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Giving Up My Brother to the Lord
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Awww (((((CG))))) I know this must be difficult for you. I will certainly keep you and your sibling lifted in prayer. It's tough watching someone learn lessons the hard way. As a mother and sister, I'm sure your instinct is to protect, particularly in areas where you KNOW he's headed towards destruction. However, we can't love people into the truth. Some people ENJOY learning from others and not having to endure life's hardships themselves while others simply don't want to heed advice from anyone. Your brother sounds like the latter. Regardless, all you can do is all you can do. Praying is certainly the best thing you can do...apart from that, he's at an age where he must take responsibility for himself and his actions. As much as you want to help and teach him better, there may not be much you can do. Some lessons are learned the hard way.
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God bless you!
Awww (((((CG))))) I know this must be difficult for you. I will certainly keep you and your sibling lifted in prayer. It's tough watching someone learn lessons the hard way. As a mother and sister, I'm sure your instinct is to protect, particularly in areas where you KNOW he's headed towards destruction. However, we can't love people into the truth. Some people ENJOY learning from others and not having to endure life's hardships themselves while others simply don't want to heed advice from anyone. Your brother sounds like the latter. Regardless, all you can do is all you can do. Praying is certainly the best thing you can do...apart from that, he's at an age where he must take responsibility for himself and his actions. As much as you want to help and teach him better, there may not be much you can do. Some lessons are learned the hard way.
Please keep us updated.
God bless you!
Country gal
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Here is the story for those that did not see it. Thanks Divine. I feel really bad. I just want him to do right but I can't do right for him.
I have a younger brother who will be 20 this summer. He doesn't want responsibility so he acts like a kid and wants others to take care of stuff for him. When it comes to life decisions, than he decides he wants to be an adult. He is very bright and has lots of potential. His potential and talent is being wasted. He hangs around the wrong crowd. He hangs around with folks that are very limited in their potential.
I had my brother living with me for a few months until he got on his feet. It seem I was becoming an enabler. His finances were not improving but in fact he was getting further into debt. I let him live with me rent free in hopes that he would get it together. He would come home from hanging out with his friends smelling of weed. He would come home all hours of the night. Going to work late. He had a decent job as an electrical assistant but wasn't working the full 40 hours. He would work like 19 hours and try to steal time at work. He got fired/quit recently. He still has temporary tags on his car which he bought back in November. He won't go and get the permanent tags. I have tried talking to him and guiding him. Our mother is deceased and he has no relation with his dad. My other family members are fed up with him.
He was mad at me this weekend because I told him this was his final month with me. He got an attitude and left this past weekend. He could go back to living with my grandparents but he refuses because it cuts into his social life and privacy.
My friend says let him learn the hard way and don't coddle him. I do worry for him. I worry that he may end up selling drugs as a quick fix to his financial problems. I lift him up in prayer. I can't help feeling bad that he may make really bad choices. I just prayer that God watches over him because we have not heard from him since last weekend. ANy advice. Any body dealt with a hard headed relative that you had to do tough love with?
I have a younger brother who will be 20 this summer. He doesn't want responsibility so he acts like a kid and wants others to take care of stuff for him. When it comes to life decisions, than he decides he wants to be an adult. He is very bright and has lots of potential. His potential and talent is being wasted. He hangs around the wrong crowd. He hangs around with folks that are very limited in their potential.
I had my brother living with me for a few months until he got on his feet. It seem I was becoming an enabler. His finances were not improving but in fact he was getting further into debt. I let him live with me rent free in hopes that he would get it together. He would come home from hanging out with his friends smelling of weed. He would come home all hours of the night. Going to work late. He had a decent job as an electrical assistant but wasn't working the full 40 hours. He would work like 19 hours and try to steal time at work. He got fired/quit recently. He still has temporary tags on his car which he bought back in November. He won't go and get the permanent tags. I have tried talking to him and guiding him. Our mother is deceased and he has no relation with his dad. My other family members are fed up with him.
He was mad at me this weekend because I told him this was his final month with me. He got an attitude and left this past weekend. He could go back to living with my grandparents but he refuses because it cuts into his social life and privacy.
My friend says let him learn the hard way and don't coddle him. I do worry for him. I worry that he may end up selling drugs as a quick fix to his financial problems. I lift him up in prayer. I can't help feeling bad that he may make really bad choices. I just prayer that God watches over him because we have not heard from him since last weekend. ANy advice. Any body dealt with a hard headed relative that you had to do tough love with?
imani97
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My younger brother went through a rough time too. He was stealing cars, got arrested, almost was unable to enter the military which was his ticket to get on track. But by the grace of God, the charges were dropped and he was able to enter the military. Just continue to pray and believe that God will deliver him. I know how painful it is, but you must ultimately trust in God's word. Your family will be in my prayers.
Country Gal...have no fear. God took care of my son and He will surely take care of your brother. When my son was caught up in 'hard' drugs, God made me a promise and He kept it.
"I the Lord do keep it...I watch it day and night; least any hurt it....
....let him make peace with me and he shall make peace with me.
(Isaiah 27)
God bless you...
"I the Lord do keep it...I watch it day and night; least any hurt it....
....let him make peace with me and he shall make peace with me.
(Isaiah 27)
God bless you...
Country gal
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Shimmie- I remember your story regarding your son. I do feel very encouraged by your words. My faith could be going thorugh a test through my brother. I just don't want to turn my back on him. I realize that I can't help him get it together. He needs to want to turn his life around instead of making excuses. I will keep him in prayers.
Imani- Thanks for sharing your story. I just have to keep him in prayers.
I remember that song If I could by the R* B singer Regina. Where she says if she could she would live her life for her kids so they never have to face pain. I can't phsyically do it I just have to keep stronger in my faith.
Imani- Thanks for sharing your story. I just have to keep him in prayers.
I remember that song If I could by the R* B singer Regina. Where she says if she could she would live her life for her kids so they never have to face pain. I can't phsyically do it I just have to keep stronger in my faith.
honeycomb719
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Im right there with you on this one CG.. My lil bro sounds alot likes yours. I replied in your OT thread but it disappeared. I just continue to pray for him, cause Ive done all I can do
firecracker
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Its going to turn around for him. Just keep saying interceptor prayers for him. The 20's is a time for exploration, know it all attitude, bad attitude and room for errors/mistakes. The foundation has been layed he will come back to it. You will be in my prayers. I know your worried. I'm going to give you a call. 
Country gal
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honeycomb719 said:Im right there with you on this one CG.. My lil bro sounds alot likes yours. I replied in your OT thread but it disappeared. I just continue to pray for him, cause Ive done all I can do
Thanks, Honey. Were we this hardheaded when we were younger????
Latia- Thanks for the call. I really appreciated.
honeycomb719
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Country gal said:
Nope, I dont think so...but times are definitely different. My mom has always been somewhat lax on how she reared myself and my sis, but its a whole new type of "lax" with my lil bro's. I have been debating with myself for a few mos now about starting a thread about being disappointed with your parent(s) caue I'm really disappointed in my mom. With the topic of how she is raering my bro's a MAJOR issue for me.
I just feel it would be out of line for me as a daughter to say something to her about it...but I'm digressing on that subject....
Just remain prayful CG
baby42
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i had to give up two sons to the the lord one looks likes he wakeing up thank lord the other is in jail and i waiting for the lord on this one i know prayer works i have six and i know the lord hears from me all the time because the devil is a lier so keep praying for your brother god will turn him around god bless you
Country gal
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I believe my praying stopped him from getting seriously hurt in a recent car accident. He tore up another car but at least he is back home with my grandparents.
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