greight
Well-Known Member
This is me rambling so take it for what it's worth. I probably come out as a horrible friend, but oh well.
My friends have gone natural and the convos are so interesting, especially reflecting on how much grief they gave me about things that I talked about (with excitement). Like co-washing. My friend shut me down and told me that it was stupid and that shampoos clean hair, co-washing is not beneficial since your hair is dead. I argued (heatedly) that shampoos strip the hair, etc etc etc... This argument was so HUGE, you could not believe. A year or so later, she tells me that I was right and co-washing has helped her.
Another told me how she could never go natural and that her natural hair is uncontrollable (with a
erplexed at mine) and that she needs a relaxer. I went hard and told her, that relaxing is a choice but your hair is YOUR HAIR. She looked at me like I was nuts and said only certain girls could go natural and that was not her. Chick went natural one year later and acted as if she was with it all along.
And then another has gone natural, but she shot down all my hair suggestions only to parrot them months later! I'm telling her to avoid heat and she's telling me that she's training her hair. Okay, but please don't come at me when your hair starts falling off.
While I love my friends, just thinking about hair conversations gives me a headache. I used to want to talk to them about hair, but because they gave me the cold shoulder before, it's hard for me to get excited about it again. LHCF became my refuge because of this very reason and so I just have a blanket policy of not talking about hair in the real world. I do what I do, period. You do yours.
I'm no wise sage with hip length hair, of course. But I've been there, done that too many times that I kinda know what to expect when they mention things. I should be overjoyed that they are natural, but they, quite frankly, killed my joy while I've been natural.
Ever get to that point IRL? Where even "I told you so" doesn't make you feel better? Eventually, I think I'll come around and start being open again, but for now...
My friends have gone natural and the convos are so interesting, especially reflecting on how much grief they gave me about things that I talked about (with excitement). Like co-washing. My friend shut me down and told me that it was stupid and that shampoos clean hair, co-washing is not beneficial since your hair is dead. I argued (heatedly) that shampoos strip the hair, etc etc etc... This argument was so HUGE, you could not believe. A year or so later, she tells me that I was right and co-washing has helped her.
Another told me how she could never go natural and that her natural hair is uncontrollable (with a
erplexed at mine) and that she needs a relaxer. I went hard and told her, that relaxing is a choice but your hair is YOUR HAIR. She looked at me like I was nuts and said only certain girls could go natural and that was not her. Chick went natural one year later and acted as if she was with it all along.And then another has gone natural, but she shot down all my hair suggestions only to parrot them months later! I'm telling her to avoid heat and she's telling me that she's training her hair. Okay, but please don't come at me when your hair starts falling off.
While I love my friends, just thinking about hair conversations gives me a headache. I used to want to talk to them about hair, but because they gave me the cold shoulder before, it's hard for me to get excited about it again. LHCF became my refuge because of this very reason and so I just have a blanket policy of not talking about hair in the real world. I do what I do, period. You do yours.
I'm no wise sage with hip length hair, of course. But I've been there, done that too many times that I kinda know what to expect when they mention things. I should be overjoyed that they are natural, but they, quite frankly, killed my joy while I've been natural.
Ever get to that point IRL? Where even "I told you so" doesn't make you feel better? Eventually, I think I'll come around and start being open again, but for now...
. I never put down their hair or their choices, never. So it's hard for me to be chipper.
. Until then, mum's the word 
...today i told her i wish she just kept on getting perms...i shouldnt have said it but i hate the fact that she just abuses her hair, like wasnt the point og going natural to have HEALTHY hair... and then i tell her her hair is so dry and she's like "i like the dry look" im like you can still have a fro and keep it moisturized...thats why my hair is growing and hers isnt
