femmemuscle
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i was at our local grocery store. I just came off work. Now granted, at work, i wear oversized scrubs, a lab jacket, glasses, etc.
Before i go into the store, i take off the lab jacket and glasses because i really don't like being approached - "Are you a doctor? well i have this problem.." So, it's the low-key oversized scrubs that i shopped in.
I no longer wear weaves, and have my hair in two thin goddess braids with a small bun in the back. naturally, i am a 4b.
When i made it to the cash register, the 20 something bag boy, starts talking to the cashier - his male buddy.
"Hey, you know that watermelon in the back? that was the best watermelon i've ever tasted."
Me:
i tuned him out, thinking okay... the cashier gave me this "oh sh*(t" look as he tried to ignore the bag boy.
"I mean, really, i swear that watermelon was soo good." He had finished bagging my groceries, then broke down laughing. He was bent over the counter.
I grabbed my groceries and walked off.
I went out to my cell phone, and talked to my SO about it to cool off. My SO was in New Mexico. and told me:
"I am so surprised you didn't say anything. What's wrong with you? You get back in there and talk to the manager.."
Ladies, i've been working in a facility where we get walked over so much, plus being isolated from blacks where i live , i just seemed to have lost my "fight". You say something about racism around these rich folks, and everyone looks at you as if you're from another planet. There is no racism - only money...
Anyway, i walk back in and confront these two. In a very professional manner. the manager (hispanic) was eavesdropping. the bag boy apologized profusely. he stated: "I can understand why that made you uncomfortable, and i truly apologize."
Me: "I don't care about the topic - my question is this: what was so funny about it, to the point where you were laid out on the counter? To the point i had to get my own bag and walk away?"
Bag Boy: "I wasn't thinking, and i am really, really sorry." and he kept apologizing.
This kid's been bagging my groceries ever since the store opened (1 year ago) - i never would have guessed he would even "think" like this. It's CA. the manager backed him by showing me these watermelon rinds that they had all thrown away. the first bunch were bad. The second bunch was she claimed "the best they had all week."
She kept showing me the rinds and some other worker was standing there, plus the cashier, and they all agreed about how bad the first batch was, and this weeks batch was the best..
I was cool about the whole situation, gave him compliments on his past professionalism and left. But during the conversation, i let him and the manager know, i did find it odd - that the moment I walk up to the counter, he starts going on about the friggin' watermelon. I also told him, that maybe he should be a bit more careful about his actions. I personally believe he was being slick. But there is a old saying:
Never give malice all of the credit when stupidity is the culprit..
Was i being too sensitive? Because right after i did this simple natural hairstyle, i found out the other name for goddess braids, or french braids is slave braids..
erplexed
Before i go into the store, i take off the lab jacket and glasses because i really don't like being approached - "Are you a doctor? well i have this problem.." So, it's the low-key oversized scrubs that i shopped in.
I no longer wear weaves, and have my hair in two thin goddess braids with a small bun in the back. naturally, i am a 4b.
When i made it to the cash register, the 20 something bag boy, starts talking to the cashier - his male buddy.
"Hey, you know that watermelon in the back? that was the best watermelon i've ever tasted."
Me:
i tuned him out, thinking okay... the cashier gave me this "oh sh*(t" look as he tried to ignore the bag boy.
"I mean, really, i swear that watermelon was soo good." He had finished bagging my groceries, then broke down laughing. He was bent over the counter.
I grabbed my groceries and walked off.I went out to my cell phone, and talked to my SO about it to cool off. My SO was in New Mexico. and told me:
"I am so surprised you didn't say anything. What's wrong with you? You get back in there and talk to the manager.."
Ladies, i've been working in a facility where we get walked over so much, plus being isolated from blacks where i live , i just seemed to have lost my "fight". You say something about racism around these rich folks, and everyone looks at you as if you're from another planet. There is no racism - only money...
Anyway, i walk back in and confront these two. In a very professional manner. the manager (hispanic) was eavesdropping. the bag boy apologized profusely. he stated: "I can understand why that made you uncomfortable, and i truly apologize."
Me: "I don't care about the topic - my question is this: what was so funny about it, to the point where you were laid out on the counter? To the point i had to get my own bag and walk away?"
Bag Boy: "I wasn't thinking, and i am really, really sorry." and he kept apologizing.
This kid's been bagging my groceries ever since the store opened (1 year ago) - i never would have guessed he would even "think" like this. It's CA. the manager backed him by showing me these watermelon rinds that they had all thrown away. the first bunch were bad. The second bunch was she claimed "the best they had all week."
She kept showing me the rinds and some other worker was standing there, plus the cashier, and they all agreed about how bad the first batch was, and this weeks batch was the best..
I was cool about the whole situation, gave him compliments on his past professionalism and left. But during the conversation, i let him and the manager know, i did find it odd - that the moment I walk up to the counter, he starts going on about the friggin' watermelon. I also told him, that maybe he should be a bit more careful about his actions. I personally believe he was being slick. But there is a old saying:
Never give malice all of the credit when stupidity is the culprit..
Was i being too sensitive? Because right after i did this simple natural hairstyle, i found out the other name for goddess braids, or french braids is slave braids..
erplexed
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I'm guessing YT, or maybe hispanic but I don't believe you gave up bag boy's color. Anywho, whether colored or not I wouldn't have even given it a second thought. I hate watermelon. And I know that's besides the point but I don't really give anyone the satisfaction of hearing a desired response from me with stereotypes.
