kbragg
Well-Known Member
Ok Ima use myself as an example and put myself out there.
Before I got saved I was a potty mouth. My mom was a potty mouth. I grew up my entire childhood hearing f-bombs and other profane word my entire life. I used to cuss so casually that I didn't even realize I was doing it.
After I got saved I became keenly aware of it and stopped cursing on a regular....
HOWEVER
Through out the years, maybe a couple times every month or two (and usually around my period
) I might find myself in a very heated argument with DH and reach a point of frustration and BAM some form of explicative makes it's way out of me and I immediately feel like "darn (but ironically the word that comes to mind is not darn lol) it, I did it again!"
I am extremely remorseful about it and I've prayed and prayed and prayed that God burn those words from my brain but time and time again when I find myself in extreme emotional distress, especially anger, the tongue just does it's thang
The other times it happens is when something unexpected happens like if I stub my toe on a wall or someone comes *this close* to hitting me on the road or if some guy jumps in front of me with my kids in the car and slams his breaks etc.
I have struggled with this a long time. Now my DH is the complete opposite. He cussed one time as a child and his dad gave him a look that put the fear of God in him and he never did it again even as a grown man
(It's so funny to me because his dad is such a calm quiet dude lol) So obviously he cannot relate to me in this.
Growing up in a black baptist church I had always learned and even still sort of have the belief that when you sin or make a mistake you have to come to the altar snotting and crying on Sunday to repent. However in my studies I've discovered that repentance is a heart change, a change of attitude and not neccessarily a physical activity. Meaning you turn away from the sin, you recognize it as sin, and no longer see it as aceptable and avoid putting yourself in situations that cultivate it.
Now I've also heard many pastors say that if you die with unrepentant sin that it will be held against you. Does this include believers, and what is unrepentant sin? Like if you stub your toes, cuss, and then seconds later die of a heart attack did you die with an unrepentant sin?
I know that God gives us grace but I don't know exactly how that works when you're saved. About 2 years ago we left a very legalistic church where everything from trimming your hair to wearing workout pants was a sin and no matter what you were always in danger of hell even if you were saved. VERY works based. The church we attend now is the total opposite. They emphasize freedom in Christ which I can honestly say I have not yet been able to fully embrace. I still feel like I have to 'do something' to earn God's acceptance even though I know logically there is nothing I could ever do that could come close and am accepted in Christ.
Anywho I'm trying to find my way right now between extreme legalism and secularism. A few Sunday's ago my pastor said that sanctification is a work of the Holy Spirit and Him alone and there is NOTHING we can do to "help him along" in changing us. He said "STOP TRYING TO BE GOOD!"and I about
He said that the Spirit cannot do His work in us when we are trying in our flesh in our own strength to do His job.
This is REALLY hard for me because I am soooooooooooooooooo used to doing everything in my own strength and the idea of just letting go and letting God is so scary for me and feels impossible to stomach. I'm supposed to be myself no matter how ugly it is, and just trust God to change me? HOW?
If you ladies know of some resources for me, books, CD's whatever please point me in that direction!
PS: I've gone completely off the topic of the original question, please don't be mad at me
Before I got saved I was a potty mouth. My mom was a potty mouth. I grew up my entire childhood hearing f-bombs and other profane word my entire life. I used to cuss so casually that I didn't even realize I was doing it. After I got saved I became keenly aware of it and stopped cursing on a regular....
HOWEVER
Through out the years, maybe a couple times every month or two (and usually around my period
) I might find myself in a very heated argument with DH and reach a point of frustration and BAM some form of explicative makes it's way out of me and I immediately feel like "darn (but ironically the word that comes to mind is not darn lol) it, I did it again!" I am extremely remorseful about it and I've prayed and prayed and prayed that God burn those words from my brain but time and time again when I find myself in extreme emotional distress, especially anger, the tongue just does it's thangThe other times it happens is when something unexpected happens like if I stub my toe on a wall or someone comes *this close* to hitting me on the road or if some guy jumps in front of me with my kids in the car and slams his breaks etc.
I have struggled with this a long time. Now my DH is the complete opposite. He cussed one time as a child and his dad gave him a look that put the fear of God in him and he never did it again even as a grown man
(It's so funny to me because his dad is such a calm quiet dude lol) So obviously he cannot relate to me in this.Growing up in a black baptist church I had always learned and even still sort of have the belief that when you sin or make a mistake you have to come to the altar snotting and crying on Sunday to repent. However in my studies I've discovered that repentance is a heart change, a change of attitude and not neccessarily a physical activity. Meaning you turn away from the sin, you recognize it as sin, and no longer see it as aceptable and avoid putting yourself in situations that cultivate it.
Now I've also heard many pastors say that if you die with unrepentant sin that it will be held against you. Does this include believers, and what is unrepentant sin? Like if you stub your toes, cuss, and then seconds later die of a heart attack did you die with an unrepentant sin?
I know that God gives us grace but I don't know exactly how that works when you're saved. About 2 years ago we left a very legalistic church where everything from trimming your hair to wearing workout pants was a sin and no matter what you were always in danger of hell even if you were saved. VERY works based. The church we attend now is the total opposite. They emphasize freedom in Christ which I can honestly say I have not yet been able to fully embrace. I still feel like I have to 'do something' to earn God's acceptance even though I know logically there is nothing I could ever do that could come close and am accepted in Christ.
Anywho I'm trying to find my way right now between extreme legalism and secularism. A few Sunday's ago my pastor said that sanctification is a work of the Holy Spirit and Him alone and there is NOTHING we can do to "help him along" in changing us. He said "STOP TRYING TO BE GOOD!"and I about
He said that the Spirit cannot do His work in us when we are trying in our flesh in our own strength to do His job.This is REALLY hard for me because I am soooooooooooooooooo used to doing everything in my own strength and the idea of just letting go and letting God is so scary for me and feels impossible to stomach. I'm supposed to be myself no matter how ugly it is, and just trust God to change me? HOW?
If you ladies know of some resources for me, books, CD's whatever please point me in that direction!
PS: I've gone completely off the topic of the original question, please don't be mad at me
