dragongirlmk09
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i just started talking to this guy hes african and after talking to him he seems arrogrant to me should i give him a chance since we only just started talking or should i go with my instinct.
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ThatJerseyGirl
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go with your instincts and drop him. he's already acting like it's all about him and it's too early in the game for that.
you possibly can't be that hard up.
drop him.
you possibly can't be that hard up.
drop him.
dragongirlmk09
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Some african man are like that two I met were like that but I am not desperate
To find a man I will not be going out with him.
To find a man I will not be going out with him.
SHEANITPRO
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I don't mean to stereotype, but in all encounters I've had with african men...they've
been arrogant. Not sure if this a cultural thing or not but it was a major turn-off for me.
been arrogant. Not sure if this a cultural thing or not but it was a major turn-off for me.
Pat Mahurr
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I guess I'm in the minority on this one. I need to know what you mean by "arrogant" before I say yay or nay. And certainly, saying he's "African" (btw, wtheck?) doesn't give much to go on. What did he say that was arrogant?
If your instinct is that you two won't click, then go with your instinct, I guess.
But if your instinct is really based on a stereotype about Arrogant African men, then slow down and maybe give him a chance.
If your instinct is that you two won't click, then go with your instinct, I guess.
But if your instinct is really based on a stereotype about Arrogant African men, then slow down and maybe give him a chance.
Etherealsmile
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i guess i'm not understanding, what does his being African have to do with his arrogance?
erplexed
erplexedITA arrogrance knows no race, color or creed.i guess i'm not understanding, what does his being African have to do with his arrogance?
EmeRaldPrinXess
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EXACTLY!!i guess i'm not understanding, what does his being African have to do with his arrogance?
Totally! I have known arrogant AA men, arrrogant A men, Arrogant WM Arrogan Asian Men and Europeans etc...... Saying he's African and he's arrogant, wat does dat have to do with anything?
^^^^ TTA with the bolded above
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MayaB12
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I've dated every kind of black man out there - African, AA, Caribbean and as far as I can tell they are all arrogant...
I find it to be quite an attractive trait really - if the person has the goods to back it up. IMO arrogance and confidence are sometimes interchangeable.
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i concur--for me personally his arrogance wouldnt bother me since im quite arrogant myself...
but i say go with your instincts--if his personality is not ya cup of tea then next...
but i say go with your instincts--if his personality is not ya cup of tea then next...
VelvetRain
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My ex boyfriend of 3 years was African and very strong willed. Sometimes he could express an air of arrogance but I never outright concluded this was the case because of his nationality/background. Hell I did and said a lot of crazy stuff so I couldn't fault him for acting arrogant.
lavaflow99
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Ummmm, YES!! (And I am Nigerian American)
Then adding African was not necessary. She could have said, are corporate lawyer's arrogant, are garbage men arrogant. I think the "African" reference just rubbed a few of us the wrong way.
It is a racist as all black women are angry itches.
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Makenzie
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Yeah I get that most did not like the way she phrased it. I've read and re-read the op but I just don't see it. He's African and he's arrogant. I don't see the leap to all Africans are arrogant.
LovinLea
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There is this African guy I met Sunday, cute, but I'm giving the run-around all week (hopefully he'll take the hint) because he was too arrogant when we met....like "of course you want to go out with me". I say, trust it.ETA: Btw, my opinion of him isn't based on some Arrogant African stereotype, because I didn't know that one existed.
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Katherina
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Africa is a LARGE continent. So one cannot justifiably assert that African men are arrogant just because some men from a particular country are arrogant. The African men in my family are not arrogant. I have also met some African men who are very arrogant.
OP, you would have to be more descriptive than just saying he's African. You've essentially given us nothing on which to base our advice besides your personal opinion that he is arrogant.
If arrogance is a deal breaker for you, don't get with him. If it's only a minor irritation and he has potential otherwise, give it a shot.
OP, you would have to be more descriptive than just saying he's African. You've essentially given us nothing on which to base our advice besides your personal opinion that he is arrogant.
If arrogance is a deal breaker for you, don't get with him. If it's only a minor irritation and he has potential otherwise, give it a shot.
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