him and have a bunch of men pressing to dance up on me and vice versa for him if he went solo. Works for us.
 
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