Do you trust your family and/or friends to match you better than a dating app algorithm?

[Flourishnikov]

With proper instructions about what you are seeking physically, financially, value-wise, etc. of course.

Do you think they could identify a suitable man and make an introduction on your behalf? The goal would be for your family or friend to make the intro and then give you and the prospect space to explore the potential that may exist.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

I met FH on a dating app and we're getting married in April.

I love my family but I didn't trust them to make an introduction on my behalf. They tried anyway, or at least my mom did. Repeatedly. Starting with with my Cotillion escort even though he had a GF. Then she tried with the escort for the deb dancing behind me because he had a crush on me. I have stories for days. For the most part they were decent men, just not for me. Our priest called her out for setting me up with men that she'd like if she were my age. Men like my father, only problem is I'm a lot like him. She couldn't fathom it. As it turns out, FH is a lot like my mom.

Even with the proper information I don't think she could take her own biases out of the situation. I don't think my sisters could either because the way they see my preferences, isn't the way I see my preferences. Same with my friends, my oldest friend who's known me for 20+ years tried. Bless her heart.

 

[Everything Zen]

No

 

[Flourishnikov]

I met FH on a dating app and we're getting married in next April.

I love my family but I didn't trust them to make an introduction on my behalf. They tried anyway, or at least my mom did. Repeatedly. Starting with with my Cotillion escort even though he had a GF. Then she tried with the escort for the deb dancing behind me because he had a crush on me. I have stories for days. For the most part they were decent men, just not for me. Our priest called her out for setting me up with men that she'd like if she were my age. Men like my father, only problem is I'm a lot like him. She couldn't fathom it. As it turns out, FH is a lot like my mom.

Even with the proper information I don't think she could take her own biases out of the situation. I don't think my sisters could either because the way they see my preferences, isn't the way I see my preferences. Same with my friends, my oldest friend who's known me for 20+ years tried. Bless her heart.

Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!! Thanks for sharing your perspective. Biases are very real and although people may have the best of intentions, they show up when we least expect them.

 

[ScorpioBeauty09]

Congrats on your upcoming nuptials!! Thanks for sharing your perspective. Biases are very real and although people may have the best of intentions, they show up when we least expect them.

Thanks!

 

[OneShinyface]

I've never trusted family or friends in that regard. Sometimes I wondered if they really knew me at all the few times they tried. Ultimately, I met my DF through a dating app and our big day is set for November 2022.

 

[silverbuttons]

they would choose what they would like for me.

I could see it now, my mom bringing home the pastor of a church to Bible me down (although I have dated pastors… so maybe I’m making the same mistakes)

 

[yaya24]

No

 

[Kitamita]

I would trust my sisters...

 

[Plushottie]

Gosh no I would be w a bum

 

[Royalq]

Heck heck hecks naw. Women around me have a poor settling mentality towards emotions and love. NONE of them knows what its like when a man truly deeply loves you and cares for you. So alot of their men or men they are used to dont treat them well but they think its normal and “thats how men are”. They have bad taste, they try to correct their mistakes theough advice but if you dont know or dont admit where you went wrong how do you know where to go right?