Getting involved with a divorce man and time frame ?

[Maa Maa omo mti]

Ladies how soon after the divorce is appropiate to develope a relationship with a guy? Is there such thing as the rebound relationship after a divorce?

 

[winterinatl]

I guess it would have to depend on the circumstance. I wouldn't blackball a divorcee, but I'm not excited about them either. I always want to know why they broke up, and if there are children it would put a damper on things as well, or make me go realllllly slowly with him.

I don't think there's a set time frame. I think you should treat him like any other guy (don't accept anything but the best treatment) and consider how he became divorced in the first place. Did she break up with him (as if they ever admit it ) he may not be over her. At one time he loved her enough to actually marry her.

I'ma hush now; I'm really suspicious of divorced men, as you can see.

 

[sunshinelady]

At least a year after the actual divorce. That gives them a chance to refocus, to work out any lingering financial settlement, and child issues.

I speak from experience.

 

[alwayzalady22]

i'm in a similar situation now...this guy i used to talk to is going through a divorce (i talked to him before he got married), but we obviously had some issues and didn't get together...now he's back and wanting to restart some type of friendship with me...soooooooooooo confused!! should i let him back in?

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

i'm in a similar situation now...this guy i used to talk to is going through a divorce (i talked to him before he got married), but we obviously had some issues and didn't get together...now he's back and wanting to restart some type of friendship with me...soooooooooooo confused!! should i let him back in?

If it's true and you guys are sincere about establishing a relationship, then I would say go for it.

 

[p31woman]

i'm in a similar situation now...this guy i used to talk to is going through a divorce (i talked to him before he got married), but we obviously had some issues and didn't get together...now he's back and wanting to restart some type of friendship with me...soooooooooooo confused!! should i let him back in?

I say go for it. Just take your time and feel him out. Especially if you all have established feelings already. I'm gonna PM you in a sec.

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

I say go for it. Just take your time and feel him out. Especially if you all have established feelings already. I'm gonna PM you in a sec.

I'm awaiting that PM too if it's related to this topic

 

[chinadoll]

Bump...........

 

[ThickHair]

I dated a guy last summer who had been divorced for 13 years. He left her, raised his kids and swore up\dow, back\forth that he was over his ex wife. Sent her a fruit basket when she got married. Every chance he had though he talked about how wrong she did him, but he was over her. Didn't sound like it to me. 13 YEARS PEOPLE, and no matter what he said, I don't think he was really over her. So it is the mind set of the divorced one. He claimed and still claims he is\was in love with me. I don't want to hear about your ex wife. I do not talk about my exhusband at all.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

definitely depends on the man... and how long they were married... and how long they were involved before they married... stuff like that... i've dated guys that were newly separated (i wouldn't recommend it), fresh divorce papers, divorced for a couple of years, and divorced for many years.... they ALL had their problems... lol...

all that to say, IMO, it really depends on the kind of relationship he had with his wife, as to when he'd be really ready to entertain another relationship...

 

[chinadoll]

Why did they divorced their wives? Infidelity on her part? Differences? etc.

 

[Finesse]

I would be careful with anyone divorced. Esp. when they say, We are divorced but we are still friends, have kids together, etc. There are divorced people that still hook up for "maintenance"