Does anyone experience lack of

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golden_goddess

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sensation when coloring? I've noticed that for the first couple of minutes it feels good, but then the good feeling goes away. I can feel touch/movement, even pain or discomfort, but no pleasure. It's like the pleasurable feelings disappear. Has anyone else experienced this or possibly know what could be causing it?
 
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golden_goddess said:
sensation when coloring? I've noticed that for the first couple of minutes it feels good, but then the good feeling goes away. I can feel touch/movement, even pain or discomfort, but no pleasure. It's like the pleasurable feelings disappear. Has anyone else experienced this or possibly know what could be causing it?
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No I've never heard of that. What is your mental like during?
 
golden_goddess said:
sensation when coloring? I've noticed that for the first couple of minutes it feels good, but then the good feeling goes away. I can feel touch/movement, even pain or discomfort, but no pleasure. It's like the pleasurable feelings disappear. Has anyone else experienced this or possibly know what could be causing it?
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maybe try some different positions. you maybe the type of woman who like outside stimulation (clitoris stimulation) vs. internal. so maybe position yourself so that you have clitoris stimulation as well??
 
It seems like wetness has caused you to feel less penis. LOL! I am not sure how to say that without sounding weird or funny. If you feel it in the first few minutes it seems the grip on your vagina is tighter. As minutes go by, you get looser. Try Kegels.
 
Yes, when I was on bc briefly. I could physically feel the movement of sex but it was lacking in sexual sensation. It was so odd. Even my SO at the time said things felt off lol. It was like I was in the motion of sex w/o the good feelings that come along with it. I came off the pill and things went back to normal.
 
It happens in all positions.

It also happens when he goes down on me. As well as when trying external stimulation, when he's inside.

I don't think extra wetness is a factor, because being on the pill reduced the amount of wetness.

I was on BC, but stopped taking them about 3 weeks ago.

Mentally I'm into it. I'm very attracted to my SO, but this has been an issue for a number of years (even with other partners). And it's occurring both internally and externally.
 
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It seems psychological. Did something occur (you don't have to say) like molestation, rape, disease, pregnancy, afraid of getting pregnant, et cetera that might have created this change? What concerns me is that it starts off good for you and then you lose sensation. Have you spoken to your gynecologist about this? Good luck.
 
I think you should probably see a doctor so that they can check your hormone profile. If that's normal, a sex therapist may be able to help you.
 
Spermicide products do this to me every time. Every. Single. Time.

Are you using non-oxynol-9 products (foam, film, gels) or spermicide condoms, OP?
 
I doubt if it's psychological, as nothing traumatic has ever happened to me.

It's not over masturbating because I haven't done that in several months.

It's not completely numb because I can feel movement, it's like the good feelings just disappear.
 
Is there a medication that you are on long term with this as a side effect? Have you tested to see if the same thing happens when you self pleasure? Are you unable to "peak" now?

The only time I have experienced this is when I let my mind wander.
 
golden_goddess said:
sensation when coloring? I've noticed that for the first couple of minutes it feels good, but then the good feeling goes away. I can feel touch/movement, even pain or discomfort, but no pleasure. It's like the pleasurable feelings disappear. Has anyone else experienced this or possibly know what could be causing it?
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I've thought about making a thread on this too. Happens to me too :ohwell:
 
Who tagged me? I have heard of this actually, just never experienced it. Loss of sensation or decreased sensation IF it's not caused by vaginal dryness are problems associated with changes in estrogen levels. If you're saying this has happened over the years or with other partners and it's not mental/medication, it's your hormone levels. Because also in women low levels of testosterone can affect vaginal sensation. You would need to talk to a gyno or specialist who can balance your hormone levels
 
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I just wanted to add that after you've checked with your doctor, don't discount a sex therapist. I know you're adamant that it's nothing mental - maybe the other psych majors here can co-sign - Humans aren't as self-aware or as rational as we think we are. A trained sex therapist could possibly weed out any cognitive/behavioural issues that you may not be aware of.

Not saying there's a mental problem. Just that even though there's no cognitive/behavioural issues that you can explicitly see, it doesn't mean they're not there - so it may be worth considering. First port of call, as I mentioned in my first post, should be a doctor and blood work though.
 
I was on BC, and when I first went off of it it was easier to climax from oral stim, but that only lasted for a few days. Stopping the pill has had no effect on the internal sensations.

It probably is a hormonal issue, so I'll try to schedule an appointment to find out what the issue is.
 
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Spermicide products do this to me every time. Every. Single. Time.

Are you using non-oxynol-9 products (foam, film, gels) or spermicide condoms, OP?
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^^OP, this could be it. I know from experience that condoms with spermicide cause loss of sensation in the moment for me.
 
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