I'm sorry you're feeling this way:Rose: I feel frustrated about my hair too from time to time. I think most people do in one form or another.
Regarding the dandruff, have you ever tried tea tree oil? If not, you may want to do a little research on it as a natural remedy for dandruff, DH actually had a mild problem with dandruff and used tea tree oil which helped quite a bit.
What kind of conditioner are you using? Do you do deep conditioning treatments at all?
Regarding growth, for me taking pictures really helps, I take pics and I put them away in my journal, then I go get myself a couple new hair toys and start practicing with different styles just to break things up a bit. I'm certain your hair is growing, it's just that watching for the growth only brings more frustration, believe me I know. When I started tucking mine away and forgetting about it - or at least
trying to forget about it, I noticed that before long I was actually making some progress, and the pictures were my proof
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This just works for me, perhaps something else might work better for you, just do something that lifts your spirits and forget about your hair for a while. Perhaps before you know it, you'll see things a little differently and you'll be ready to continue with your hair journey, which always has it's ups and downs, but it's the journey that's the fun part of it.