FROM NO-LYE TO LYE! HELPPPPP!!!!!

[azul11]

OK i have taken out my braids and it has been a couple of days now and i am worried about going in to get my touch up. one is because everytime i get braids and take them out it looks like my hair has not seen a relaxer ever. this is the part that has the no lye on it. it looks like how it looked when i was younger before i got a relaxer. it isnt that coily or curly it does have straightness to it but i am worried that a stylist will take one look at my hair and proceed to treat it like its virgin hair and try to relax the whole thing therefore jacking up the price. i'm bringing in my own relaxer (motions oil) but i worry that because my ends arent straight looking they may try to relax my whole head. i am more worried because i am going to mirror image to get my hair relaxed and although i have seen them do hair and they make sure not to overlap and they base i am worried because i have been going to my stylist for 12 years and i have decided to change and i am worried. i mean i hate that when i wet my hair it looks like how it looked before i got it relaxed which is one of the reasons i have decided to switch to a lye relaxer. i guess i just need reassurance. i am feeling like i am betraying my stylist but what am i supposed to do? she is close to retiring and i honestly think no lye has been the cause of my hair woes. its dry and when it gets wet it gets all puffy and looks like it is reverting and it doesnt hold on to shine. i guess i just need people to assure me i am doing the right thing. /images/graemlins/confused.gif God bless you all.

 

[auntybe]

I think you will be okay...Just tell the stylist that your hair was previously relaxed so they won't try to treat your hair as virgin hair. I know when I went from no lye to lye a few years a ago I used a pre-relaxer condintioner and that protected my previously relaxed hair. HTH

 

[Kitkat]

Azul, you will be fine. As Auntybe said, let them know that they're doing a touch up and not a virgin perm. The only way to truly get rid of the 'frizzy when wet' effect from the no lye hair is to gradually (or aggressively, depending on what suits you) trim away the no lye hair. They might try to recommend pulling the relaxer all the way through your hair to condition the no lye part. I've had this done to my hair. But the bottom line is that this will not straighten any hair underprocessed by the no lye relaxer. If you don't want them to do it, tell them a very nice 'no thank you', or decline more forcefully if necessary. Some hairdressers have a way of trying to make you consent to services that you don't want. Don't let them!! It's your hair and you have to pay for the services, not them. So don't let them do anything that you don't want them to do.

 

[azul11]

thanks everyone. tonight i will base my scalp with lord knows what lol and just say a prayer. i'm getting it done tomorrow: less crowds, less rushing, more attention. i think i was just nervous for the fact that i was switching to lye after years of using no lye and that i was going to a new stylist to do it and that i was using the conditioner first then the neutralizer shampoo second method. it all makes me a bit nervous but i have God on my side and i will just be vocal and tell them what i want and dont want and hope that i find a new spot to get my hair relaxed. God bless you all.

 

[Kitkat]

Sweetie, there is no reason to be nervous switching from no lye relaxers to lye based ones. Lye relaxers are much better for the hair and your hair will only benefit in the long run!

 

[LondonDiva]

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The only way to truly get rid of the 'frizzy when wet' effect from the no lye hair is to gradually (or aggressively, depending on what suits you) trim away the no lye hair. They might try to recommend pulling the relaxer all the way through your hair to condition the no lye part. I've had this done to my hair. But the bottom line is that this will not straighten any hair underprocessed by the no lye relaxer.

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KitKat, I'm not dismissing what you said, but I was under the impression that people who had no lye relaxers and made the switch to lye were recommended to have lye applied to the hair not for long but to "condition" the dry frizzy hair that has been relaxed with a no lye relaxer.

 

[Kitkat]

LondonDiva, a conditioning relaxer (which you described) definitely can be done to condition no lye hair. And you're right that, with the exception of new growth, the lye relaxer should be applied to the rest of the hair only for a short period of time - generally just before the hair is rinsed. The only point I was making is that a conditioning relaxer won't get the no lye hair straight, and the only way to get rid of the no lye hair is to gradually trim it.

Hope this clarifies my point! /images/graemlins/grin.gif

 

[LondonDiva]

Ah ha! /images/graemlins/laugh.gif Yes it does thanks for the explanation.