Dealing with anger

[brg240]

I wasn't sure the appropriate forum to put this in. here/christian/ot

So I've never really had a problem with anger until a couple years ago. Well I've never really let my anger be displayed outward. But now I do and I want to stop.


My anger is really just frustration at myself but it's manifesting in anger/rudeness towards my parents. :/ I'm putting the blame on them for things that aren't their fault. Or I'll just get extremely upset over the stupidest things. I know I'm wrong but I continually do this For the record my parents are really too forgiving and one of the things that really bothers me is people disrespecting their parents. But still I continue.

I have no idea what to do

Anyone else have similar issues?

 

[firecracker]

You are going to have to find some coping techniques and stay really strong in prayer. Since it hasn't always been a habit and you are owning it I think with alot of consistent hardwork you can change this.

I went to court ordered anger management and counseling eons ago it helped alot. It can be a battle at times since I've had the issue from elementary. I have never did it to my parents but I've physically pucked many a folx up. It doesn't sound like you have violent tendency or let the hoodrat out syndrome like me so hell you can change this behavior!

Good luck and be proactive! Your parents don't deserve to be disrespected or your whooping board when your stressed. Sadly sometimes the folks we are closest too can get the brunt of our anger or stress. Check yoself befo you wreck yoself is what I try to tell myself. LOL

 

[brg240]

You are going to have to find some coping techniques and stay really strong in prayer. Since it hasn't always been a habit and you are owning it I think with alot of consistent hardwork you can change this.

I went to court ordered anger management and counseling eons ago it helped alot. It can be a battle at times since I've had the issue from elementary. I have never did it to my parents but I've physically pucked many a folx up. It doesn't sound like you have violent tendency or let the hoodrat out syndrome like me so hell you can change this behavior!

Good luck and be proactive! Your parents don't deserve to be disrespected or your whooping board when your stressed. Sadly sometimes the folks we are closest too can get the brunt of our anger or stress. Check yoself befo you wreck yoself is what I try to tell myself. LOL

I will definetly be praying more and reading my Bible. I am extremely bothered with my behavior. I never really understood how people in my life could be so angry (i was always the type to go in the other direction toward tears and sadness.) But I have this terrible frustration that makes me lash out.

I never lash out at other people. Though I don't have any strong ties to people outside of my family so I think that is a partial reason.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. They really don't deserve it.

I'm going to google some anger coping mechanisms and try to work on what bothers me about myself.

 

[PeaceFlow]

Maybe because you have never displayed anger outwardly (and possibly extreme dissatisfaction in general) you don't know how to direct and control it when it does happen.

IMO you should focus on this frustration you have towards yourself. Be kinder to yourself about whatever the issue is. Try and figure out how you can alleviate the frustration. I'd definitely start with the crux of the issue first and I think things will calm down enough to explore the way you express and direct anger.

I'm not sure if you had trouble expressing feelings before as well? Are you able to talk to your parents about worries and be vulnerable? I assume you have good parents. Try to keep your heart open and recognize when you get defensive. Nothing good is said to a loved one when your heart is closed off. Maybe check yourself when you are getting angry/rude and recognize the real reason. Then you may be able to see that they are not the problem and be more loving. Of course that will take a lot of self monitoring to stick.