For those who are thinking about giving up...

[sweetcocoa]

Don't! This weekend I've been feeling like I haven't made as much progress as I would have liked. I saw all the long heads posted lately and it made me doubt myself. I felt bad because I decided to relax(like I didn't try hard enough)...the humidity was doing a number on my hair... My thyroid is acting up(I feel fat and I felt like it is drying out my hair)... I was tired of wearing my hair back in protective styles. I was tired of all the ladies in the office who had their hair styled and mine was back in it's usual ponytail or bun. I was tired of rollersets because I love the way I look when my hair is straight. I have never liked myself in curly hair(one of the reason's I decided to relax again). My hair is fine and when I roller set some of the body goes with it...the silkier my hair is the thinner(does that make sense?). It got even finer after I relaxed. I had decided to cut my hair back to above the shoulder and maintain that length. So today for the first time in 2 years I said the hell with it and blowdried my hair and then I flat ironed it with some of my pomade.
I couldn't believe how much my hair had grown despite cutting off over 10 inches since November 2001. I feel so much better now and it feels alot thicker than when I wet set. The sides of my hair never grew to lay below the front of my shoulders ever and they do now. I still may cut it to shoulder length...but I just wanted to say don't give up. All the protective styling, rinsing with distilled water and all the other stuff we do here does work. Some of us reach our goals quicker than others...or had long hair when they came here looking for advice....
I say this to say don't give up on your hair and the goals you set... take the setbacks for what they are...just another obstacle in the road. Find a way around it and keep going.

 

[brownrelaxedhair]

Thanks very much Sweetcocoa for posting this

 

[Supergirl]

I'm glad that you saw some "light" girl. You know you have great gorgeous hair.

Now, I am alittle upset with you for telling us about your beautiful blow-out without posting pictures...

 

[Rosalinde]

I think there are times when everyone feels like giving up, but then you start to think about all the hard work you have put into growing and maintaining hair length and health. My family think I have gone crazy because of the amount of time and energy I put into my hair. so it is great to have a board like this to support you when you feel like giving up.

Sweetcocoa you can lean on us when you feel like giving up, and we will support you, and remind you how great your hair looks. You have already achieve the goals of many on this board.

 

[Lindy]

Thank you for this post, SweetCocoa!! It was very inspirational!!

I think that sometimes we all feel like throwing in the towel; some days I feel like I'll never reach my goal. Hair growth is such a s-l-o-w process; I think it's bound to bring frustration at times!! Thanks for reminding us all not to give up!!!

 

[EgyptianSand16]

thanks SweetCocoa

 

[Nonie]

Sweetcocoa, that's very thoughtful of you to post a pick-me-up when you so needed one yourself not too long ago. Hope this success inspires you the next time you feel down aboutcha hair. Hope you'll always know we're here for you. (Don't know how I ever managed without this board.

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[prettygirl]

thanks girl like I say patience is a virtue

 

[Islandgirl]

thanks so much for this post sweetcocoa, i get discouraged alot.

 

[divanrare4m]

Thanks so much for the encouragement. I'm glad you found a little encouragement yourself. I haven't felt like giving up, as I haven't really had any set backs. Just thinking how long it's gonna take to reach my goal of waist-length from shoulder length.

 

[sweetcocoa]

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I'm glad that you saw some "light" girl. You know you have great gorgeous hair.

Now, I am alittle upset with you for telling us about your beautiful blow-out without posting pictures...

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Supergirl, my photographer(co-worker) is on vacation...I'll get him to take when and if I decide to cut...I'm still seriously thinking about cutting to shoulder length, cause I have some layers I really want to get rid off once and for all. What I think I'll do is a before and after pic.
Thanks. I'm glad this post is helping some ladies. I keep trying to remind myself that I go through every summer...but sometimes it doesn't help. At least like you said you can come here and talk about it without people looking at you like you are being silly.

 

[joyous]

Thanks Sweetcocoa for those words of encouragement because thats exactly how I had been feeling lately. Like you I blowdried my hair with an ionic dryer and flat ironed and I was also surprised at my growth. I felt a little better later on when a couple of people who hadn't seen my hair down in a while commmented about how it had grown.

 

[Peachtree]

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At least like you said you can come here and talk about it without people looking at you like you are being silly.

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THIS IS SOOOO TRUE

Sweets, your post was truly an inspiration.

Although I haven't encountered any set backs (THANK U JESUS), I truly appreciate the luv & kind words of wisdom....girl it makes we wanna "press on "even further towards my goal.

 

[DarkChild_2003]

Sweetcocoa, don't let that aggravating thyroid get you down girl, but i feel ya on that, my thyroid messes with me too at times (i.e depression, tired, etc) when i dont take my pills like i should, sometimes i just pain forget to take the darn thing everyday lol. But anyway dont give up girl!, keep the faith!



Much Luv!

 

[Tracy]

SweetC,

Your hair is beutiful and HUGE inspiration....

Please don't get too frustrated going forward. You've made immeasurable progress.

Keep GOING!

 

[dontspeakdefeat]

Thanks Sweetcocoa. You are truely an inspiration to a lot of us here. More than you will ever know. We all have setbacks sometimes and a post like this is just what we need to get us going again. Thank you so very much.

BTW, your hair is gorgeous!

 

[sweetcocoa]

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Thanks Sweetcocoa. You are truely an inspiration to a lot of us here. More than you will ever know. We all have setbacks sometimes and a post like this is just what we need to get us going again. Thank you so very much.

BTW, your hair is gorgeous!

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Thanks. I feel better about it today. I wrapped it over night and today it is looking so much better. I decided not to cut it back to shoulder length....(I'm so sometimey!...

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[aikaa71]

Thanks sweetcocoa for the kind words, they have come at a time when i need all the encouragement i can get cos im having a set back with all this shedding and breakage. I do not want to cut my hair , i have about 6 inches to get to top of bra strap.

 

[pebbles]

Thanks girl. Those words were right on time.

 

[JenJen2721]

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thanks so much for this post sweetcocoa, i get discouraged alot.

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Me too! Thanks for the words of encouragement, Sweetcocoa.

 

[nita4]

Thanks, I felt this way this past weekend.

 

[auntybe]

Thanks for posting SweetCocoa. It was just what I needed. I have been discouraged lately too. We just have to know that we can do this.


Auntybe

 

[Peachez2503]

This is very nice and thoughtful of you to post this!

I'm not going to ever give up!

 

[jada1111]

Sweetcocoa, those were really sweet and positive words of encouragement. Sometimes, it's all about patience and waiting for results.

I'm sorry about your thyroid problems girl and as much time as you spend in the gym, I'm quite sure you're NOT fat.

 

[sweetcocoa]

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Sweetcocoa, those were really sweet and positive words of encouragement. Sometimes, it's all about patience and waiting for results.

I'm sorry about your thyroid problems girl and as much time as you spend in the gym, I'm quite sure you're NOT fat.

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Thanks Jada...but that is why I am so frustrated...I feel like all that time spent exercising is being wasted...but as someone else pointed out to me...imagine if you weren't exercising at all.

 

[elliot]

Thank you for sharing. I agree, there have been some beautiful long heads of hair posted lately and it makes me wonder, "will I ever have hair that long". We just need to realize that it gonna take a little more time...Elliot