thanks for all teh responses, everyone! just wanted to put in my two cents --> i use suave clarifying and i think it makes my hair soooooooooooooooooooooo freakin' soft?! amazing! then i follow up with Elasta's shampoo for relaxed hair, and my hair is no longer as soft...this is why the original question popped into my head...
i guess i'll continue doing that thouhg...thanks!