cocoberry10
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Okay ladies, I haven't started a thread in this forum for a while (relationships that is
).
Anyway, I wanted to get your opinion on dating someone who is in a different financial/social class than you and how that's worked out.
Here's my story![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
I was seeing this guy who grew up poor (I hope that doesn't sound bad
). I did not grow up poor. We are both educated, and moving into our career paths. However, the differences in how we grew up seem to be an "issue" for him, and I feel like he thinks it's an "issue" for me. Basically, he feels like he's not good enough for me, but I know it's not because of anything I said or did. I got that info from a mutual friend of ours. Our friend said that he has a sense of inadequacy about what kind of life he can provide for me (not long term, but right now) and our friend told me that he (the guy) knows I'm used to the best things. But it's funny, because I'm not really materialistic. I don't wear only designer clothes or bags. I consider myself very "normal." But it's little things that make the difference. For example, if my computer broke, or I needed a new car, it wouldn't be a problem for me to get a new one, whereas for him, he might really struggle in the same situation.
He's the first one in his family to go to college, and right now he doesn't have much, but I know that he is working to build a certain life for himself. Oh, and he's no lazy bum (I wouldn't date someone like that). He's really ambitious and talented, and I really, really like this guy (and it takes a lot for me to "fall" for someone). I think he believes I expect him to be my father, but I understand that he's not in the same position as my parents, so I definitely don't expect that. And I know he has ambition, so he will be there someday!
However, I think he feels like "why would she want to be with me, when she can be with the ballers?" But the truth is, I don't like some of those guys, I really like him. It doesn't bother me at all that he doesn't have much, b/c I know why. He's definitely the traditional male type, who would want to be able to provide for his family, etc. I see a lot of great qualities in him that I would want in someone I would spend the rest of my life with. Also, I know it's typical of men not to want to be with someone when they are struggling, so I understand.
Has anyone been in this situation? Please help me! How did it work out?
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
Anyway, I wanted to get your opinion on dating someone who is in a different financial/social class than you and how that's worked out.
Here's my story
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
I was seeing this guy who grew up poor (I hope that doesn't sound bad
He's the first one in his family to go to college, and right now he doesn't have much, but I know that he is working to build a certain life for himself. Oh, and he's no lazy bum (I wouldn't date someone like that). He's really ambitious and talented, and I really, really like this guy (and it takes a lot for me to "fall" for someone). I think he believes I expect him to be my father, but I understand that he's not in the same position as my parents, so I definitely don't expect that. And I know he has ambition, so he will be there someday!
However, I think he feels like "why would she want to be with me, when she can be with the ballers?" But the truth is, I don't like some of those guys, I really like him. It doesn't bother me at all that he doesn't have much, b/c I know why. He's definitely the traditional male type, who would want to be able to provide for his family, etc. I see a lot of great qualities in him that I would want in someone I would spend the rest of my life with. Also, I know it's typical of men not to want to be with someone when they are struggling, so I understand.
Has anyone been in this situation? Please help me! How did it work out?