Laela
Sidestepping the "lynch mob"
A recent thread has compelled me to toss this out for discussion. Feel free to vote, and if you desire, to express your thoughts on this question.
Personally, I think walking in love and feeling like a doormat are polar to one another. No one has to be a Doormat to walk in Love. That's not what "turning the other cheek means" IMHO.
The Word of God admonishes us to not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12). To walk in love actually keeps others from dominating us so that we are free to love them. It protects our hearts and keeps us from being controlled by others -- feeling like a doormat. Think about it: If someone easily agitates me or gets me angry, they have some control over me or my emotions. IOW, they know how to push my buttons. I, in turn, would react negatively toward them or with spite in my heart - and that puts me at a disadvantage. I'll be at their mercy and even though I may "appear tough," (telling them a piece of my mind), they are the ones who are really in control.
When we allow how others treat us to get to us to the point of torment, we are subjecting ourselves to evil. God tells us to not allow this to happen. If someone disrespects me or continually treats me poorly yet I show them love and respect (iron sharpeneth iron), I won't feel like a doormat. Why? I'm not so easily offended because I am in control of my emotions, allowing them to be who they are while keeping myself from being overcome with evil (thinking bad thoughts towards them, resenting, hating). This is true freedom to me.
Further down in that same chapter of Romans, God says that "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men." IF IT BE POSSIBLE: This means it's not always possible to live at peace with others and the best remedy is to keep some distance, for the sake of peace. Does that mean I don't love them. NO! It means I've done all I can in the Natural to live in peace and the other person just won't meet me there. I leave the rest to God, as he says for me to do, and my heart is at peace.
It's fascinating to me, every time I read God's Word, what he really is saying to me.
Personally, I think walking in love and feeling like a doormat are polar to one another. No one has to be a Doormat to walk in Love. That's not what "turning the other cheek means" IMHO.
The Word of God admonishes us to not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (Romans 12). To walk in love actually keeps others from dominating us so that we are free to love them. It protects our hearts and keeps us from being controlled by others -- feeling like a doormat. Think about it: If someone easily agitates me or gets me angry, they have some control over me or my emotions. IOW, they know how to push my buttons. I, in turn, would react negatively toward them or with spite in my heart - and that puts me at a disadvantage. I'll be at their mercy and even though I may "appear tough," (telling them a piece of my mind), they are the ones who are really in control.
When we allow how others treat us to get to us to the point of torment, we are subjecting ourselves to evil. God tells us to not allow this to happen. If someone disrespects me or continually treats me poorly yet I show them love and respect (iron sharpeneth iron), I won't feel like a doormat. Why? I'm not so easily offended because I am in control of my emotions, allowing them to be who they are while keeping myself from being overcome with evil (thinking bad thoughts towards them, resenting, hating). This is true freedom to me.
Further down in that same chapter of Romans, God says that "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men." IF IT BE POSSIBLE: This means it's not always possible to live at peace with others and the best remedy is to keep some distance, for the sake of peace. Does that mean I don't love them. NO! It means I've done all I can in the Natural to live in peace and the other person just won't meet me there. I leave the rest to God, as he says for me to do, and my heart is at peace.
It's fascinating to me, every time I read God's Word, what he really is saying to me.