Going In His Car On The Second, But First Real Date?

[vevster]

A friend of mine met a guy in the elevator at work. They went to lunch and next week is their first dinner date.

He is picking her up at her SIL's house. I advised her to take her own car.

He said he wanted to surprise her with his choice of restaurant.

I said surprises are from guys you know already.

 

[GeorginaSparks]

A friend of mine met a guy in the elevator at work. They went to lunch and next week is their first dinner date.

He is picking her up at her SIL's house. I advised her to take her own car.

He said he want to surprise her with his choice of restaurant.

I said surprises are from guys you know already.

I agree with you.

 

[LovelyRo]

So, she'll be in this stranger's car and she has no idea where she is going... Doesn't sound like a good idea to me.

 

[trueheartofgold]

Please continue speaking to her and I hope she takes heed to what you're saying.

Way too early to be going in his car to a location she doesn't know of in advance.

 

[LushLox]

If there's to be longevity in their relationship there will be plenty of time for 'surprises.' It doesn't all have to be done NOW. Slow and steady wins the race.

Tell your friend to be independent and in control; she should take her own mode of transport!

 

[vevster]

In NY there are so many people with agendas.

 

[Topsido]

Tell her to put vex money in her bra.

 

[IronButterfly]

Make her watch American Psycho.

 

[vevster]

Make her watch American Psycho.

You wrong

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Does he work in the same building where lots of people know him? If so, one of them needs to know about the date. That's more info then I'd typically share with a coworker but somebody needs to be able to put eyes and hands on him if she comes up missing.

 

[vevster]

Does he work in the same building where lots of people know him? If so, one of them needs to know about the date. That's more info then I'd typically share with a coworker but somebody needs to be able to put eyes and hands on him if she comes up missing.

She needs to take her own car.

Her daughter did a background check on him....

 

[Black Ambrosia]

She needs to take her own car.

Her daughter did a background check on him....

Girl, what did she find out? You are leaving out crucial details.

 

[lavaflow99]

She needs to take her own car.

Her daughter did a background check on him....

Deets please!!!

 

[vevster]

Girl, what did she find out? You are leaving out crucial details.

He passed the check or else she would not have agreed to go out with him.

 

[vevster]

I'm not saying he is or is not a nice guy. She needs to do the right things up front.

 

[GeorginaSparks]

I'm not saying he is or is not a nice guy. She needs to do the right things up front.

yup she needs to be proactive.

 

[vevster]

Please continue speaking to her and I hope she takes heed to what you're saying.

Way too early to be going in his car to a location she doesn't know of in advance.

Uh no, I won't. She is an adult. Once is enough. I don't want her to think I'm hating or putting negativity on her scenario.

 

[trueheartofgold]

Uh no, I won't. She is an adult. Once is enough. I don't want her to think I'm hating or putting negativity on her scenario.

Very true. I see where you're coming from.

 

[SweetNic_JA]

Tell her to put vex money in her bra.

and mace in the other cup.

 

[MissNina]

I used to do this until I had a stalker who seemed normal years ago My rule is to meet them everywhere until you feel comfy letting them in your house & always have a bff call you 20 mins later.

ETA: If she has an iPhone, simply ask her to share her location with you or a couple friends the entire time, so if she's somewhere way out, someone will know. And she can share his IG or FB page.

ETA again: I do conceal carry tho, so I felt I could handle anything if needbe.

 

[awhyley]

I'm assuming that the SIL is tagging along in a similar fashion;

 

[vevster]

I'm assuming that the SIL is tagging along in a similar fashion;

Didn't here anything about that. My friend needs to take her own car.

 

[vevster]

I used to do this until I had a stalker who seemed normal years ago My rule is to meet them everywhere until you feel comfy letting them in your house & always have a bff call you 20 mins later.

ETA: If she has an iPhone, simply ask her to share her location with you or a couple friends the entire time, so if she's somewhere way out, someone will know. And she can share his IG or FB page.

ETA again: I do conceal carry tho, so I felt I could handle anything if needbe.

The iPhone suggestion is a good one in addition to taking her own car.

 

[vevster]

I heard all went well, but who knows.

 

[giigii613]

I'm assuming that the SIL is tagging along in a similar fashion;

 

[giigii613]

I'm assuming that the SIL is tagging along in a similar fashion;

This made me at work