It's okay to make mistakes on your journey to salvation...we all do that...it's when you stand up on the pullpit put on a robe and start preaching Playboy to the choir that I have a problem.
I think the reason we dont like this girl is the silly comments she makes about how terrible black hair is, negro naps, how she hates her hair... then she proceeds to tear it out while blowdrying and stating that black people have to do this to their hair for it to look good and this and that and such.
To add insult to injury, this girl is supposedly natural, but her hair looks so fried in the blowdrying video you would NEVER tell. It looks like cooked relaxed hair, like she hit that mess with a marcel and no heat protectant.
Not all black folks hate their hair like she does, and not all of us are ashamed of our hair texture like she seems to be. We don't all tear it out to style it, and we don't all cover it in grease for no apparent reason like she does... Only misinformed people do that nonsense. So now I do get why white folks assume we feel this way, because black folks out there do things like this. The folks watching her videos must think our hair is so terrible that we have to abuse it to behave.
I'm not against grease- I have the dax and the blue magic under the sink just like the next girl... but seriously... that much? On top of the grease she already had in her head? The Oil Sheen alone would have been fine. And the way she was talking about it... in that voice... I was about to go crazy.
I think the reason we dont like this girl is the silly comments she makes about how terrible black hair is, negro naps, how she hates her hair... then she proceeds to tear it out while blowdrying and stating that black people have to do this to their hair for it to look good and this and that and such.
To add insult to injury, this girl is supposedly natural, but her hair looks so fried in the blowdrying video you would NEVER tell. It looks like cooked relaxed hair, like she hit that mess with a marcel and no heat protectant.
Not all black folks hate their hair like she does, and not all of us are ashamed of our hair texture like she seems to be. We don't all tear it out to style it, and we don't all cover it in grease for no apparent reason like she does... Only misinformed people do that nonsense. So now I do get why white folks assume we feel this way, because black folks out there do things like this. The folks watching her videos must think our hair is so terrible that we have to abuse it to behave.
I'm not against grease- I have the dax and the blue magic under the sink just like the next girl... but seriously... that much? On top of the grease she already had in her head? The Oil Sheen alone would have been fine. And the way she was talking about it... in that voice... I was about to go crazy.
well thank you! LOLUmmm can ya'll stop leaving comments on that childs videos till AFTER I have posted that I've seen it
This is the second time I missed it
I wanna get my laugh on too
LOLWhy you startng mess? I didn't post any negative comments
I dont think it is our (LHCF's) BlackBarbie- she knows better. Her hair is very nice.
I am glad someone said something, because it will impact someone else that is searching for help. I thought grease was moisturizer and I greased my scalp every single night, and I blew dried the mess out of it and I thought I was right to do it. Her video (which I didn't see) confirms it and so I am glad she removed it so that someone, that is seeking truth, doesn't find it and continue to lose their hair and continue to believe that we as a people were not meant to have long beautiful hair and when it does happen, its only for certain people. When its actually achieveable for all. Now that I am growing my hair out. All of the sudden my mixed blood is appearing in the minds of cousins and aunts and so forth- I had short hair all my life - now its growing and I am working hard they discount all that and say its family roots. Shoot where was those roots when I was trying to grow it way back when? NutbucketsI think the reason we dont like this girl is the silly comments she makes about how terrible black hair is, negro naps, how she hates her hair... then she proceeds to tear it out while blowdrying and stating that black people have to do this to their hair for it to look good and this and that and such.
To add insult to injury, this girl is supposedly natural, but her hair looks so fried in the blowdrying video you would NEVER tell. It looks like cooked relaxed hair, like she hit that mess with a marcel and no heat protectant.
Not all black folks hate their hair like she does, and not all of us are ashamed of our hair texture like she seems to be. We don't all tear it out to style it, and we don't all cover it in grease for no apparent reason like she does... Only misinformed people do that nonsense. So now I do get why white folks assume we feel this way, because black folks out there do things like this. The folks watching her videos must think our hair is so terrible that we have to abuse it to behave.
I'm not against grease- I have the dax and the blue magic under the sink just like the next girl... but seriously... that much? On top of the grease she already had in her head? The Oil Sheen alone would have been fine. And the way she was talking about it... in that voice... I was about to go crazy.
And this time, she's teaching people how to wrap!!
I don't know if people remember her blowdrying video but enough LHCFers left comments that she took down the video - and it looks like she changed her name too.
Those teeth on that comb give me nightmares.
Click to watch the video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yb3YZ2p3X5U&feature=related
I caught the video....personally I didn't see anything wrong w/ it, her hair looked healthy. If it works, it works. If it would've been someone with MBL hair, people would've been hopping on the "wrapping with comb/brush/dax grease/oil sheen" bandwagon *shrugs*
I know. I didnt see it either, but alot of black people who dont know anything about hair use words like "nappy" and have self-hate for their hair without them even knowing.
And alot of them think that they know everything about hair, and that wrapping, greasing, and oilsheen is the way to go.---and i think everyone knows that if they werent that person themselves.
Theirs no need to laugh or talk about the girl, just inform her.
I also bet if like CandyC, Sistaslick or any other well respected member with pretty hair said that was their regimen everyone else would be jumping on it.
I caught the video....personally I didn't see anything wrong w/ it, her hair looked healthy. If it works, it works. If it would've been someone with MBL hair, people would've been hopping on the "wrapping with comb/brush/dax grease/oil sheen" bandwagon *shrugs*
I think you are insulting a lot of folks' intelligence with that statement. I don't care if everyone I took advice from got on their blog talking about using that blowdryer the way that girl did, I am no fool. I would take it as a joke, delete them from my favorites, or just move on. If it looks stupid (i.e. blowdrying with a comb attachment and no heat protectant on hair that is already clearly damaged) then I'm not going to try it. I usually research and think about things with common sense before I approach them, or at least ask around first. I'm not a robot, and I don't think everybody on this site is... There may be some girls who jump on every train that comes through here, but don't act like we all would.
nono:
I knew someone who say just what was on my mind. Thanks for all the ladies that share my sentiments for posting it. Y'all are bolder than me cuz I was going to say not a d@mn thing.
Looooooong before LHCF I knew black women with long hair and were doing everything wrong, according to us. Heck! Even I blow out my hair with a roundbrush. The Dominicans blow out hair with a plethora of round brushes and EXTREME high heat. The wonderous thing about hair is that it will always grow back. People have many different ways of achieving growth. Lately, I've noticed that my hair can thrive on petroleum (not much, tho). Hair is so mysterious and confusing, and mine always keeps me on my toes (hence the writing). We all bring something different to the table and thats what I love about hair/beauty forums. Someone always has a different approach to achieving the same look. Its just like Algebra--one kid does it this way, the other does it that. Both answer equal 7... go figure?!
I shouldn't say this, but I know a member who got better results with growth from her hairstylist than she EVER got on this board. She got so frustrated with all the bru-haha and did things her own way. Went to the best stylist every week and got to the length she wanted... a year after she joined LHCF and went AWOL. Thats just how hair is. Ficke.
As far as the self-hate comments.... no need for all of that. People are entitled to their opinions and its not nearly that serious. Like I said in the Dominican threads last year, everyone is entitled to be outraged and everyone is entitled to be apathetic. It's just hair. No need to get so riled up. I honestly don't care if everyone becomes enlightened about naps because I am so used to it. I've personally always envied natural hair, and one day I am going to take the plunge. For others, its just not a priority.
I'm not going to comment on whether I felt you all were wrong or right for scaring her off. But, I will say that I try to be as diplomatic and reasonable as possible when it comes to hair care and LHCF. I think I only attach the name of this board when a person makes a comment that begs to be addressed. For a lot of people, men included... long hair is NOT a priority... and thats okay.
But, do what cha'll do
HTH and happy holidays.
OH lord. That wasnt the point of my post. You/I have to remember to pick my words extra carefully on this site because your post will get picked apart and turn into someting else. I love this site and respect everyone on it, and i know that everyone is intelligent.
I do not put everyone all in one catergory, i know everyone is different, i know everyone follows their own regimen ect. ect.
I was just saying that if it was someone from this board with a regimen that seemed to be harmfull like blowdrying with a paddle brush weekly like a newbie with WL hair or an oldtime member, then people would respect it, and people would probally be intrigued and maybe try it out, since she's not, people are more likely to laugh and dismiss other ideas and the way people handle their hair, not even just about this incident. Everything doesnt work the same for everyone. People get results with all sort of things--not just baggying, low heat, and protective styles
Anyway, my point was to only say we should respect people, not laugh at how much oil sheen they spray and stuff like that and that they use grease. We should tell them there is no such thing as "negro naps" and the proper way to take care of hair because we were all their, or knew someobody who was their at some point
Look....It's not so much that she didn’t know what she was doing...it's that she had the nerve to share that info with other people as the truth. IMO if you're going around giving bad info, YOU NEED TO BE BASHED!!! If people had come at her all nice like "Oh sweetie pie that's not proper hair care..." she may have left the video on there, and another poor soul might've followed her tips, and jacked up their hair. However if she'd posted a thread on the board with her regimen, people wouldn’t have responded that way. We would've been more caring and given her advice...
And for that board to call us heartless....the proof is in the pudding. Everyday you see people giving their personal hair advice to the other members of this board out of the kindness of their hearts. This entire board is based upon kindness and love for one another....no one with a hateful agenda would ever give you heartfelt advice intended to help you and make you better so they need to STFUWTBS! and if you're a LHCF member and you feel that way, I ask you this, what has LHCF done for you?? Because it's done enough for my hair, health, acne, and self esteem for me to BASH this site and it's members.
Okay I'm done.