DID YOU MARRY SOMEONE YOUR FAMILY DISAPPROVED OF?

Triniwegian

Triniwegian

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If so, how did it go? Did your family come to your wedding? Why did they not approve?

If not, did you regret not marrying them?
 
My dad does not know about my man yet. When he does he is going to hit the ceiling. I don't care. At the end of the day, I have to make my own way and keep those around that support and love me. It will hurt but those will be his (my father) issues to deal with.

My ex-husband's mother was not thrilled about us marrying but things got better as time went on.

My only advice is to live your life. Whether this applies to you or not. We all are adults and have to follow our way. :)
 
Lucie

I always appreciate your posts, they are so refershingly honest.

I hope more people will chime in with their experiences and maybe stories of others that they know.
I am sure many have been in such a situation.
 
Oh yes...the complete opposite of what they were hoping for:lol: He's asian and was raised in a muslim family and they are white southerners. They made dating difficult since I was 17 at the time, by making my brother go with us everywhere. I moved in with him right around my 18th birthday and married a month later at the courthouse. My mom packed everything I had leftover in their house up (even my baby toys lol) and left them on our doorstep one day after I moved. Crazy woman. I eventually told them three months later that we had married which they assumed anyways and basically said they didn't wanna hear about it. When they did come around a year or so later the environment was rather hostile. They threatened dh with violence if he ever stepped outta line, I don't know how many times. It mainly stemmed from my dad since he was in the navy and had been to "those places and knew their kind"-his words and much more. We've been married almost ten years now and they've definitely made a 180. He's treated like a family member, they paid for his masters even and call him their son but it was rough for a while! It was definitely worth it; he may have punctuality problems and is a little prissy:lol: but he tries to make sure I never want for anything, doesn't expect me to work and hasn't lost any interest after all this time.
 
Lucie I have been mini-stalking you around the forum for some time. I'm haitian.. My dating life is under wraps because .. well I'm haitian (haha, parents are super strict)

Triniwegian
This may not even be helpful but, I think sisters are more important than parents. Sorry if I add nothing to the thread:

There is this very hawt man that I am really keen on dating (we're still getting to know each other) but my sisters don't care for his profile. They think that he's bad news because of who he is (they don't think he'll be faithful) and they also think that he won't fit into our family (he's white from the middle of nowhere (but he's cultured!!))
 
My family approved the marriage, but after my mom's side put my poor DH (while we were dating) through the ringer. It was so embarrassing, and I had to tell him they were being protective of me...Eventually, I put them in their place because they got out of line sometimes...(my aunts and uncles) but my Mom and her mom (grandma) approved. Mom was nervous b/c he wasn't making 6-figures (she acts a little too UE sometimes) but he showed them he was a good man by being the bigger person. My dad's family wholeheartedly approved....

Everyone came to the wedding...we had a ball.
 
tuffCOOKiE said:
@Lucie I have been mini-stalking you around the forum for some time. I'm haitian.. My dating life is under wraps because .. well I'm haitian (haha, parents are super strict)

@Triniwegian
This may not even be helpful but, I think sisters are more important than parents. Sorry if I add nothing to the thread:

There is this very hawt man that I am really keen on dating (we're still getting to know each other) but my sisters don't care for his profile. They think that he's bad news because of who he is (they don't think he'll be faithful) and they also think that he won't fit into our family (he's white from the middle of nowhere (but he's cultured!!))
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tuffCOOKiE, Thank you!

I know how you feel girl. But for as long as you live with them you have to figure out a happy medium. :yep: Is living on your own something you can swing? If not, find activities to keep you out of the house. I know they will complain but at least you can be sane when you're out. :lol: When I was living with my dad, I only came home to sleep and shower. He HATED it but he also HATED the thought of me dating even more. When he asked where I was going, I'd say I was with friends. That wasn't a lie technically. I have to feel some sort of friendship to go out with a man. :look:

Triniwegian said:
@Lucie

I always appreciate your posts, they are so refershingly honest.

I hope more people will chime in with their experiences and maybe stories of others that they know.
I am sure many have been in such a situation.
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Triniwegian, thank you so much! :grin:
 
It seems like it ended well with the responders I wonder if anyone had to cut ties with their family.

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I know someone who did. She was 16, he was almost 30. She ran away from home to marry him. She did her own wedding (dresses, food, etc). Her parents came, dad walked her down the aisle and whispered, 'You know you don't have to do this right?'

They've been together almost 40 years.
 
I know of a situation where the couple ran away to get married. Her family didn't approve - interracial relationship. They stayed married for a while and had two kids. Her family didn't speak to her for a long time. When they divorced she moved back home with her family and everything went back to normal with that relationship.
 
msdr said:
I know someone who did. She was 16, he was almost 30. She ran away from home to marry him. She did her own wedding (dresses, food, etc). Her parents came, dad walked her down the aisle and whispered, 'You know you don't have to do this right?'

They've been together almost 40 years.
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Wow! I wonder the family feels about him now?
 
tuffCOOKiE said:
Lucie I have been mini-stalking you around the forum for some time. I'm haitian.. My dating life is under wraps because .. well I'm haitian (haha, parents are super strict)

Triniwegian
This may not even be helpful but, I think sisters are more important than parents. Sorry if I add nothing to the thread:

There is this very hawt man that I am really keen on dating (we're still getting to know each other) but my sisters don't care for his profile. They think that he's bad news because of who he is (they don't think he'll be faithful) and they also think that he won't fit into our family (he's white from the middle of nowhere (but he's cultured!!))
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Lol I know this alllll too well, and it used to be even worse for me because I'm also a pk to Haitian parents, talk about a total doozie, smh. Strict isn't even the word.

My dad met my ex by accident once and hated him. They never let me live that one down.
 
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