Do you keep pictures of your exes?

I don't have many pics of the ex, but I always wanted my pic back from him, which never happened. He had a box of his ex's I didn't want to be part of it. Now I am. It is kind of disconcerting.

I do have an album of a few pics that I didn't destroy. Only the electronic ones I deleted.
 
Yes, I keep all my pics. I'm a big picture person though. I like my life to be documented, whether good or bad, in pictures. Quite frankly, my pics tell a picture of a life well lived. :yep:
 
bluediamond0829 said:
Not hanging around in my house no...i think i may have one or two hidden and I tried to erase them from my computer......
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Why are you hiding them? You either did or did not delete them how do you TRY? Come on bluediamond spill it!!!!!
 
Yes I keep my photos. I have a family pic of my daughter, her dad and I on display. Always have and always will. My guy doesn't care and I don't care about his family pic.
 
I have a good amount. Tons on a hard drive. A few hard-copy that I now have tucked away somewhere, along with cars and stuff. They used to be easily accessible, but I decided that I wanted to make physical space for a new special someone to come into my life. But they are great life memories, so I do not feel compelled to throw them away.
Dunno what will happen once I get a new SO though.
 
What about other men that are NOT your daughters dad?
I think your situation is reasonable (or any situation with a child involved.) Anything else is not so black and white....
 
Yes, I keep all my pics. I keep them in a shoe box....actually a boot box and old photo albums. I dont have them on display. I dont advertise that I even have them....they are just there.

However, after marriage, when we get our own home together, that shoebox will stay in my mother's house :lol:
 
Yeah. My roomie from college made a scrapbook with a bunch of stuff in there and my ex is all over the book. I have half a mind to burn those photos but then there would almost nothing left in the book. He came over alllll the time.

I have a few from my last relationship still... And a few cute videos. I'm not ready to get rid of those just yet. He was a good boyfriend.
 
I did delete all the pictures on the inet and computer I believe. I still have pictures packed up away that I forgot about. They are stored away at my parents house with other things that I left.
 
We didn't take many pictures, but I didn't delete any or untag him on FB. Then again, none are super lovey dovey pictures either, so I guess it doesn't really matter. I've always wondered what people do with pictures, especially on FB, of them and their ex-SOs...

I know in the future, I'll probably keep digital/print photos on my personal computer regardless; in my mind, memories are memories, but I'd probably remove them from FB and any other public viewing portals since that would be insensitive to my new SO.
 
Fine 4s said:
What about other men that are NOT your daughters dad?
I think your situation is reasonable (or any situation with a child involved.) Anything else is not so black and white....
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Oh no I have most of my old pics from vacations and events etc with exes. I just don't display them outside of the photo albums irl and online.
I did let a few old albums go because I wanted to get rid of the memories family included but that was a stupid mistake that I regret horribly. :sad:
 
There's only one ex whose pictures I made it a point to burn.

Anyone else that I had pics of, they're in a shoebox in my closet.
 
I've thrown away and deleted pictures of most exes. Sometimes it was in a fit of rage, other times I just didn't care to have it.

I do have some pics (hardcopy and softcopy) of one ex just because he is so damn fine. That boy is sooooo hot, I had to keep the pics. He hasn't looked that good since we were together...he gained so much weight. eck. But I'll always have those pics. :grin: Most are of the both of us and just one or two of him alone and all pg rated.

I've had relationships since, the pics stayed. If I got married, I wouldn't go out of my way to delete them. If I was asked to, I would let it go.
 
Delete delete delete...I delete everythang...

Even gifts go...once I'm done, what's the point? I'm at the stage in life where I'm strong enough to let things go, after struggling so long to hold on.
 
I did, but it was never intentional. I eventually got rid of them all because when my SO pointed it out, I realized there were a bunch floating around the hard drive and he was like :nono: It wasn't hard to get rid of though because I honestly didn't care. There was only one ex who's pictures I kept intentionally and he's now my current. My ex (at the time current) didn't like that I had them, but he was right in not liking it because I wanted to keep all of those memories I shared alive.
 
I've only had one ex and I got rid of all pictures of him/us. He was a deceitful and crazy loser who damn near ruined my life. Why would I want pictures of someone like that lying around? :nono: Very unhealthy IMO. He was also extremely manipulative and left a lot of things at my (then) apartment. When I was moving in my now DH I found a lot of that crap and gladly threw it away. I've never had any other positive and healthy relationship with anyone other than DH so it may have been different if my ex was a good person. I don't understand why women hold on to pictures from exes unless things were good. But then again why would he be an ex if things were good? :ohwell:
 
My answers are in color.

1. Do you delete them from your computer? Or discard from the shoebox. Both

2. Do you store them on a flash drive far away from your current SO? Or keep in the shoebox. Neither as they are destroyed mwhahaha

3. Do you keep either on the computer or on the flash drive, sexy pics? Are they different from regular pics IYO? Any evidence that could be used against me is destroyed.

4. Are they couple pics or pics of your ex alone in them? Mostly alone, a couple of couples pics. Last relationship, oddly enough, 99.9% of our couples pics looked a HAM or they never developed properly (OMEN). We have one pic of us together from Xmas 2006, and his mom has it...still. Should have put a ring on it.

5. Is it even FAIR to ask your partner to erase traces of their past? Once you bounce, I have no allegiance. Yup, he sure did delete everything. Phone and laptop and desk drive and so did I. (I always look before I leap.) Fair is fair.

6. How would you know if it's about preserving memories vs. I'm still daydreaming of him/her? If he pops up in my mind, it's a flashback brought on by Ciroc. Out of sight, out of mind. Ragged wounds don't heal, clean wounds heal.

7. Does it matter when these pics were taken or who the ex is meaning just casual dates or the ex fiancée/fiancé or the seeeeeeeerious ex? Nope. Done is done. Pack light.

8. Is this a privacy matter or a respect issue or a measure of how serious your SO is about you? All three. What we have is over. What are you holding on to it for? I have respect for the next chick, and you should respect the next dude, and it wasn't so serious that we worked it out, so bye...

9. Would you feel the same if you were married? Marriage is a little more complicated...that's a legal contract with a business seal on it. Maybe a longer grieving period, but if he didn't want to stay, why should his crap?
 
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gabulldawg said:
I've only had one ex and I got rid of all pictures of him/us. He was a deceitful and crazy loser who damn near ruined my life. Why would I want pictures of someone like that lying around? :nono: Very unhealthy IMO. He was also extremely manipulative and left a lot of things at my (then) apartment. When I was moving in my now DH I found a lot of that crap and gladly threw it away. I've never had any other positive and healthy relationship with anyone other than DH so it may have been different if my ex was a good person. I don't understand why women hold on to pictures from exes unless things were good. But then again why would he be an ex if things were good? :ohwell:
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For me it's not a matter of "holding on" to them, they just happen to be in a box with pics I have a family members, friends, etc. I don't pull em out and look at them and reminisce or anything. They're just there. But I'm also friends with the majority of my exes.

But that one ex, I pretty much feel the way you feel about yours. I wanted NO reminders of that piece of s*** AT ALL.
 
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AfrikanRose said:
My answers are in color.

1. Do you delete them from your computer? Or discard from the shoebox. Both

2. Do you store them on a flash drive far away from your current SO? Or keep in the shoebox. Neither as they are destroyed mwhahaha

3. Do you keep either on the computer or on the flash drive, sexy pics? Are they different from regular pics IYO? Any evidence that could be used against me is destroyed.

4. Are they couple pics or pics of your ex alone in them? Mostly alone, a couple of couples pics. Last relationship, oddly enough, 99.9% of our couples pics looked a HAM or they never developed properly (OMEN). We have one pic of us together from Xmas 2006, and his mom has it...still. Should have put a ring on it.

5. Is it even FAIR to ask your partner to erase traces of their past? Once you bounce, I have no allegiance. Yup, he sure did delete everything. Phone and laptop and desk drive and so did I. (I always look before I leap.) Fair is fair.

6. How would you know if it's about preserving memories vs. I'm still daydreaming of him/her? If he pops up in my mind, it's a flashback brought on by Ciroc. Out of sight, out of mind. Ragged wounds don't heal, clean wounds heal.

7. Does it matter when these pics were taken or who the ex is meaning just casual dates or the ex fiancée/fiancé or the seeeeeeeerious ex? Nope. Done is done. Pack light.

8. Is this a privacy matter or a respect issue or a measure of how serious your SO is about you? All three. What we have is over. What are you holding on to it for? I have respect for the next chick, and you should respect the next dude, and it wasn't so serious that we worked it out, so bye...

9. Would you feel the same if you were married? Marriage is a little more complicated...that's a legal contract with a business seal on it. Maybe a longer grieving period, but if he didn't want to stay, why should his crap?
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Although I didn't urge it, thank you for answering all the questions! Some questions people haven't really touched on. However, in the last question it was mainly what if YOU are now married is it even MORE urgent that you destroy old pics? So if you're casually dating someone, maybe you would or wouldn't but now, if you're MARRIED, does that mean all pics gotsa GO!!!!
 
aside from my ex hubby/father of my 2 oldest.... yes I have photos of exes, but not on display... they're all in scrapbooks which are boxed /sealed in the garage. as well.. DH has pics of his exes which are also packed away. :shrugs: no issues here unless he says hes going to all of a sudden 'display' them :look: :nono:
 
Totally did not answer the questions, sorry. :lol:

For me, it probably wouldn't even be an issue because as I said, they're mixed in with pics of other people in my life, so more than likely, he wouldn't even know they existed.

I wouldn't ask him to get rid of pics if he had them, and I would take issue with him asking me to. It doesn't matter if they were serious, doesn't matter if we're married. I wouldn't assume him having them means anything else there was something in the way he talks about an ex that makes me think he's still longing for her.
 
1. Do you delete them from your computer? Or discard from the shoebox.
*I've only taken pictures with one ex. I deleted them because his face made me upset :lol:
2. Do you store them on a flash drive far away from your current SO? Or keep in the shoebox.
*NA
3. Do you keep either on the computer or on the flash drive, sexy pics? Are they different from regular pics IYO?
NA
4. Are they couple pics or pics of your ex alone in them?
NA
5. Is it even FAIR to ask your partner to erase traces of their past?
* I didn't ask DH to he insisted. It really bothered because I couldn't make fun of the pics anymore. He even had some videos :look:
6. How would you know if it's about preserving memories vs. I'm still daydreaming of him/her?
NA
7. Does it matter when these pics were taken or who the ex is meaning just casual dates or the ex fiancée/fiancé or the seeeeeeeerious ex?
*I don't care
8. Is this a privacy matter or a respect issue or a measure of how serious your SO is about you?
9. Would you feel the same if you were married?

Yes, I'm married.
 
Nope went on too many good trips, nice events and fun places to be deleting memories. They probably wanna burn my face outta the pictures since I did most of the torturing.
 
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