I couldn't think of a catchy title to this thread... so ![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
I got some advice from my mom (who is my best friend and also my prayer partner) and wonder if any of you ladies received similar advice. She knows that I desire to marry and start a family. As I have dated men, together we have watched the bridal shows and read the magazines in fun (aka planning for the future and daydreaming). I spent several years focusing on my career (climbing the "corporate ladder"
), dating a loser or 4
and just having fun and traveling. There's also not much out here (dating-wise) but the guy I'm dating seems marriage-minded and I really enjoy spending time with him. I finally feel like I am at the point of seriously considering marriage, even knowing that it is hard work.
This morning we were talking on the phone, and my mom told me that "I will support you if you decide that you like this guy and want to have a baby." Of course I laughed and asked her "what about the wedding?"
She got really uptight and basically said that not everything has a fairytale ending, especially with the caliber of guys out here (who you tellin'?
) So I told her that I haven't given up on the idea of getting married and then starting a family and that I'm trusting on God to do xyz in my life, etc. She still said "Hey, I just want you to know that I think we could do a good job of raising a child if you just decide that you don't want to marry him but you want a baby. I want you to be happy and you're age is mature" Okkkkay.
Maybe some of this is coming from the fact that I found out that the guy I'm dating might be relocated to Maryland for 5 years for an assignment (Government). I'm in Houston and really don't have plans to move. I'm stable, my job is here, just built a home, etc. I guess I just needed to vent because I do understand that fairytale endings are rare. But I'm not ready to resign myself to the idea of purposely getting pregnant to have and raise a baby without a father. Come on. This is coming from a woman who has been married for 35+ years, raised 3 kids, and accomplished so much.![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
Thoughts, Ideas? -signed not giving up hope.
![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
I got some advice from my mom (who is my best friend and also my prayer partner) and wonder if any of you ladies received similar advice. She knows that I desire to marry and start a family. As I have dated men, together we have watched the bridal shows and read the magazines in fun (aka planning for the future and daydreaming). I spent several years focusing on my career (climbing the "corporate ladder"
![Nuts :nuts: :nuts:](/smilies/nuts.gif)
![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)
This morning we were talking on the phone, and my mom told me that "I will support you if you decide that you like this guy and want to have a baby." Of course I laughed and asked her "what about the wedding?"
Maybe some of this is coming from the fact that I found out that the guy I'm dating might be relocated to Maryland for 5 years for an assignment (Government). I'm in Houston and really don't have plans to move. I'm stable, my job is here, just built a home, etc. I guess I just needed to vent because I do understand that fairytale endings are rare. But I'm not ready to resign myself to the idea of purposely getting pregnant to have and raise a baby without a father. Come on. This is coming from a woman who has been married for 35+ years, raised 3 kids, and accomplished so much.
![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
Thoughts, Ideas? -signed not giving up hope.