DKO
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Long story short....DH has ADD and was discovered through our son getting help for some behavior issues. DS has it as well.
Anyway, every now and again DH will get into what I call a "mantrum" temper tantrum and upset over something usually very trivial. He gets to yelling, over reacts to things and his responses are usually WAY OVER THE TOP. Example, I tell him I"m going to church but because he doesn't want to go he gets upset and says that I"m selfish, then says I can move out and we can divorce blah...blah...blah. My reaction is I"m going to church and he'll get over it - which he does. He blows up, causes an argument and then in about 30 mins he's over it and acts like nothing happened.
Here is my issue - this happened again today, but this time I wasn't in the mood or felt like dealing with all the ADD behaviors so I let loose on him
. Got very non-christian and cursed at him for waking up the kids by turning up the TV soooo loud to drown out what I was saying. So I called him a dumb a%$# and then proceeded to tell him he was a punk a*&^ bytch. I also told him to deal with his paperwork I was helping him with himself. Now I am going to give him the cold silent treatment for the next few days. He has to learn that he is going to have to control his outburst and anger and can just behave any way he wants to me. I'm no pushover so although I underrstand his ADD issue - I will only take so much. Despite his ADD issue, he at least is on point with the finances, and cares about the family. I just can't stand him when he gets in these fits.
I just hope I can last cuz other women in my situation get divorced and I don't want that at all. Though if it gets bad enough I may have to. But he doesn't get physically violent with me. I try to be understanding but I have to pick up the slack in the house due to his inability to finish/complete tasks. It takes him 110% of focus just to do his job & pay the bills so everything else is on me. I'm in church and pray and I may go get counseling to figure out how to keep myself sane dealing with his disorder.
Anyone else have a DH or SO that has a disorder or something that gets on your nerves (like gambling, drinking, porn problem, spending too much money, controlling, can't keep a job, plays video games all the time etc...). How do you cope?
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Here is my issue - this happened again today, but this time I wasn't in the mood or felt like dealing with all the ADD behaviors so I let loose on him
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I just hope I can last cuz other women in my situation get divorced and I don't want that at all. Though if it gets bad enough I may have to. But he doesn't get physically violent with me. I try to be understanding but I have to pick up the slack in the house due to his inability to finish/complete tasks. It takes him 110% of focus just to do his job & pay the bills so everything else is on me. I'm in church and pray and I may go get counseling to figure out how to keep myself sane dealing with his disorder.
Anyone else have a DH or SO that has a disorder or something that gets on your nerves (like gambling, drinking, porn problem, spending too much money, controlling, can't keep a job, plays video games all the time etc...). How do you cope?