Feeling depressed about my hair....

[CarLiTa]

I'm feeling a little depressed with the state of my hair right now. Today marked my 1year haircare anniversary and i'm not feeling too happy.

Yes i gained a lot of growth but what sucks is that there are some things that i've been slacking on since late November and I'm suffering the consequences
for example, I didn't do a protein treatment for MONTHS!!! and of course, that didn't keep my hair strands strong... i used the hairbrush a couple of times... there were days when I didn't use my satin scarf... and what sucks nowadays is that IT NEVER STAY ON!!! last night, i decided to just drape it on the pillow and that worked out fine.

I didn't take any iron supplement for a few months because the multi-vitamin that I had didn't have iron in it. I just realized that, and that could be another reason why my hair isn't too great right now.

Ugh... I didn't expect nor want 2006 to start out that way. I was confident in my Nexxus for the most part... then it had to be changed... why oh why!!!!

I think i'm going to give myself a trim and surprisingly, i'm DEPRESSED about it... because depending on how much i cut, i might be at the same length that I was at in November... a 4-month setback. My first since joining LHCF, so it's kinda hard on me. I have to reset my goal dates AGAIN!

You know what? i need to stop stalling and start doing something about it. I'm going to get that trim so that I don't worry so much about my ends.
Then I will do the baggie at night, to keep the ends protected until July.
I'm going to take my vitamins like a good girl should. I now have: 1 multivitamin, 2000 mcg of Biotin, 1 iron tablet, and i also have Lecitihin which i might not take that often b/c for me to take it, i'd have to swallow FIVE pills 1 lecithin (1200mg) + 4 tablets of 500mg of Vitamin C each.

I'm going to compare the old Nexxus shampoo and conditioner bottles with the new. I hope i can go back to using them because i'm not feeling the Giovanni shampoo at all. I might just make it my clarifying shampoo or something
Either that, or i just go over to Aubrey Organics b/c i'm lovin' the GPB conditioner A LOT. but i wonder what their shampoos are like...

I'm going to baby my hair like it's going out of style and hopefully it can really really thrive from now on

 

[zora]

That's right, mama. Concentrate on the positive. It's symbolic that you're renewing your commitment as spring approaches. I can't wait to see your progress.

 

[Blu217]

Aw, don't be so hard on yourself! It's a lot of work you're doing, and sometimes other things need to take priority for a while--sometimes we just need a break. It's our hair, girl, but it's Also. Just. Hair. You're growing well, which is key. Hair can be work sometimes, but I wouldn't waste time being depressed over what is.

You're not alone: I was casually growing my hair and went from nape to bra in about a year I guess; I wasn't doing anything special and didn't know about these boards. Then I tried to stretch a relaxer and broke off some hair thruout and especially in the back and while I could kick myself, I know it's just hair and my hair grows out easily. If I need to cut it to my collar and start over, that's cool. Live and learn.

Just do what you think is best and you'll reach your goals; you got time!

 

[Angelicus]

Don't be down! Be happy that you have hair! Good luck to you and I hope you reach your hair goals this year. If you want to talk, I'm a PM away!

 

[Candy_C]

Dont stress Carlita. get yourself come flaxseed oil (in the bottle) if its the texture your worried about.

If your not into that like anky said, count ur blessings, u have lovely hair, try not to beat yourself up, it'll grow back!! ( if u cut it a little that is )

 

[CarLiTa]

thank ladies you all are so sweet. thanx for the support.

I think i might start searching for moisturizing shampoos again or something.

 

[juicy555]

Don't be too hard on yourself, life happens. Gee I wish my hair was as long as yours.

 

[CandiceC]

Don't feel bad, Carlita. You have lovely hair! You won't be the only one that has had to reset their goal dates.
This was a good time to pause and reassess things.
Now get back to that haircare!

 

[Miss*Tress]

Carlita, I had shedding for months on end starting last August. I was getting so upset about it that I basically kept my hair in a bun for those 5 months, only taking it down to wash and roller set. Lo and behold in January, the shedding stopped and I had reached my goal of BSL which up until then seemed to be moving away. Try using 2-4 duckbill clips to keep your scarf on. That works really for me.

So keep on doing what you need to do, but remember hair grows while you're busy doing other things.

 

[SerenityBreeze]

Hey Girl,

Don't be so hard on yourself. You have made incredible progress.Your hair will bounce back in no time!

 

[CinnaMocha]

Don't feel so bad, at one point in time I am sure we have all slacked and suffered from that. Just get back into your routine and you should be fine.

 

[Sistaslick]

Awww it almost made me sad reading this! You are always so chipper and confident about your hair! Shoot! your album is one I head to when I'm feeling in the pits Please don't be so hard on yourself! I've found that setting goal dates and holding your hair to them can be a little counterproductive self esteem wise. Use them as a loose reference-- don't place all of your hopes on a certain dates Also, when you set your goals, give yourself some room for non-growth spurt periods, a month or two of sluggish growth, or an unexpected trim.

If you feel like your regimen needs to be revamped- go for it! We all reach a point where even the most rock solid regimen can use a little refreshing! A new conditioner here, a cute cut here, new oil or moisturizer there. (Or maybe thats just the PJ in me popping out again ) Yep, there will be hair lulls, but you have to roll with the punches. You just have to enjoy the ride girl! And take each day as it comes

 

[Suri]

Don't feel bad about your hair. For starters it's beautiful and it's at a great length. Just take your time, pace yourself and figure out what is going to work for you right now.

I understand where your are coming from I am stressing over relaxing it or not, it's not worth the stress, it's just hair, PM me if you have questions about vitamins or want to talk

~suri

 

[brownsugar9999]

Don't fret...you're making just entering another cycle ...you've made beautiful progress before, you'll do it again

 

[CarLiTa]

thank you ladies! you all are so sweet! and you're righ too, it will grow back. And I hold myself, not my hair, accountable for what has happened to it, so it's my responsibility to get it back on track.

I'm going to do what I used to at the beginning of my haircare journey. Wash twice a week, and rinse in between if i exercise, deep condition under the drier once a week *something i haven't done in months either* moisturize every night and every morning like i used to do. now that i'm writing this, i realized JUST HOW SLACK i've been! omg, it really doesn't surprise me that my hair is not in tip-top shape right now

I'm going to start rollersetting once a week, because I need to learn how to do it before I leave for college in August.

I'm going to retype and print out my regimen like i did back in the day so that i can remember what I need to do