Don't mean to be combative but...Please people!!

[It~Can~Grow]

I have always answered every pm I have gotten. Now if a question has been posted in a thread that I didn't start, I may not go back to that thread so the question may not be answered. I remember when I first joined, people wouldn't answer my pm's and that made me a better member because I would never do anyone like that.

This is true, which is why I believe so many, many members are so kind and patient with EVERYONE. I guess in life there is always the exception and most likely there is a good reason for the exception.

 

[It~Can~Grow]

I mean, yes, you can't spend all your time on the various forums, and yes, if you were to answer every pm, question, post this would be a full time job, but dang...at least once a month take the time to update your fotiki and when someone asks a regimen question, you can simply say, "see my fotki" and leave it at that.

It would have been more reasonable had I said "at least update your fotiki regimen once or twice a year" and point folks there.

 

[janiebaby]

Considering I'm 'still' a newbie...I know I'm probably gonna get ripped a new for this one, so my tail is in the air waiting. But...

Why do I have to beg you for your regimen?


This has only happened once, and everyone, has been so WONDERFUL about responding to my silly questions, posts and threads, but...

When I asked for a regimen or help to get from here to there, and my question(sss) went unanswered, In the beginning I thought "well, maybe the person does not come to the site anymore since they reached their desired length", but then I checked the last time they were active and it was recent.

I mean, yes, you can't spend all your time on the various forums, and yes, if you were to answer every pm, question, post this would be a full time job, but dang...at least once a month take the time to update your fotiki and when someone asks a regimen question, you can simply say, "see my fotki" and leave it at that.

At least the person knows that you 'some what' care about another's success. If you were treated that way when you started you never would have reached your desired length.

I absolutely cannot wait until I'm at least mid back length so I can help someone along. I don't have a fotiki, right now, (because let's face it...who wants to see nuthin), but I am taking pictures and keeping my own journal on my hard drive, and once I hit my 1st qtr goal I will create a fotiki and upload this info.

I'm crossing my heart, that as the months, and years roll by...on my honor, I will update so that someone else does not have to waste their time asking me questions. I thought that was one of the purposes of the forum, cross sharing of information?

Maybe I have too much back fat, so they said, "no help for you"...I dunno?
Alright, that's enough of a whipping ...my but_ is red already. I said it only happened once

Ok, I can see getting lax with the fotki but in response to what someone said about locking up a regimen. I'm like, "Dude why even post a regimen if you don't want people to see it?

Or, you know what?

Keep the regimen on there, lock it up and don't label it regimen or anything to that effect. Sheesh, why post to a public site where the purpose is to share and exchange info?

Why post "Progress pics" if you don't want to tell people how you achieved it? Keep it to yourself know one would ever have anything to ask about. Problem solved.

What's the problem folks???

 

[*Frisky*]

I have always answered every pm I have gotten. Now if a question has been posted in a thread that I didn't start, I may not go back to that thread so the question may not be answered. I remember when I first joined, people wouldn't answer my pm's and that made me a better member because I would never do anyone like that.

Honestly I think some people just get burnt out...some have been members for years answering question after question and then new people join and want to ask the same questions that have been answered a zillion times, it gets tiring. Not to say that is the case for everybody but I think for alot of people. I emailed a VERY respected member some questions and she never responded. I was shocked at first but I was like oh well, she is a very busy person and I just chalked it up but again, I have never seen anybody withhold info on a product, regimens and pics, yes

 

[janiebaby]

This is true, which is why I believe so many, many members are so kind and patient with EVERYONE. I guess in life there is always the exception and most likely there is a good reason for the exception.

So true

But when things do happen, my initial reaction is

 

[dlewis]

Ok, I can see getting lax with the fotki but in response to what someone said about locking up a regimen. I'm like, "Dude why even post a regimen if you don't want people to see it?

Or, you know what?

Keep the regimen on there, lock it up and don't label it regimen or anything to that effect. Sheesh, why post to a public site where the purpose is to share and exchange info?

Why post "Progress pics" if you don't want to tell people how you achieved it? Keep it to yourself know one would ever have anything to ask about. Problem solved.

What's the problem folks???

Some people are takers. They come here for different reasons, to be messy and keep up confussion, to gain knowledge and not share their knowledge.

I remember I was doing my SIL's hair and she would not share what I was doing to her hair with her balding sister because she wanted to get her hair right first.erplexed

 

[janiebaby]

Some people are takers. They come here for different reasons, to be messy and keep up confussion, to gain knowledge and not share their knowledge.

I remember I was doing my SIL's hair and she would not share what I was doing to her hair with her balding sister because she wanted to get her hair right first.erplexed

That's true and I'm not perfect so I try to keep in mind the things that I don't like so that I don't repeat what happened.

 

[dlewis]

Honestly I think some people just get burnt out...some have been members for years answering question after question and then new people join and want to ask the same questions that have been answered a zillion times, it gets tiring. Not to say that is the case for everybody but I think for alot of people. I emailed a VERY respected member some questions and she never responded. I was shocked at first but I was like oh well, she is a very busy person and I just chalked it up but again, I have never seen anybody withhold info on a product, regimens and pics, yes

This has happened to me before to. But it would seem like if you've been here for years and still posting in the hair forum, you would be willing to answer questions. Most have their regimen posted somewhere and should be able to copy and paste. I think a very small percentage of women here are selfish.

 

[HoneyDew]

I think people take hair and everything else on here to seriously.

 

[dlewis]

I think people take hair and everything else on here to seriously.

I agree with that.

 

[janiebaby]

I think people take hair and everything else on here to seriously.

I agree but isn't that why we're here. I mean if someone saw the title Long Hair Care Forum I'm pretty sure people would think "Is having long hair that serious that these chicks have to start a community dedicated to it?"

 

[shunta]

I think people take hair and everything else on here to seriously.

So true, Honeydew.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I think people take hair and everything else on here to seriously.

For real.

I don't PM anyone for routines, products, passwords, nothing (well, sometimes non-hair related stuff). I do answer PMs, but all my info is in my siggy and various posts on the board. My hair is like an open book. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

 

[HoneyDew]

I agree but isn't that why we're here. I mean if someone saw the title Long Hair Care Forum I'm pretty sure people would think "Is having long hair that serious that these chicks have to start a community dedicated to it?"

There are all kinds of sub communities on the internet based on common interest of people. Ours is not so unusal compared to what's lurking on the web.

Yeah we are here for hair, but it still is not as serious as people make it at times. For the one person that does not share a regimen, for example, there are hundreds of others that will. It just is not that serious.

 

[*Frisky*]

There are all kinds of sub communities on the internet based on common interest of people. Ours is not no unusal compared to what's lurking on the web.

Yeah we are here for hair, but it still is not as serious as people make it at times. For the one person that does not share a regimen, for example, there are hundreds of others that will. It just is not that serious.

This is so true...NEXT!

 

[DSP]

Some people are takers. They come here for different reasons, to be messy and keep up confussion, to gain knowledge and not share their knowledge.

I remember I was doing my SIL's hair and she would not share what I was doing to her hair with her balding sister because she wanted to get her hair right first.erplexed

Wow. That's messed up.

If people want to be stingy with info, I don't have time for them. With all the solid info in the stickies and generous posters like dlewis, Sistaslick, gymfreak, Isis etc. I feel I have all the info I need for my haircare journey. Now if someone could please bottle up some patience and sell it to me I'll be straight.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I agree but isn't that why we're here. I mean if someone saw the title Long Hair Care Forum I'm pretty sure people would think "Is having long hair that serious that these chicks have to start a community dedicated to it?"

I take HoneyDew's comment to mean that there are more than enough recommendations, routines, pictures, etc. readily and openly available on the board, so no need to question or get annoyed at the small minority who doesn't want to (or is unable to) share.

 

[janiebaby]

There are all kinds of sub communities on the internet based on common interest of people. Ours is not no unusal compared to what's lurking on the web.

Yeah we are here for hair, but it still is not as serious as people make it at times. For the one person that does not share a regimen, for example, there are hundreds of others that will. It just is not that serious.

You're right it never is/was that serious. There's always going to be miscommunication but that doesn't stop it from being irritating. All we can do is learn from it and find other ways to miscommunicate (is this a word?) with each other.

 

[Miss*Tress]

There are all kinds of sub communities on the internet based on common interest of people. Ours is not so unusal compared to what's lurking on the web.

Yeah we are here for hair, but it still is not as serious as people make it at times. For the one person that does not share a regimen, for example, there are hundreds of others that will. It just is not that serious.

Absolutely!
We posted at the same time.

 

[Kurlee]

Should probably be posted in all of the forums....

When you take the time to post a thread title that is supposed to draw people in.....

Then you rave about what something did for you....

Can you please post the name of the product (not just oil, shampoo, or conditioner) and the brand and where you found it?

I mean really if you're gonna keep a secret then keep it don't try to have people sweating you on some "I know something you don't know stuff".

Example:

Thread title: "Fantastical hair growth formula"

OP: Wow! This product is so amazing my hair is the bestest it's ever been!

Replies: What's the name of the product? (man you know you knew someone was gonna ask)

OP: I dunno it's just some stuff I picked up (that I know the name of and ain't telling you because I know full well I'm buying it again)

Replies: I gotta get me some of that!

Or​

Thread title: Majestical hair potion!

OP: I loooooooooove this stuff. My hair feels so swell. Gotta run, I will be back to post later.

Replies: Wow, I can't wait til she gets back.

*tumble weeds rolls by in the breeze*

*jeapordy song plays in the background*

*12 hours later*

OP: Yeah yall this is some good stuff​

Please stop begging these people for info that they don't want to give up it's not that serious! I used to ask once and that's it but now when I see the cat and mouse game I hit the back button if I need info I'll get it from someone else later.

Somebody had to say it.

WOW! The bolded made me LOL and i'm in class. I knwo what u mean, OP. Why do i have to read 9837489742 pages before i get the basic info about what ur talking about. So annoying

 

[dlewis]

I think most would agree that people should be willing to help but also those who are being helped should be thankful.

I have typed out long long long pm's to newer members to never hear from them again until the next hair crisis. Maybe that's why some don't even bother answering pm's.

Most of the members (95%) here are very helpful and will work with you until you figure it out.

 

[It~Can~Grow]

I think most would agree that people should be willing to help but also those who are being helped should be thankful.

I have typed out long long long pm's to newer members to never hear from them again until the next hair crisis. Maybe that's why some don't even bother answering pm's.

Most of the members (95%) here are very helpful and will work with you until you figure it out.

This is one thing I hope to NEVER forget in life - to be thankful for what I receive from whatever source.

I am truly thankful for this board as a WHOLE. Aside from my hair length goal, it is truly a godsend that communities like this exist.

My moms hair starting thinning in her 40's and I thought that was what I had to look forward to and without any remedy. After, coming to this board (I don't go anywhere else because LHCF does answer all my questions) I realize the root cause of shedding/thinning can sometimes be attributed to poor hair care and not hereditary factors.

This priceless piece of advise was worth more to me than any of my nagging requests to grow my hair.

I took the advice that others have given "who cares if you have long hair if all you have are 10 long strands"

Thank you all for all you have done and shared with me to date.

 

[Miss*Tress]

I think most would agree that people should be willing to help but also those who are being helped should be thankful.

I have typed out long long long pm's to newer members to never hear from them again until the next hair crisis. Maybe that's why some don't even bother answering pm's.

Most of the members (95%) here are very helpful and will work with you until you figure it out.

That's important to remember. Some people just pick your brains then go along about their business.

 

[HoneyA]

There are all kinds of sub communities on the internet based on common interest of people. Ours is not so unusal compared to what's lurking on the web.

Yeah we are here for hair, but it still is not as serious as people make it at times. For the one person that does not share a regimen, for example, there are hundreds of others that will. It just is not that serious.

Very true HoneyDew. The regimens I have seen had to be posted in threads or in unlocked fotkis I visited. I am not PMing anybody for passwords or regimens. But that's just me. There is too much info on here for me to be PMing people for regimens and passwords anyway. And I'd have to be really interested to click on a link posted in a thread. Thankfully the three people here that I sent PMs to compliment their hair or for info on challenges responded and they are genuinely nice people from what I can see. I respond to all PMs I receive. People are different, that's all, it's nothing personal.

 

[HAIRapy]

JB- I have to agree with you and I think it's about time someone said something! I love when I do a search, comes back with an old thread that may have the answer, after reading thru 1/2 of the board the person doesn't give the name of the product or the "secret"- instead they tell those that posted back to PM for the "majestical hair potion". Well what good is that to me...3 months later?

By the way- its nice to see someone else from PHILLY!

Did someone say Philly?!??!! *standing up*

 

[LongHairDreams]

I see this happening all the time and its annoying. I also hit the back button. Its a waste of people's time.

 

[SparklingFlame]

That's important to remember. Some people just pick your brains then go along about their business.

I know I have had this happen NUMEROUS times and its hella annoying to type out a thesis for a person asking 50-11 questions and not even get a thank you in return.

 

[HoneyA]

I know I have had this happen NUMEROUS times and its hella annoying to type out a thesis for a person asking 50-11 questions and not even get a thank you in return.

True dat...

 

[ashiah]

I don't see it happen often but I do remeber when Blossom made us wait until page 18 to tell us something.

That was the first thing I thought of when reading this thread. She about drove everyone insane. I can't even remember what it was she eventually said.

 

[TwistNMx]

I think most would agree that people should be willing to help but also those who are being helped should be thankful.

I agree with dlewis about the people here.
Aren't we here to help each other out? That's the way it should be.
The problem with today's world is that many people are able but aren't willing.
Now...with that said...
I've been a member here for a long long time now.
There are people here who've been very helpful..some of the sweetest people inwhich I'm so totally grateful.
Listen though, there are people here who aren't very nice....figure that same rule of applies in life outside of LHCF (people)...ok.
I had this same problem with people when I was a newbie. Since, some of those people were banned from this board because they were simply problematic....downright dirty! So let's just say they went straight to jail and did not collect $$$ okay.
I deal with the "positive" people here...or at least I work on attracting only that. As in real life, I avoid toxic people. Me and my soul deserves better.
With this being said (while I'm on my soap box), there are some know it alls here when asked a question or advice they totally ignore you or if they do reply they are short and snippy. They come off like they really want to help others but when you ask them about a regimine or something they turn the other way. Not everyone though.
So...what I say is again there are some "awesome" people of whom I'm glad to communicate with.
People write me and I give them the best I can. I don't know entirely about some people inwhich I haven't communicated with, but when someone asks me something...my attitude is that we are all here to help each other. I have no time for games of insecurity. I don't hide what I've learned here. If we were all this way...no knowledge would be gained.
With that said, my advice is to move on if people are locking up their fotkis. Take the path of least resistance. If they don't want to help you...find someone who will. There are a lot of good people here too, so chin up.
I've been ignored also, but sometimes that's just the way it is.
And that's the "real" truth!!!
HTH
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