Do you enjoy dating?

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Glib Gurl

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I think that most folks dislike the whole dating process . . . but last week I met an Australian lady who was all "I *love* dating!" and went on and on about her adventures globetrotting and dating men all over the world. She was average looking and middle aged, but super-psyched about dating.

That was the first time that it occurred to me that this could actually be an enjoyable process.

What about you? Do you ENJOY dating? Or, if you're already partnered up, did you enjoy it when you were on the field?
 
I am enjoying the dating process right now:) I get to meet interesting people, figure out my likes/dislikes and my prerequisites. And i get a free meal!
 
I love dating. I have friends who don't and I feel for them but dont understand it. I love watching a friendship grow and the excitement that comes from being pursued. Who doesn't like fancy dinners,special outings, gifts ect? What's not to like?
 
I used to love, love, love, love, love dating. The chase, the getting dressed up, the way he looks at you and is nervous, the free meal --oh, how I love the free meal :look:--the anticipation of a blossoming relationship....But lately, I'm just like ugh, "I don't feel like getting dressed up just so you can look in my damn face while I choke this rich a** food down and listen to your conversation. And why do you keep calling me, fool!?" So, IDK. I guess I'm in a period of not liking dating :look:

I think it's because now that I'm older--not old, old, but firmly an adult, as opposed to a very young adult--men on average expect more commitment or excitement or physicality or whatever and offer less of themselves as a person because of what they have, and they are more dull in general. And you have to go through the ones that are like that to get through the ones that aren't. I enjoy good dates, but most of the time I'd rather be home in my sweatpants watching "Watch Would You Do?" and eating hummus. I think this means I'm getting older :( I swear that as a teen I never wanted to get married, I just wanted to date forever. Now, no. It takes a lot to get me on a date.
 
I like the attention, the conversation, the affection, the attraction, the building/growing, the outings, and did I say....the attention? ;)

But I also like the learning...I learn more about myself with each person I date.

There are things I don't like about dating but whenever those things come up I just stop dating that person...
 
Do_Si_Dos said:
I don't like dating at all. I hate the whole getting to know you process.
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Getting to know youuuuuuu getting to know all about youuuuuuuu getting to like youuuuuu getting to hope youuuuu like meeeeee...

Just felt like singing didn't know the words rang tru too....
 
I haven't really dated much. I think I would prefer to have a stable, long term partner over dates.The thing I enjoy about dating is that it helps me to figure out my own preferences.

I say, "Okay, he's not intellectually stimulating, and it's because XYZ." or "I'm not very attracted to him and it's because XYZ." or "I really like that he enjoys spending time with me and shows it." or "I like that he's protective of me."
 
It can be fun. It can also be a headache.

As I get older, I find what taints dating is what people have experienced in their prior relationships. More and more I found myself coming across men who were used to women doing evvvvvvverything for them right off the bat.

Its amazing to me how much you can pick up about a man's dating history in just listening to what he reveals about what he's experienced in the past.
 
Katherina said:
I haven't really dated much. I think I would prefer to have a stable, long term partner over dates.The thing I enjoy about dating is that it helps me to figure out my own preferences.

I say, "Okay, he's not intellectually stimulating, and it's because XYZ." or "I'm not very attracted to him and it's because XYZ." or "I really like that he enjoys spending time with me and shows it." or "I like that he's protective of me."
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Double yes to the bolded!!!
 
It was ok & could be exciting. I learned that I'm a fun date but it would suck if the guy had the personality of a sofa cushion.
 
I don't like it that much. Prior to reading your post, I would have said it seemed like the norm was that most people do enjoy it and that I'm just odd like that. :look:
 
I'm loving it right now! I've just started getting comfortable with dating people I don't have a prior connection to. (Friend of a friend, same school, etc...)
 
I despise dating and the "getting to know you" phase. I hate the awkwardness of trying to find out if there's chemistry or any potential deal breakers.:perplexed
 
Generally, no, at least not for the purposes of finding something serious. But I've found it to be fun when there is complete mutual understanding that this is just something fun, just socializing.
 
I used to when negros actually dated you. Even if it was a date from hell you at least got out the house, a free meal, and a story to tell. I cant get with the BS that constitutes as "dating" now.
 
Right now I am in process of loving the part when you go out with someone you know very well and you experience new things together. I love my SO and we still go out but I love the part of us making new memories.
 
I kind of hate dating. Of the little experience I've had, it hasn't been good. I went on my first official date at 23. I used to automatically want to go dutch because felt very guilty if the guy paid for me. I always felt like I owed them. So I would offer to pay for the next date. :Nono: boy did the cheapskates take advantage of me. Nobody taught me how to date and I still figuring things out on my own. Now at 26, I know better but I hate the fakeness that comes along with the initial stages of dating, most guys hide alot of crap about themselves so that they could trap you first, and they play so many games. Most people want to get intimate so fast, it makes it impossible for women like me who would like to have completely sexless dating and courtship. The older I get, the more baggage I run into and the faster men try to progress into physical things so they could trap before all the baggage/lies starts tumbling out. Ahhh...it's frustrating to think about it sometimes, because it seems like what I want is impossible!!!
 
Do_Si_Dos said:
I don't like dating at all. I hate the whole getting to know you process.
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YES!!!!!!


ScorpioBeauty09 said:
I despise dating and the "getting to know you" phase. I hate the awkwardness of trying to find out if there's chemistry or any potential deal breakers.:perplexed
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YESSS! I've only been on 2 dates so far, which were a total flop. I've spoken to several dudes on the phone which went nowhere. YES, YES, and YES to the bolded. If and when I get past a first date with someone I'm interested in, I don't look forward to figuring out if there's chemistry and better yet... looking out for all the red flags/dealbreakers. It's almost like sifting through trash.

nappystorm said:
I used to when negros actually dated you. Even if it was a date from hell you at least got out the house, a free meal, and a story to tell. I cant get with the BS that constitutes as "dating" now.
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YEP! Dudes complain about spending $40 on a meal, and if they do take you out a few times, some of them expect something in return. I also don't take pleasure in small talk, and the awkward pauses on the phone, the questions to ask... just ugggggh :ohwell:.

I will admit, I do like the small bit of practice I've gotten with speaking to these dudes. I find myself to be not as shy and more I don't give a **** :lol:.
 
Glib Gurl said:
I think that most folks dislike the whole dating process . . . but last week I met an Australian lady who was all "I *love* dating!" and went on and on about her adventures globetrotting and dating men all over the world. She was average looking and middle aged, but super-psyched about dating.

That was the first time that it occurred to me that this could actually be an enjoyable process.

What about you? Do you ENJOY dating? Or, if you're already partnered up, did you enjoy it when you were on the field?
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When I was single I LOVED dating - what's there not to love?
 
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