OP, the idea of making a better, healthier kind of relaxer is great but please don't try to mix it up yourself (or have cousin Joe do it in your kitchen). Some chemicals should be handled in controlled environments by people with adequate training, and resources to manage possible risks involved in the process (think HAZMAT procedures and protective gear; Ventilation; Neutralizing agents; managing chemical burns to skin and airway etc, waste disposal and management). No a basic chemistry degree won't cut it, neither will some random lab.
Also note that by violating some of those risk management things or not being adequately eqipped to handle the risks I listed could get you in trouble with the authorities. Not just anything can be poured down the sink, and you can't be mixing up just whatever in your house especially when it's a hazardous chemical.
If you're going to do this, be smart about it. Do your homework, research, hire the right people, and get authorized.