getting over someone

Yes and focus on yourself more. Works like a charm not unless you have stalker tendancies. lol Easier said then done but its effective.
 
No. But TBH I used to. I know now that you just have to find something to put all of your energy into. Exercise, religion, education, work, family and friends, etc.

That's essentially what a new relationship is. Replacing one thing with another.

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No....and this is coming from someone that used to think so.

You may not necessarily be ready to move on to someone else. You need time to purge and refresh yourself before comitting yourself to another. During that break time, you allow yourself to look into your previous relationship and see what things you yourself could have done differently.

Sometimes when you move on to another person too quickly you may find that you end up in the same situation that you just left. The last thing you want to do is bring baggage from an old relationship into a new one. For instance, the last person cheated on you so when you go into your new relationship too soon you never learn to trust that person and they did nothing to deserve the way you treat them.

Take some time to re-learn yourself by yourself. Focus on what makes YOU happy. Sometimes in a relationship we lose sight of that (especially if we just jump into the relationship).

...just my two cents. Hugs to you :bighug:
 
It depends. Nope, dating someone new is not necessary in order to get over an ex who mistreated you or just wasn't right for you. You can come to realize, on your own, that you are fine without him.

Now, if you dated a great guy, but it was bad timing or the end of the relationship was your fault, then it's more difficult to get over the guy. In cases like these, I can see how dating someone new can "ease" the pain/loss. However, I wouldn't encourage it.

Happiness should come from within.
 
qtslim83 said:
No....and this is coming from someone that used to think so.

You may not necessarily be ready to move on to someone else. You need time to purge and refresh yourself before comitting yourself to another. During that break time, you allow yourself to look into your previous relationship and see what things you yourself could have done differently.

Sometimes when you move on to another person too quickly you may find that you end up in the same situation that you just left. The last thing you want to do is bring baggage from an old relationship into a new one. For instance, the last person cheated on you so when you go into your new relationship too soon you never learn to trust that person and they did nothing to deserve the way you treat them.

Take some time to re-learn yourself by yourself. Focus on what makes YOU happy. Sometimes in a relationship we lose sight of that (especially if we just jump into the relationship).

...just my two cents. Hugs to you :bighug:
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This is very true, especially if the guy did not treat you well. OP, I don't know what kind of a situation you are in, but even if the guy treated you amazing, there are still some things to examine before entering a new relationship. I don't know if everyone can truly and completely be over someone before dating another person (e.g., the case where one's SO passes away), but it's not a good idea to into a relationship with the intent of getting over your ex.
 
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For me personally I cannot do it and would not recommend it. It is very important to self reflect and focus on yourself. Jumping into a new relationship is a temporary fix to bigger issues.
 
loolalooh said:
This is very true, especially if the guy did not treat you well. OP, I don't know what kind of a situation you are in, but even if the guy treated you amazing, there are still some things to examine before entering a new relationship. I don't know if everyone can truly and completely be over someone before dating another person (e.g., the case where one's SO passes away), but it's not a good idea to into a relationship with the intent of getting over your ex.
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It was not a good relationship. I wanted more and he wanted less. He was ungrateful and unappreciative. I had some issues with him and his ex. He thought I was being emotional. We have known each other for 4 years and dated for almost one year. People first suggestion when you stop a relationship with someone is to meet someone else. That suggestion annoys me.
 
kaynewme said:
Anymore tips?
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kaynewme:

For getting over someone, this usually works for me:

I write down all the bad qualities of the person on one sheet of paper and write down all my good qualities on another sheet of paper. (You'll be surprised how many things you discover about the person and yourself as you begin to write.) Whenever I start to miss the person, I read both lists and feel better. I go from reading the list several times a day to daily to weekly to not needing the lists anymore. It speeds up the "getting over someone" process for me. Hope this helps.
 
loolalooh said:
kaynewme:

For getting over someone, this usually works for me:

I write down all the bad qualities of the person on one sheet of paper and write down all my good qualities on another sheet of paper. (You'll be surprised how many things you discover about the person and yourself as you begin to write.) Whenever I start to miss the person, I read both lists and feel better. I go from reading the list several times a day to daily to weekly to not needing the lists anymore. It speeds up the "getting over someone" process for me. Hope this helps.
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That's a great tip! Thanks
 
qtslim83 said:
No....and this is coming from someone that used to think so.

You may not necessarily be ready to move on to someone else. You need time to purge and refresh yourself before comitting yourself to another. During that break time, you allow yourself to look into your previous relationship and see what things you yourself could have done differently.

Sometimes when you move on to another person too quickly you may find that you end up in the same situation that you just left. The last thing you want to do is bring baggage from an old relationship into a new one. For instance, the last person cheated on you so when you go into your new relationship too soon you never learn to trust that person and they did nothing to deserve the way you treat them.

Take some time to re-learn yourself by yourself. Focus on what makes YOU happy. Sometimes in a relationship we lose sight of that (especially if we just jump into the relationship).

...just my two cents. Hugs to you :bighug:
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completely agree with qtslim83. this is solid advice!

the only other thing i'd add is that you're more vulnerable right after a breakup. moving straight into a new relationship leaves you wide open to making decisions that you may later regret
 
No. I feel like you need to get over them so that you can be true to your next relationship. It just seems like if you really give yourself time to heal then you won't just jump into anything you can be stable in what you do.
 
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