Friends with Unsaved Ex
- Thread starter LoveisYou
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As the other poster mentioned it's not about him being saved or not. It's about where you are in your life right now, and do you need that friendship in your life at this moment?
My longterm relationship ended earlier this year. While we didn't end on bad terms, and we stated that we would always be friends, at this point in my life maintaining a frienship with him would cause a greater set back in moving on then not. So I decided to cut all ties, until I am in a certain space in my life. And even when I get there I may choose not to even carry on a friendship with him.
That's not to say I would never speak to him again or I wouldn't be cordial should I run into him.
My longterm relationship ended earlier this year. While we didn't end on bad terms, and we stated that we would always be friends, at this point in my life maintaining a frienship with him would cause a greater set back in moving on then not. So I decided to cut all ties, until I am in a certain space in my life. And even when I get there I may choose not to even carry on a friendship with him.
That's not to say I would never speak to him again or I wouldn't be cordial should I run into him.
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aribell
formerly nicola.kirwan
What does "friendship" mean? I'm not suggesting anything physical necessarily, but basically what do you and he want out of this? Are either of you still romantically inclined toward one another? And how would this friendship manifest itself? (keeping in touch periodically, going out a lot together, talking a lot on the phone, etc)
BeautifulFlower
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I have remained friends with a good portion of exes. However, the ones I am cool with I've known 10+ years and we only got that way once I (I repeat, not we) was definitely over them. Once I decided it was over even after it was over, being platonic was effortless even if I knew they had feelings. It was there decision to be cool with me. However keep in mind, I rarely initiate contact. They always reach out to me but we're cool, no drama, no nothing.
Jesus had non-righteous friends so you shouldn't eliminate people in your life based on that criteria. Your life could be a potential testimony to them. You should eliminate people that you believe do not have your best interest in heart or that influence you to sin. You need to separate from these people, saved or not saved.
Jesus had non-righteous friends so you shouldn't eliminate people in your life based on that criteria. Your life could be a potential testimony to them. You should eliminate people that you believe do not have your best interest in heart or that influence you to sin. You need to separate from these people, saved or not saved.
