MystiqueBabe
New Member
Hello ladies, I just joined today after lurking on this forum for years.
I need your help. I have been suffering from breakage and have just recently had yet ANOTHER set back due to breakage. Now I have dealt with breakage all my life and even after following the tips on this board my hair is still breaking.
erplexed It is getting frustrating to me and I feel like crying everytime I have a setback. The breakage was due to stretching my relaxer for 4 months. The back part of my hair just broke off eventually and I am sooo disappointed. i thought stretching was beneficial, as I always used to stretch my relaxers at least 3 months and never had an issue. The top section of my hair is always healthy and long while the back part is constantly dry and brittle. My hair in the front is shoulder length and my hair in the back is neck length.. I trim my hair every 2 months since I am recovering from some heat damage (used to flat iron once a week..ugh never again 
) After I recover from my heat damage I will trim my hair as needed. My hair has never been this short. I used to wear my hair in cornrows and had almost BSL hair. Then it had just broke off. My mom then took me to the salon (this was 2 years ago) My ONE section of my hair had broken off to shoulder length. It was in the back, I have always had problems with my hair breaking off like crazy in the back. The stylist relaxed my virgin hair and evened it up to shoulder length. Several months later that is when the back has started breaking off again and I am sad to say that my hair is STILL around the same length it was when the stylist had cut it.
I told my mom how frustrated I was with my hair and she said it just might be stunted or my terminal length is shoulder length. Which can't be true since I almost had BSL hair. She thinks as I got older my hair got "stunted". I want to prove her wrong and grow my hair back to BSL. But I don't seem to be retaining much length. I already know that my hair is not stunted since I get relaxer retouches, I think that this is a fact that most black miss and just say that there hair is not growing.
After this long 2 year ordeal I was fed up of having my hair in the sink and on my clothes instead of on my head. I researched until my eyes hurt about hair care, regimens, and products until I eventually landed on this forum. I made a list and went to my local beauty supply and picked up some products that have been recommeded here. I still want to try a couple and see how it goes. My hair has improved but I am not retaining much length...
My mom does my relaxers and she used to relax from root to tip. I told her to not do that and she has stopped. But the damage is done. She used to keep it in until it was tingling a bit then I would go wash it out. just to get it straight, my edges and nape are very coarse and she smooths out the relaxer on those parts to get it straight. luckily my ends and nape are still as strong and thick (always have been) I have thought about doing it myself. For reference I used no-lye relaxers (box kits) Thinking of changing it to lye relaxers and texlaxing my hair at least.
My hair regi is as follows:
Prepoo- Heat up some Olive Oil and Cream of Coconut
Shampoo- Creme of Nature Detangling Conditioning Shampoo
Clarify- Tresemme Deep Cleansing Shampoo
Co-Wash - Herbal Essences Hello Hydration or Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine
Deep Condition- Creme of Nature Moisture Extreme Conditioner
Protein- Aphogee 2 min Reconstructer. Organic Root Stimulator Hair Mayo, Eggs
Mositure - Elasta QP Olive Oil & Mango Butter Moisturizer, Shea Butter
Oils- Olive, Coconut Castor Oil
I shampoo once a week usually Monday. Co-Wash on Thursday with Hello Hydration or Garnier and Aphogee 2 min. I moisture with Elasta QP and seal with my castor oil or olive oil. I sometimes use my shea butter for moisture and seal with my oils. I deep condition with Creme of Nature or my Hair Mayo for protein. I occasionally add an egg. I rotate between moisture and protein every week. I detangle from my ends and work my way up. I always handle my hair gently. I sleep with a satin scarf every night. When I am not doing anything during the day I just wear the scarf around the house or after I get back home from school I wear it.
Just wanted to figure out, what could I be doing wrong? I am determined to get healthy, long hair but all these set backs make me want to just throw in the towel and just wear weaves for the rest of my life. I spend sooo much time on my hair and at times I think it is just all a waste of time and money. The funny thing is when I had my cornrows I would never moisturize(except greasing my scalp), sleep with a COTTON scarf, used a hot pressing comb everytime to get my cornrows redone, never even heard of conditioner - forget deep conditioning, and really just did not have a regimen. It baffles me sometimes, lol .
But I do enjoy pampering my hair.
I need your help. I have been suffering from breakage and have just recently had yet ANOTHER set back due to breakage. Now I have dealt with breakage all my life and even after following the tips on this board my hair is still breaking.
erplexed It is getting frustrating to me and I feel like crying everytime I have a setback. The breakage was due to stretching my relaxer for 4 months. The back part of my hair just broke off eventually and I am sooo disappointed. i thought stretching was beneficial, as I always used to stretch my relaxers at least 3 months and never had an issue. The top section of my hair is always healthy and long while the back part is constantly dry and brittle. My hair in the front is shoulder length and my hair in the back is neck length.. I trim my hair every 2 months since I am recovering from some heat damage (used to flat iron once a week..ugh never again ) After I recover from my heat damage I will trim my hair as needed. My hair has never been this short. I used to wear my hair in cornrows and had almost BSL hair. Then it had just broke off. My mom then took me to the salon (this was 2 years ago) My ONE section of my hair had broken off to shoulder length. It was in the back, I have always had problems with my hair breaking off like crazy in the back. The stylist relaxed my virgin hair and evened it up to shoulder length. Several months later that is when the back has started breaking off again and I am sad to say that my hair is STILL around the same length it was when the stylist had cut it.I told my mom how frustrated I was with my hair and she said it just might be stunted or my terminal length is shoulder length. Which can't be true since I almost had BSL hair. She thinks as I got older my hair got "stunted". I want to prove her wrong and grow my hair back to BSL. But I don't seem to be retaining much length. I already know that my hair is not stunted since I get relaxer retouches, I think that this is a fact that most black miss and just say that there hair is not growing.
After this long 2 year ordeal I was fed up of having my hair in the sink and on my clothes instead of on my head. I researched until my eyes hurt about hair care, regimens, and products until I eventually landed on this forum. I made a list and went to my local beauty supply and picked up some products that have been recommeded here. I still want to try a couple and see how it goes. My hair has improved but I am not retaining much length...
My mom does my relaxers and she used to relax from root to tip. I told her to not do that and she has stopped. But the damage is done. She used to keep it in until it was tingling a bit then I would go wash it out. just to get it straight, my edges and nape are very coarse and she smooths out the relaxer on those parts to get it straight. luckily my ends and nape are still as strong and thick (always have been) I have thought about doing it myself. For reference I used no-lye relaxers (box kits) Thinking of changing it to lye relaxers and texlaxing my hair at least.
My hair regi is as follows:
Prepoo- Heat up some Olive Oil and Cream of Coconut
Shampoo- Creme of Nature Detangling Conditioning Shampoo
Clarify- Tresemme Deep Cleansing Shampoo
Co-Wash - Herbal Essences Hello Hydration or Garnier Fructis Sleek & Shine
Deep Condition- Creme of Nature Moisture Extreme Conditioner
Protein- Aphogee 2 min Reconstructer. Organic Root Stimulator Hair Mayo, Eggs
Mositure - Elasta QP Olive Oil & Mango Butter Moisturizer, Shea Butter
Oils- Olive, Coconut Castor Oil
I shampoo once a week usually Monday. Co-Wash on Thursday with Hello Hydration or Garnier and Aphogee 2 min. I moisture with Elasta QP and seal with my castor oil or olive oil. I sometimes use my shea butter for moisture and seal with my oils. I deep condition with Creme of Nature or my Hair Mayo for protein. I occasionally add an egg. I rotate between moisture and protein every week. I detangle from my ends and work my way up. I always handle my hair gently. I sleep with a satin scarf every night. When I am not doing anything during the day I just wear the scarf around the house or after I get back home from school I wear it.
Just wanted to figure out, what could I be doing wrong? I am determined to get healthy, long hair but all these set backs make me want to just throw in the towel and just wear weaves for the rest of my life. I spend sooo much time on my hair and at times I think it is just all a waste of time and money. The funny thing is when I had my cornrows I would never moisturize(except greasing my scalp), sleep with a COTTON scarf, used a hot pressing comb everytime to get my cornrows redone, never even heard of conditioner - forget deep conditioning, and really just did not have a regimen. It baffles me sometimes, lol .
But I do enjoy pampering my hair.
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